Will what she doesn't know hurt her?

Question

My other half has been unwell over the last few months and what with subsequent hospital visits our love life has suffered. She is always sleeping or in too much pain to make love. She has been admitted to hospital again over the weekend and I'm thinking of heading to a club tonight that's well known for easy women. Is this wrong as my other half can't give me what I want just now?

LOL i guess that's me told

Answer 1

Blokes need to shag. Alot of problems in relationships begin because the wife allows her partner to become uninterested.

2 minute b10w job wouldnt hurt her! But seriously she will think you find her attractive right now.

Answer 2

put the boot on the other foot ... how would you feel if you were in hospital? The fact that you are asking this question makes me think that you know the answer and it is troubling your conscience. Yes, it is wrong - it braks the trust in your marriage and also exposes you to all kinds of other problems (infection, unwanted pregnancy, temptation of another relationship).
You do have sexual needs but I think a blue movie and a little self-pleasure would do the trick and relieve the immediate frustration. Cheaper than a whore and easier to deal with.
I sympathise with the problem and it must be difficult. Why not tell your wife that you are doing this .... she may be wondering herself how your sexual needs are being catered for and be worried. If you tell her you are having a 'tug' then she may be quite relieved ... that's much easier to deal with than thinking that your husband is seeking other women.
Good luck. Please do the right thing, you don't need to jeopardise the trust of your marriage for something that could easily be satisfied by a dirty movie and a night in alone.

Answer 3

It is a difficult time for you, and dispite all the rants you've had about your morality, I suspect you probably have alot of courage. It is extreemly painful to see a loved one suffer- seeking solace in the arms of another woman is not the answer- although, when you are emotionally drained and spiritually battered, I can understand how your mind may play tricks on you. Be the strong person you know you are. Ignore the bigotted diatribe that has been dished up from people who clearly have no idea how lonely caring for a sick person can be. Stay strong. Best wishes. I hope your wife gets better soon. XX

Answer 4

I feel it is wrong. When you love someone and that person is hurting how can you be so cold. Would she do that to you? Even so, two wrongs would not make a right. Morally, our society has become bankrupt. We live for self gratification, with very little regard for our so called loved ones feelings and well being.

Love is deeper than just the physical pleasure of being with that person. If it is not then you need to think the whole relationship over. This is the reason relationships do not last.
People are getting into relationships for physical purposes and not giving it time to grow into something meaningful. When it does become more than physical you consider more than the sexual part. A relationship should be deeper than just the physical aspect.

Answer 5

My heart goes out to you in this difficult time; however, this is NOT the time for a one-night stand. I understand that you are under a great deal of stress, but ask yourself this one question: if the situation was reversed, would you want her to find another man and have sex with him? If your reaction was to get angry and offended, think of how she would feel. The fact that she is unwell (coupled with the possibility that she could find out and be devastated by the news) could spell the end of your relationship. Infidelity, especially when the other partner is ill or incapacitated, can be seen as incredibly selfish and hard hearted. Though she may get better, if you get an STD, possibly even bring home the AIDS virus, a night's fun was truly worth it? I think not. Talk to your clergyman, counselor or psychologist; this is the time for emotional support, not easy sex that you may regret later. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 6

Reading your other questions, I'm not sure if you're putting us on. I hope not because I'm going to take the time to answer seriously. But anyway, if she is sick, maybe you are lonely and depressed about it - but I don't think banging another woman while your wife is sick in the hospital is such a great idea. If your wife is that ill, she probably needs your love and support right now. Reach out to friends, family, maybe get some counseling. Why do you need someone else to fulfill your sexual needs, take matters into your own hands. If my husband was seriously ill and hospitalized, obsessing over how to get my next orgasm would be the least of my worries.

Answer 7

Good grief.
you know this is wrong - i am sure you were hoping all the lads would slap you up the back and say go on big man - sleep with them all. Looks like most people here have some decent morals!!

Personally i think your wife would be better of with out you if that is the lack of support you are giving her.

My best mates parter was ill with mental health problems and - they didn't have sex for two years but they are still together and going strong because of the support and love that was given.

if you need a relief use your hand - that's what it is there for.

Answer 8

I believe what you dont know doesnt hurt you but normal people will feel some guilt after doing this type of thing. It's all about how you can or cant handle that.

Your behaviour may be different at home afterwards and your missus will probably pick up on something being wrong. Then again she may not!

If a behaviour makes you feel bad you either dont do it or learn to cope with all possible consequences.

Answer 9

I cant believe that you are being so in-sensitive! Your partner is ill and all you can think about is going and sleeping with some woman that in your opinion known for being 'easy' first of all you clearly have no respect for your partner and with someone like you in her life am not surprised that she is ill. If you really want to go out and do that then you will but if you have one ounce of decency in your body you will end your reltionship with your partner instead of going behind her back and also putting her sexual health at risk by intending to have sex with another woman. I hope your partner gets well soon and gets rid of you in the process!!!!!

Answer 10

hey, are you there ??? hope you haven't gone to that club cause your going to feel very horrid in the morning !!! why are men sooo selfish at times ? your wife is going thru a horrid time and needs your help and support, why would you want to do this to her ? if you need to get ya end away go in the bath for a few minutes !!! my god whats wrong with you !!! i feel very sorry for your wife just because at the moment she is not well your thinking of doing this to her. i think im in shock !!! go to bed and when you get up in the morning go to the hospital with some flowers tell your wife how much you love her and you will take care of her at this bad time. right ........ i hope you still at home mister !!!! lol. that's my rant over, thank you !!!!

Answer 11

Yep, it is wrong and i think that you probably know that or else you wouldn't be asking. I understand that it is really tough for men when they are not getting fulfilled sexually. Even though your partner is unwell, I think that you should still talk to her about how you are feeling and see how she reacts. Maybe she doesn't understand just how important it is to you. But as a female, if you were unfaithful to me, well I would not understand regardless of the situation.