We fell in love when I was 22 and she was 17. Got married in a year's time. Now I am 27 and she is 22 and we have 2 kids 1 and 3 yrs. She has never gone for a job. I love her too much and do not want her to work. She has no reservations, but has never gone for a job.
Till date, we never suffered for money and we never had a separate account between us. We are very happy. Please advise.
2007-01-26 22:12:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what is the problem ?
if you want her to stay home and she wants to do the same, why do you think you have a problem ??
2007-01-26 22:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by luckylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two got together when she was still young. She probably is feeling like she has missed out on a lot in the world and wants to go exploring. Not necessarily break out of house and home, abandon you and the kids, but she needs something other than the house to take care of. It makes one feel complete to have done a satisfying job at the end of the day, especially when you have never experienced it before. Give her some room and let her take on a job. It doesn't have to be a full time one per say just something part time that will fit into your schedules well. It won't kill the kids to be in day care or with a sitter for a few hours. Kids need interaction with others (not just family) if they are going to grow and learn in today's society. Above all, be supportive of her decision. If you guilt trip her about the decision to join the work force, she won't care for it and will begin to resent you.
2007-01-26 22:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by pagudus6669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Well if you aren't having any money problems then I think she can stay at home. Besides your children are very young and I am sure that she would not want to work now.
If she ever feels like working, part time/full time/ freelancing/ home business, please do allow her.
A lot of couples have separate accounts, a lot don't. That's your call.
So can both of you decide if she remains a housewife? Yes, but she has a bigger voice in this. Circumstances change, you never know.
2007-01-26 22:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by priya_ray2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your wife are happy with your current situation in life, then let it be. If she wants to go to work after the children are grown, she can then. There is nothing wrong with a wife/mom staying home to care for the house and the children. She will always be available for the kids when they need her. Just as long as your wanting your wife to stay home is not a control thing and she is happy with the situation, then good for both of you.
2007-01-26 22:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why fix something that works!! From experience, it is better for your wife to stay home with the children. And believe it or not, when they are in their teen years, this is the time she really needs to be home.
I have raised four children, without staying home. My friends that remained home have had better success. I was a single mom and could not. Also, my friends that worked outside the home and was married have had the same problems I have had with discipline.
Good luck!!
2007-01-26 22:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like there is no problem so what exactly is your question? Are you asking is it ok to just be a housewife? OF COURSE IT IS! Think how much better it is for your children and yourself to have your wife as the one who can look after the kids and the household. It is a full-time job without having to work as well.
2007-01-26 22:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need no advice from anyone, you're doing just fine. Your wife has the most difficult and important job in the world. She's raising, caring for, and teaching your children. I wish more mothers were able to stay home and do that. It makes for a more secure and better adjusted children when they have a stay at home parent. You are truly blessed.
2007-01-26 23:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can support your wife and children on just your income this is great then she can be a house wife if that is what she wants and chooses to be... But to me if she wants to work like at a part time job this should be okay as well... Either way is fine:) As long as you both are happy then it is fine either way.... Talk to your wife and see how she feels about this.
2007-01-26 23:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the problem? If you are both ok with it and you have no finacal problem then you are fine....the kids are good and you are saving a fortune with daycare if you are worried your wife will never work maybe she should take some college courses at night to better her education so when the kids are in school she could became successful at a job.
2007-01-26 23:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so loving, if you are both happy with the situation then carry on, but in the future when the kids are at school your wife may want to work, she should have the choice, you should not force her to stay home.
2007-01-26 22:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, what's the problem, is this a statement or a question? you have no right to tell her what to do with her mind if she decides what she wants to do, if this is what your asking. If she decides to go to school say. Or, if she wants to go to work to get out of the house. This is something that you both have to discuss.
More then a few of my friends are well off but, they both work to get away from the house, meet people, advance their lives. It has nothing to do with money.
2007-01-26 22:54:37 · answer #11 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋