well...my partner still wants me to abort our first child together because says he cant manage financially (a lie!!!) and he is treating me very badly. He is putting me under a lot of stress at the moment and I feel isolated and alone. My family is thousand of miles away in the caribbean and I am here studying...I want to bring this baby and I intend to carry on studying but he wants me to go back home as he wants nothing to do with this child. He has another child by an ex and dad and son are very close. I've been taking care of his child when he visits for the 2 years that we've been living together (4 1/2 years with him) and I'm so hurt that he's changed so much because of this. I think he is going to get violent with me at any point now and I am so worrried. I had my first scan last week and the doc found blood aroung the sac that the baby's in and she says it isnt normal. I wonder if it could be the stress that he is putting me under. I have been crying like a mad woman. Help!
2007-01-26 20:41:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm sure the blood around the sac has nothing to do with your emotional stress, however you will experience problems with your pregnancy if you continue experiencing the level of stress you are under. The physiological changes that your body experiences under stress such as high levels of adrenaline, increased heart rate & blood pressure, over use & production of hormones will have an effect on a growing fetus & can even be responsible for misscarriage, low birth weight & premature birth. The risk of violence towards you is a serious enough threat to leave this situation for the time being. You are not safe & either is your baby if you continue in this situation. You deserve love, affection & appreciation during a pregnancy from a partner. Tell your partner what you want from him & don't go back to him unless he can offer you this. It is much harder to get out once the baby is born so do it now.
2007-01-26 21:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give yourself anything else to stress about. Really, your going to just start stressing yourself about "what if I hurt the baby because of stress?" That will make it worse so forget what everyone else thinks. Everyone has stress when they are pregnant I highly doubt that most women have a perfect pregnancy free from stress. My husband and I split up when I was pregnant with my second son and believe me there was a lot of crying and fighting. I even lost weight from the stress. My son is perfectly normal he is now 18mths. Of course you should avoid stressful situations but know one can escape it. So, stop stressing about stress. Try and focus on other things like decorating the nursery or baby names. Good luck. You'll be fine.
2016-03-15 00:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was extremely stressed with my first pregnancy... and my baby was fine. If stress caused miscarriages as they say, the popluation would be half of what it is now. i think that you need to get yourself to a women's shelter or some place safe. You need to start a life where you feel safe. And mediate to relax. Continued stress isnt' good for th baby... but you can still carry it to term... About that blood.. I don't know why that is there.. but i am sure it is not stres.. breathe.. relax.. and get out.. and realize that the hormones themselves will make you stressed, even when you do feel safe
2007-01-26 21:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI there, i've read somewhere about stress cose i'm quite stressed person myself. It was written it doesn't harm so bad, but i think your baby could be more 'unconfortable' and hyper in your body and when she/he is born is more hyper baby... but try to calm down, drink calmy teas, and try to concentrate on the baby now, don't think of husband or money as much. Take as each day comes, so that you can have a healthy pregnancy and a baby.
i feel for you. Keep calm and try to smile yourself even if you are upset as you are 2 people now, and it's important for you, more than a husband or anybody... please see the doctor...
2007-01-26 20:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by Spark S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes ma'am i lost my child when i was 2 1/2 months prego because of all the stress i was going through! One of my good friends had her baby when she was only 6 months prego! (3 months early) She was very stressed also! You really have to look out for yourself! Take care and good luck!
2007-01-27 02:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by HaZeLeYeZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, extreme emotional stress can have adverse effects on an unborn child. it can also lead to unhealthy behavior on your part which can harm the baby. don't smoke or drink or use drugs. and loose that jerk and his kid. better your rid of him and everything associated with him. hope you aren't too attached to his son. and go back to your doctor and get tests done to see what exactly is "not normal," for God's sake!
2007-01-26 20:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Butch 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, difinitely too much stress could affect the baby. some lead to miscarriage. some would affect the emotion of the kids when they grow up. please take care of yourself as well as the baby. baby is a special gift that some people cannot have, even spending so much money to have it. you're so lucky. try to get out of that guy as early as possible for your baby's sake before he'll get violent. plenty of women in the world raise their child alone wonderfully. go back to your doctor for further check up. congratulation for having a baby. cheer up!!! its every womans dream
2007-01-27 00:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by mar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should immediately get out of this relationship as quickly as possible before you end up hurt or dead..Evidently this guy does not care aboutt you and your mental and physical well being and he doesn't care abou your unborn child nor fathering it. Get out as soon as possible Also get you a pistol for protection! And get a order of protection with the states attorney's office!
2007-01-26 21:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by princess my 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i herd it give you an early birth and that,s not a good thing.it harms the baby,s brain but i don,t know why.
2007-01-26 20:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋