Why do we always need to be reassured that we're smart, beautiful, special, loved, etc.?
2007-01-26 19:44:56 · 14 answers · asked by Peaches M 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
We're just human, and crave affection like any other warm blooded animal. We like to be loved:o) So do men, but everyone is confused on how to accept love and how to give it, including me. Why is being validated, and appreciated a bad thing? Is wanting to be smart, special, or beautiful, wrong or just human nature? I think my generation (born in 82) are a bunch of confused hard @rse's. Many women don't know how to be feminine or appreciate this about themself. We wear hoodies and jeans and don't know the true role we play. We are gentle creatures...I dunno that about sums it up why we need love rather than validation..
2007-01-26 20:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do women constantly need validation? Why do men constantly need to proclaim theirs? I think in the end it all extends beyond differences between gender and dips into concepts of unity and keeping a homeostatic check on reality? Women: this in no way implies that your whole hearted contentions are false either, I'm not saying that Feminism doesn't have it's place. However words do have meaning. But All words are merely secondary to reality. Most of the time, contextually captivated by the impressionable 'packaging' of mere things. I can't wait for the day when this whole world comes to know that before we polluted The environment, we first polluted Ourselves. Follow the money trail. Everything and anything in the universe is essentially organic and Nothing is apart from itself. Nothing is a thing in itself. Except those who live within a contextual world of the self i.e. Affluenza. living relationships require a certain responsiveness that must remain true to the self. Do not stray from this truth. Are we straying though? What is to be said with how human kind is currently responding to mother earth. Does that go for all things arising from the creative feminine? Are women really happier sometimes? Is there such a thing?? Deep inside the core, If the rain forests end up greatly destroyed, the creative feminine will be lost, and then so will be the way of men.
2007-01-26 20:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by mack_cali 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe all women need validation but in general we love to be told that we are a desirable person. Most guys are comfortable with who they are and are fine with how they look.
Most women grew up in a society where if you didn't look a certain way or act a certain way you are an "outcast". I think that if we as a society were to give up on stereotypes of girls looking, dressing, acting this way only then maybe we would be able to not need such validation.
It in general is a way for us to feel as though we are appreciated for being our self. We like to hear we are needed, wanted and the person that someone looks to for what they need.
Women are the nurturers of the spieces and in order to nurture we need to feel that we are valued and are good at nurturing.
2007-01-26 20:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by MOMMY585 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe because we have oppressed you for so long, you feel now you need to prove yourself to us, and get our approval.
either that or women are constantly competing with each other to be the top seed and having that validation obviously lifts up their confidence and makes them feel superior to other women.
i don't think it's a self esteem problem because most women i know seem confident and assured. but it's most probably just an ego thing
2007-01-26 20:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Benjamin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
conditioning by society that we can't be something unless someone else(usually male) verifies that We need to move away from this unhealthy thinking.
Baba has it right as well As you mature you get less people pleasing tendencies and more, I need to get this and this done, Im not waiting for a man to do it- mentality.You can still love the men in your life but you no longer need them for your validation of your worth
2007-01-26 22:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of self belief, low self esteem, deep seated insecurity...it all starts from a very young age and is hard to overcome.
HTH : )
2007-01-27 14:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a phase! Guaranteed, you'll grow out of it: your navel-gazing days are numbered. As you get older and your life becomes busier and more complex you simply won't have the time or energy anymore to worry about such nonsense. PLUS: you will recognise it for what it is - NONSENSE.
2007-01-26 20:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you didn't get enough of it when you were younger!! Everyone needs validation but you'll find that a lot of people dote over their sons more than their daughters...who knows why? When you have a daughter change that praise her constantly...my daughter gets tired of it, but she loves it and is the most confident child I know.
2007-01-26 19:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Loren H 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Quoting the old joke punchline, "Who's this 'we' kimosabe?'" You mean, why do YOU always need reassurance? Only you can answer that.
2007-01-26 19:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
*yawns* Everyone likes to feel loved and appreciated from time to time. But I'm pretty sure the answer here is hormones, and just the way we as humans were made. Males are the givers, Females are the takers. I could go into greater detail on the subject, but it isn't really necessary.
2007-01-26 19:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by fax_monkey 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋