(Current Situation) I am jobless, and without transport. Basically leeching off a good friend (Chris) i've known 6 years. I'm struggling with bipolar disorder/meds and am 2,000+ Miles from any family or other friends.
(Sept 2006) Moved to my friend's, things were fine.
(Oct) Became severely depressed due to a combination of bipolar, no job/money, Chris needs help with Rent, Chris doesn't listen when I try to explain what is going on with my head. I left the house some night then to end things. Ended up with police in hospital.
(Nov) Seeing a therapist. Things with Chris ok.
(Dec) Hate therapist, and Chris is going downhill, seeing more faults, and dark sides to Chris.
(Jan 07) Meds seem to be working. I am aware suddenly that Chris has problems I can't deal with. His poor treatment of the cat here, he never cleans up after himself, very selfish, more aggressive, wont listen, wont communicate.
I dont know what to do and I really don't want to lose him as a friend.
2007-01-26 20:17:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A little more info:
He has a habit of getting upset and then leaving the room, going into his and locking the door. If he comes out, he doesn't make eye contact and wont speak to anyone.
He can't budget and spends money on a lot of needless things for himself, and then complains he has no money to spend on himself. This is of course blamed on me for not having a job or paying rent. I will admit I havn't been on top of the job search, and I cant blame depression for not having a job, but it hasn't helped. That, and I don't have a lot of job experience.
He has an attitude of 'this is the way i've always done it so nothing will change that, or i've heard otherwise and thus you must be wrong'. This applies to his abuse of the cat, how mental illness affects me and how I act sometimes, various methods for daily things people do, and many other things.
I know i'm not the only one who feels this way about how he is acting, his brother lives here too, and feels the same.
Help?
2007-01-26 20:25:13 · update #1
I would take a break and get your life in order first. You cant help others unless you yourself are alrite. Afterwards you can offer Chris help if thats what you want to do. Even if you take a break doesnt mean you and Chris cant still be friends. i would just focus on yourself first
2007-01-26 20:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by asian_beetle2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is for you to stabilize your own situation before you try to help him. Are you eligible for disability or some other form of support? If so, sharing the financial burden might make things a whole lot easier on Chris.
2007-01-26 20:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if I were you, i'd head back home for a while and try to get things together. maybe your family could help?
2007-01-26 20:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Robert A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋