She wants to wear strapless tops, mid-driff tops, miniskirts and bikinis. She's only 12!! She gets really upset and angry when i don't let her. She says that everyone else wears those types of clothes, and it's true. All the other girls her age wear those clothes. She even borrows her friends clothes to wear to school! I know that because last week i caught her coming home wearing a "boob-tube" and a miniskirt, which she definitely doesn't own. I'm confused. How can i stop her from doing these things and stop her making a big scene when i don't buy her these clothes?
2007-01-26 20:12:37 · 28 answers · asked by Hay G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First of all, you can go to the school and complain that they're not enforcing dress code rules. Trust me, they're there.
Wearing clothes like that kind of leads to a life of promiscuity. You sure as hell don't want that, do you? Otherwise, you would have no problem just saying no when trying to con you into buying slutty clothes. When you say all the kids are dressed like that-- think again, it's probably only her group of friends. Which you might wanna try to get her away from them too. If you don't stop her now, she's never gonna stop.
2007-01-26 22:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by stelle d. 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
First of all, You are the parent and the things you say should be respected and followed by your children.
If you have already said no you should stay with that cause if you change your mind about this thing you will seem insecure to her, which can make her not wanna listen to you at all.
I cant exactly tell you what to do since you decide, but seriously a 12 year old cant go out like that, it is not a good image for her and you who raised her. I mean I am 17 and don't wear clothes like that not even when I was 12, I used to wear usual cloths, I see it in a way of respecting yourself by not wearing these kind of clothes..
It is all up to you if you wanna have a serious talk or punish her.
but I think you should have a good explanation and explain to her why you don't want her to wear those clothes.Give her an explanation that makes her think in a different way about the issue.
I wish you luck
2007-01-29 08:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by Beauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are really only two things to do- buy her the clothes or don't buy her the clothes. If you buy her the clothes she might be happy, but then she will ask for more, or her clothes wil....catch up with her.
And if you refuse to buy her the clothes, chances are she will only rebel, and that might be worse than letting her wear the clothes.
You can try and compromise with her, or even try to bribe- like
- she gets a higher allowance if she doesn't wear the clothes
- you'll buy her nicer clothes (like Juicy, Coach, semi-designer, if you can afford it) if she doesn't wear the "sexy clothes".
- She can wear the clothes maybe once a week/month
- She can wear the clothes, but only one item at a time (aka miniskirt with T-shirt, Tube top with sweatpants)
Or you could just punish her- no priveleges every time she wears clothes that you don't approve of. The worst thing would be to threaten to dress how she does- so for every tube top she buys you buy one and wear it in front of her friends (that should scare her)
There will be a scene, but you are the mother and need to put your foot down- this will be one of the first of many battles.
What she needs to learn is that attractive doesnt always mean sexy or slutty. Give her a lture about it or make her read a book, something.
I hope this helps
2007-01-27 00:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-17 00:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by charleston 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm turning 13 in a couple of days and i know how its feels.
Let her wear these types of clothes but dont let it go too far..like make her wear a tube top and something that completly covers her lower area and maybe the next day a miniskirt and a sweater lol.
Talk to her about about proper dressing when shes going out and how mature guys can mistaken her for something shes not if you know what I mean.
or send her to private school where they have to wear uniforms.
She might hate you for that though....
Hope this helps...
=)
2007-01-27 05:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Loveeee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Really? No one in my school dresses like that. And I am 13. How does she go to school doesn't her school have a dress code? My school doesn't even let people wear like a spaghetti top. Anyways your the parent. You have to take control and not sit there and watch her dress like that. My sister is 16 and she doesn't dress like that! Tell her that she isn't old enough to wear them and that just because all of her friends get to doesn't mean that she gets to. But really you can't do anything about it since she gets mad so easily. She will want them and your probably going to have to buy them for her. Or maybe she is going through a phase. She might get over it after a while.
~ Kristin ♥
2007-01-27 01:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay.... first of all- you should let her wear miniskirts and bikinis- but not belly shirts or strapless tops (they look slutty on everyone) but i dont see your point with not letting her wear certain things. she doesnt want to be the oddball and being the oddball isn't fun. im not saying to buy her these clothes... but im not sure i have a solution either. about the oddball thing- when i was in 6th grade i didn't have a lot of clothes (i go to a catholic school and i wear uniforms so my mom doesn't buy me a ton of other clothes) and when we had free dress days, i would have to wear the same thing multiple times. i got made fun of because i wore the same thing twice! now think about how made fun of ur daughter is because she wears nerdy clothes.....
2007-01-27 13:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
why would she want to wear those clothes when she has nothin to show off. She is only 12 and probably has no chest so why would she want to wear a mid-driff top or a boob-tube.
2007-01-26 23:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not faar off from that age. I am 22 now. I wanted to be dressed small during my early teen days. I used to love to wear revealing dresses. My mom stopped my pocket money. But I started picking from my Dad's purse. Punishment did never work with me.
But a real good friendly advice from my far relative worked well. I am still thankfull to him. He literally sat with me for 2 hours and explained the differences between Culture, Fashion and Blind Attractions. He also thought me, I can still look good with conservative dressing with moderate designs. Then he constantly following up with me on phone and in person. It took me one month to realise and I am really changed.
Try to convince her to change. Forcing will do. But can even lead to negative ends.
2007-01-26 21:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't really wear skirts or dresses but a long you might be much better than a short one
2017-03-01 09:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋