i hates to think about this problem .... its so hard to deal with .......... its mmy mom
2007-01-26 22:17:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Are you?
2007-01-27 01:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by ramman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'm assuming that you know that you have homosexual feelings but refuse to deal with it and yeah it's hard at first to deal with but once you come out, you won't have to worry about it. You can't go through life without facing this issue because it's an important part of you. My mom asked me if I was gay at 14, I told her heck no I'm not gay but I did have a homosexual crush at the time. I was going through so much at the time with peers harassing and questioning me because they thought I was gay. I was depressed and I wanted the homosexual feeling to go away so I can live easier but they never did. All the time I think I was more scared that my family would not understand me and stop loving me, I distances myself from everybody and became suicidal, I came out at 23, I had gay and lesbian friends and didn't even come out to them either, I didn't like to discuss sex but when I came out everyone was like I already suspected that you were gay. I remember it was so hard for me to say I'm gay.
2007-01-26 22:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Probably one of the hardest things to do when you are gay is to tell your parents, but most of the time a mothers instinct is that you might be gay. That makes it easier to tell her that you are , but insist she doesn't tell dad that you will when the time is right, if there ever is a right time. If they love you and they do, it will be hard to accept at first, but they will. but no one else needs to know unless you really want to tell them, and most of your gay friends know and don't care because, you are who you are.
2007-01-27 02:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by jumpinjackdw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it can be hard, but tell your mom your not gay, i have the same problem, must people that i dont know think im gay, cause i have a sea of girls that are my friends and not many guy friends, so they asume it. but im not gay and have a g/f just dont care what ppl think, tell ppl your staright and talk to your mom
2007-01-26 22:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yo man same boat over here, my friends and i think this dude(our friend) is gay cause we caught him on a gay chat, and we know he goes on it so sometimes we go on to try and find him lol, like to confront him, cause we actualyl dont care if hes gay like im 100% fine with it or w.e but lol he wont admit it so we are trying to catch him, anyways my parents found the address of the site he goes and freaked thoguht i was gay ,then asgain i went on it i didnt even look it was for a second cause then i was like ahh screw it. and i didnt delete it cause i dont give a damn,cause im not gay, and they saw it and my mom tried to have a talk with me, and i flipped, lol and now she wont talk to me im pissed at her, both my parents think im gay and im not, it blows man
2007-01-28 16:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by jnIVEK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a tough one bud.....you might not be ready to deal with it...but one day you will have to.......
do you think it will be easier in a few years.....it might be....after she tires of asking when are marrying.....where are her grandchildren? those questions will never stop till you tell her!
you need to sit down, figure out where you are in life....if you have your schooling done and have a career....i would tell her...so she knows where your life is headed......if you have not completed schooling or gotten a career....you still night tell her....but i would start with friends, siblings, and cousins first, so you have backup support to explain to mom, after you tell her....she will see other family members supporting you....makes the transition easy
just remember when you tell her......think of how you would like to be told very unexpected or life changing news.....say a parents divorce.....you have to explain in a quiet setting, answer all question, do not force information (you have years for that)......let her vent or get her emotions out. (loss of grandchildren).....you have to be the adult in this....shows your maturity and your ability to handle life
you must say...."i love you and it very important to me that you stand by me.....cause your so important to my life" I know i disappointed you but this is my life and i have to live it honestly and with you knowing the truth....cause you always honest with those you love".............
good luck
2007-01-26 22:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jonathan L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't act like a girl, and find a temporary girlfriend
2007-01-26 22:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
are u gay why she think that way just don't take drugs who cares if your gay or not if u are tell her u are if not talk to her
2007-01-26 22:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by pistolpeter1969 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are or not, then it is your own business and you don't have to take what anyone else says about it, even your own parents, since it your own life.
2007-01-26 22:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lief Tanner 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what, my mother thinks everybody is gay.
2007-01-26 22:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mullet Head 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are there is nothing to be ashamed about,maybe she just wants to help and support you.
2007-01-26 22:20:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋