I am a virgin and my wedding nite is approaching in less then two months. The idea of me being a virgin highly appeals to my fiance :) but i have no clue how am i gona react on our first nite together. I absolutely love my fiance and he his totaly into me as well and loves me. He is currently overseas and will be coming almost 15 days before our marriage. As a matter of fact my fiance is not a virgin and i am not sure if i'l be able to please him or not. I am a very romantic person and there is no doubt about it but men being men are always experienced. So i am just kinda confused. I know some of you may think that i am being funny :) but guys going as a virgin on your wedding bed sure causes nerves to play.
2007-01-26 22:14:52 · 15 answers · asked by Beautiful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are rare breed. I respect you for your choices in life. You will be fine. You should not be worried if you can please your man...he should be the on concerned as to whether he can fulfill your expectations. You should be able to enjoy the experience making love for the first time. He is getting a rare flower from God's garden of beauty. I hope that he views you as a gift and not a conquest.
2007-01-26 22:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he knows you are a virgin you have nothing to worry about. I'm sure he will not mind showing you how to please him in the bedroom. I would search some sex sites to familiarize yourself with what to expect so you are not surprised with anything. Then just relax and enjoy yourself. A man will think he is the king of the castle, since he has more experience than you. It will actually be an honour for him to show you the art of love making. Therefore just be excited, happy and just ask if you need help. Try to relax and enjoy the feelings from his touch etc. I'm sure he won't mind playing the master till you get the hang of things.
2007-01-26 22:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by BrutalNerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nerves are normal and that's all it is. I won't tell you to relax because i know that's not realistic, but i will tell you that it may not be the romantic, beautiful evening that you anticipate but it will get better. The fact that you & your future husband are in love guarantees a fulfilling sex life for you both. Don't expect too much the first time.
2007-01-26 22:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mishell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for starters'great for you'.not many women save themselves for their wedding night anymore and because you did it will be all the more special for the both of you.i would not get to tensed up though as things will come together once that time comes and i am sure if he is a gentle and loving man he will go slow and make this a special night for the both of you.just enjoy and have no expections and then you will not be so tense.hope you'll have a wonderful life.
2007-01-26 22:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are easy to please.
don't be nervous, it will be a wonderful nite!
congrats on the wedding and for keeping ur virginity for the one u love
every couple needs time to work on what each other likes and dislikes-virgin or not-and over the years the sex will just get better as u learn about each other--let him please u and start things that first nite-u'll figure out what to do
2007-01-26 22:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by kewlchica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is WAY over rated my darling. But i commend you for holding on to your virginity. Your first time will be the worst - let me promise you that!! So don't play it up too much in your head. And it is NOT one sided - he has to please you as well! Do not forget that!! Every relationship takes work (in all area's) so don't pressure your self in to thinking you have to be the 'perfect' wife - there is no such thing.
Take your time, do what is comfortable for you, do it at your own pace and if he can't be patient and understanding you should not be marrying him!
2007-01-26 22:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Moz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully him knowing this will cause him to treat you with romance, like you're extra special, and it will be a good night for both of you. No need to be nervous about pleasing him, though, because it's usually the guy who isn't sure if he can please her (despite the way guys usually talk).
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. May you have many happy years together!
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2007-01-26 22:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by OldFogey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry day by day everything will be alright..,but you should not be too shy,..shyness causing problems.,and talk to him openly what he is expecting from a wife..., and you have to discuss with him anything yes anything cause he is the only person you could go till the end...all the best.
2007-01-26 22:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by 17and16hot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girlfriend is a virgin. i am not. i want to marry her. when we get married i just want her to be herself and we both start from scratch together in many aspects. that area wil be one of them. i love her so much that she could just lay there and not move and it would be the best i ever had - because emotional feelings during sex are better than anything else - unless ur some kind of freak and hopefully ur fiance is not.....
2007-01-26 22:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by Matt G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dn't feel nervous... i know its ur first time that u'll have sex and ur boyfriend[ur futur husband] is lucky to have a virgin wife.... i'm sure that u will be able to please him and he'll understand u very well..... congrats and good luck for ur marriage;-)
2007-01-26 23:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Krish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋