My wife is soooo attached with her family, i dont have any issues in that,?

Question

But she is tooooooooooo attached with her family, always thinking about them,,, how do i make her understand to start her own family,,, im tooooo tensed and its irritating,,, any suggesstions plzzzz

Answer 1

hmmm have a baby?

Answer 2

No, this is not the norm in any marriage, PERIOD, regardless of who it is. I just answered a question today, in this forum about discussing your business with an outsider, which was posted by hlnlange. Read the question and you'll see my response, because it's basically the same thing here. Anyhow, NO it's not safe to be discussing family business within your own family, especially, because you're putting them in a bind to be privy to certain types of information that some may keep from their spouse or else, you have a different scenario and that is, the same as yours-you have blabber mouths, who'll gossip your business New York Times edition style! You already see what's happening here, the sister can't even be trusted and she's bad-mouthing you? I don't know what right that gives them to speak ill of you, just because you're married to the sister, doesn't mean diddly squat. What the unmarried sister needs to do, is go get a life, and quit interfering in yours. She has too much time on her hands, if she has to do that. Now, your wife-there's no trust or respect here. Why does she feel the need to talk about the marital issues affecting your household, with her sister? The sister's not a licensed therapist, she can't dispense any advice nor is she bound by ethics. That's where a therapist comes in, she's licensed and bound by ethics to keep the sessions confidential between her and the patient. Does your wife have some unresolved issues, within herself? Well, if I don't know what kind of personality you're dealing with and this is a touchy subject. Your wife has a choice, either go seek the services of a therapist, in order to get the root causes of her behavior and make some changes, so the both of you can regain your respect, distance and boundaries regarding private information. Or if she continues down this path, then maybe she needs to be on her own. Only the both of you can make this decision. It's unfortunate that you're feeling betrayed and insecure, in your very own home. Well, you don't need that kind of stress and you also need to put your foot down, with the sister and tell her to go kick rocks. I don't know what your relationship is like with the in-laws, can they intervene? It would sound better coming from you. Your wife also needs to also keep quiet about certain things, do let her know and if she gets mad-so be it. But she has to learn somewhere. Good luck on this one. And if others bother you, regarding sensitive information that they gossiped about, tell them to mind their own business-you don't have to be rude, just make it short, sweet and to the point.

Answer 3

Just be honest with her and let her know how you feel and why... Is she open to having children with you and starting a family with you someday??? She has a right to think about them and that is a good thing but she has to cleave to you now that you are her husband and she does need to learn to build a house and home and family with you... This does not mean however that she should not love or never see her family... I wish you the best in this.

Answer 4

Just give it some time and, things will work out.
live with it, remember you took your wife and, am sure you knew about her family.
Make the best of it., It might work to your advantage, seek the best part of that family and go with it.
And think as your wife that came with a bit of extra parts..
So now you have to sit down and put them together.
As long as all member of her family, stay out of your house.
Start your family too.
But remember as soon as the baby arrives, the attention will be on the baby, and not you.
You will learn to live with that too.

Answer 5

Hi,

Don't get irritated. It happens. Having a kid is beneficial. If she wants to keep her family 's name alive (kids carry genes of our forefathers) she will agree. A child ensures eternity for the family name. You need to explain this to her.

Answer 6

Your wife is still a child. She needs her mama and papa. You, her hubby is not good enough to take care of her. She should not have gotten married.

Answer 7

Family is good.
You seem unattached, so you don't get it.
Buy into it, love her family and enjoy it.
Put up with the asshole brother-in-law.
Every family has one.
And start your own family.

Answer 8

Thats horrable i can't handle that crap, I know what you mean. I would move to another state yeeha

Answer 9

She was the same way BEFORE you married her, why didn't this bother you then?