Why divorce rate is dramatically high in those advanced country, such as in U.S.A.?

Question

Supposing that couples love each other and they want to unite together, why there are so many couples in advanced ccountries tend to divorce before 10 year period of marriage life reach?

Answer 1

In marriages today the break down of communications play a huge role in the divorce statistics. Everyone is all about the ME ME ME---and never taking into consideration it's an US once they marry. Selfishness and non-compromise also play a big factor and that's where infedlities come into play as well.

It's like a spoiled child sitting in a shopping cart at the grocery store at the check out ...Screaming they want the candy that is right there on both sides of them. To shut this kid up mommy buys into the rantings and buys little johnny his candy. The child has learned very young to be selfish. The I want when I want and I want it now syndrome.

Marriages are no different that that little spoiled johnny sitting in a shopping cart. Husbands and wives do the same thing. I want that new car, I'll charge my credit cards up to the limit, I want this, and I want that never saving and paying for it out right.

Life lessons are a learned thing----and if the married couple has learned to compromise, forgive and to forget and really work on the marriage the marriage will survive. If not the marriage will be come a statistic with a dissolution to the marriage.

Answer 2

Well, my friend, thats a very interesting question. It's a question that has baffled sociologists and they have come up with very good conclusions.

I feel that in advanced countries, men and women, are more aware of their rights. Women do not want to be in an abusive marriage. But still, it is not right to divorce someone on flimsy grounds.

People are richer in advanced countries as compared to the rest. They can afford alimony. They have the resources (time, energy, money, social networks) to look for another love interest. We are saddled by credit card bills, looking for another job and a 1001 issues.

'Love' has different meanings in different cultures. People change. A love marriage may break anytime. There is no gaurantee. The foundation has to be the rock of Gibraltar.

Divorce proceedings are less cumbersome in advanced countries. In some countries, it is still a stigma to be divorced.

It's got everything to do with the rules of society, the religion or the way people have been brought up. Every belief system, has its own merits and demerits.
Divorces take place everywhere, not just in advanced countries.

Answer 3

There are to many variables and issues to discuss here. People advance, as in their jobs or careers, while one is a stay at home mom, the other is advancing, leaving the other behind. Another is education. One or both continue education after marriage and find their just not compatible, as they thought they were. New interests.
I think if people would wait, say until they were 35 even 40 years old. I know for women that want kids this would be top end but maybe a little earlier. What I'm saying is the to wait until you have your mind, your education, everything you want as to needs, a home, auto, career, etc, before the marriage name comes up. I know the divorce rate would be down then.

I've had two cousins that waited until they were into their thirties to marry. One said he should have waitied until he was older, they both had small famlies, two kids each. Three other friends never married, everytime they decided to marry, they put it off. They now remain single, into their fifties and seemingly happy.

Answer 4

Social Bindings are less in USA. Compared to countries in Middle East and like India, the marriage is a social binding, which actually starts from the parents and the families. Hence the marriages are stronger and long lasting. Choice is made or evaluated by elders and the decisions are matured.

In USA and other developed countries, young boys and girls fetch their own partners. Most of the so called Love is based on infactuation. There is no much of maturity in the wedlocks. I do not blame all the marriages.....

The biggest issue is the iso called ndependance. They literally go out of their parents and are not worried for the society. This gives raise to emotional out bursts and uncontrolled decisions between the couple.

Solution: Its only my feeling... that parents should guide their children in choosing their partners and also the newly wed couple should be kept under the watch. That will help to solve the issues whilst they are small.

Answer 5

Because most couples in the United States are raised with unrealistic expectations of marriage, along with the ease and affordability of divorce. Also, the stigma of divorce has significantly decreased over the last fifty to sixty years. Most persons who marry now are not aware of the fact that the euphoria of getting married doesn't last; marriage is very hard work. You are in a long-term relationship with someone else; this includes the need for communication, trust, honesty, compromise, intimacy, childrearing skills that personally align, and a day-to-day adjustment of expectations and open dialogue. Sadly, many people today are not taught these skills, and with a culture of divorce, many don't see the everyday dynamics of marriage in their childhood; meaning they don't know how to be married as adults. There is also a "me first" attitude in this country that can easily destroy a marriage; you can't have that attitude in a marriage and expect to make it work. I come from a family where my parents were married for over forty years before my father passed away. My father counseled couples for years, and there was a common thread to marital mishaps: miscommunication and disrespect. The inability to talk to each other--as well as not respecting the other person's personhood--can easily destroy a marriage. Many couples need to be taught that marriage is long-term, as well as a major emotional investment; usually we're not taught this, and pay for it later. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 6

I would love to say there is an answer to your question but I can only guess. I think it is the change in women that have made divorce so common. No longer are females willing to play the role of little woman with a sole purpose of taking care of there husbands needs. Women have their own dreams that they need to fulfill. She is no longer willing to be treated as a second class person in the marriage. Decision making is a two party arrangement. Women are not willing to be treated as a child with the husband as her guardian. Women are not willing to accept the role of a sexual conquest as opposed to active participant. Don't misunderstand me there are women who love to be th stay at home mom ( and that is perfectly alright). But that is a choice. Many men are a product of history where it i believed that the roles are clearly defined. My parents were the generation where those thoughts began to change. I can tell you defied roles are a vanishing breed. Equality in the marriage is now expected and deserved. I just think men and women have to catch up with the changing expectations in marriage. I have been married for 33 yeas and with the same beautiful woman for 36 years. Each day is a challenge with the greatest reward possible. A friend and lover that you can trust for life.

Answer 7

I think because people dont not think of marriage as a serious commitment these days, the first sign of any hurdle then they are out the door instead of trying to work it out. I also think it has a lot to do with womens rights, for example, if you look at a housewife in the fifties, her role was to say at home, look after the children, cook the meals and maintain the household, marriage vows were taken serious and adhered to, divorce was a big think, these days men and womes are equal, neither take marriage serious and divorce is not longer looked down on....thats what i think anyways having studied sociology

Answer 8

Because when people get married today they do not get married for the right reasons and they are usually seflish and only wanting to get married for what they can get out of their marriage and what their spouse can do or give to them in the marriage instead of wanting to give their everything to their marriage and and what they can do for their spouse and being the proper spouse they need to be in and for the marriage.... When problems or things happen they just want out to easily and they dont want to work on the marriage to try and save it. If we would get married for the right reasons and try and work on the marriage and try our hardest to be unselfish and to treat the other person the way we would want to be treated and if we gave all to our marriages and worked through things instead of running away over ever little thing and misunderstanding what a better world and marriages we would have.... There would be alot less divorce and seperations that way... Also since people dont have God as the head and center of their marriage the marriages tend to fall apart very quickly as well....

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Answer 9

Infidelity is the utmost rationalization for divorce contained in the US followed by technique of habit (drug, alcohol, gaming). Up till the 60s, couples had no decision yet to post with this crap because to be a divorcee (for a women human beings) become social lack of existence. women human beings are literally no longer prepared to stay with those circumstances. adult males divorce as a very last hotel or because (they trust) the grass is greener elsewhere. My guy turned right into a dad at 14, married his woman at 18, had extra youngsters. They truly grew aside and lived separate lives. imagine yet another 40 years of no pastime on your better 1/2? human beings stay, on widely used, to 80 in the present day, no longer 40 5. My wager is that the divorce cost is decrease contained in the cultures you aspect out because, clone of it become contained in the West, women human beings had no the position to bypass. they could be ostracized by technique of society and performance no technique of help.

Answer 10

cuz women werent raised to know how to treat a man like a man it seems and the men think that women can do everything including working and raising a family and being a sexual dynamo. women's and mens roles are screwed up because of the differing expectations on a whole. starting with the women's movement and wide spread contraceptive use.