Is it low for someone to be begging to someone to love them ..??
what if u love that person for nearly 10 years but your love was never return that u have to breakdown infront of that person to give a chance to love you..
and i do mean really breakdown because you are heartbroken not as a ploy..
your opinion please.
2007-01-26 19:54:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Begging someone to love you is never a good idea. It makes you seem pathetic and desperate, how can that be good. Desperation gives off a stench men can smell a mile away, it will send them fleeing in terror.
10 years and your love was not returned? If so, you spent too long on this person already. There is someone out there who will love you back, you just have to find them.
2007-01-26 20:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who in there right mind would degrade themselves for a person that shows no desire to love the other? Are you kidding me, nobody can make a person love them, it comes naturally. And for 10 yrs begging the other to love them. This person has LOW< LOW
2007-01-27 04:34:33
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Hi Very, This is very sad. Your not low,it's your poor excuse of a husband, that is low.He is getting a big thrill when you have to beg for his love. 10 years is to long to be a one sided love affair. In my opinion,you need to kick his sorry a s s to the curb,and get someone who will love you as yourself. Never let a man,or person do this to you. You deserve a lot better,than you are getting now. A Friend
Clowmy
2007-01-27 04:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...hard to say - I love someone very much...TRIED being in another relationship with someone very nice but didn't have the feelings I did for my ex boyfriend, regardless, even though I wanted to and it might have been "easier" emotionally. He had also TRIED to move on and we both couldn't let go of the person that speaks to our heart, so we are trying again and I hope with all my heart that it works. We both actually drove ourselves crazy WANTING so much to be with each other when the other was hesitant and afraid, so I know what you're going through to love someone and feel like they either aren't or will never be yours.
Love is a crazy mixed up hard to make sense kind of emotion. I say if that person loves you and you really both want to try to make it work, then TRY. Whatever you do, don't try to make it work with someone you don't have those feelings for as they will never be the person you are in love with - it isn't fair to the new person and you will only sit there either trying or wanting them to be the person you ARE in love with. It won't help, and you will just miss that person and what you had or could have more. I say keep being friends unless you know that person loves you back or step outside of it for a while to gain perspective - if they can't FEEL all you want them to and be what you NEED in that area, it isn't going to help. Relationships are difficult to begin with, but REAL UNCONDITIONAL LOVE makes things that seem like problems smaller and not matter compared to knowing someone loves you with their WHOLE heart, which is what EVERYONE needs and desreves in a relationship. Relationships take time, sometimes even years, to work out the bugs til you get it right. I have heard of friends who have loved each other for years and eventually were in a place where that person just felt RIGHT and got together, so don't lose hope, but be who you are and do the things you do every day and find joy in other areas of your life until something works out. When things are going not quite right, that is what I do. I distract myself with work or family life so it doesn't drive me crazy...lol. Good luck and I hope everything works out well for you. :)
2007-01-27 15:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by think about it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't a good idea as they may not ever love you but might be with you for a while just to get you to stop begging them.Either way you loose.10 yrs is a long time to try with one person sounds like someone needs to get a life.
2007-01-27 03:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god honey....i know how you feel..but yes..it's pitiful and low..and your heart's being broken..but you CAN NOT make someone love you. YOU JUST CANT. I know how this feels.......Im sorry taht you're going through this...but dont allow yourself to be degraded....hurt..and cry..but dont let that person see another tear fall from your eyes. Start focussing on you and healing....you really cant make this person love you..as horrible as that may be...it's just not possible...and even if you forced it...both of you wouldn't be happy...so you have to let this person go...10 years is a long time...get some therapy please..but dont allow yourself to be treated this way anymore..you didn't do anything wrong.
2007-01-27 04:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Starla 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Confused,
First of all, I want you to know that giving your heart out in love to another person is a very special gift. And that special gift is reserved for the person who is going to receive that, and give all of their love, and themselves, back to you with interest.
Let me paint you a picture here, ok :
Say you cared about a friend so much, and you went out and bought a thoughtful gift to give to that person. And you were happy and excited to give this gift. Upon arrival, you give your gift to your friend and he/she takes it from you, says, "Ok, thanks." and tosses it up on the bookshelf. How would you feel? Would that hurt you? I'm quite sure it would.
Nothing hurts more than love given to a person who does not want to receive it from you. And I'm sorry you're hurting over this, ok?
You know, there are billions of people on this big planet. And God has set aside the person that is intended for you. Sometimes having the patience to wait on that person is difficult, but if you do, the benefits far outweigh the wait.
Give your love to someone who wants it, and will give it back to you in return. And even though you may love this person, it's obvious that he is not feeling the same way. And I'm sorry that hurts you, and I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I just want to see you free yourself, go out, find love and fulfillment that you truly deserve. Let him go, there is someone out there who is so much better.
Best wishes to you.
2007-01-27 04:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by C J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't ever have to beg for love yet some of us feel compelled too. but alas u have to move on because if u have to beg that person will never truly love you, at least not the way you want to be loved, and probaly never has loved u in a way you want.
2007-01-27 04:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by Badduck100 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not low at all. Its nothing to be ashamed of. I believe that kind of love comes once in a lifetime and is worth risking it all, saying how you feel and fighting for it.
2007-01-27 05:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by salinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not stoop soo low.For 10 years your love was not returned and still you want to stick to him?Have some dignity.
2007-01-27 04:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋