My fiance...dumped me because he now is having feelings for his ex wife who left him 5 years ago for another man..she's been with ever since and now things are going bitter.
my man...dumped me...after we visited our home town to see family. he kept saying it was just a friends thing..but once we got back from our trip..he broke things off with me..and is now..taking our car and leaving me with nowhere to go{but my parents house} i do have money to buy a car...MY MONEY..that i saved...I love him..and have for 4 years, but what can I do to get revenge on them. Basically..while I was bitching about his pill addiction{very serious..i've talked to his family about an intervention and rehab} and him not paying attentiong to me..he was emailing her and she was telling him about her problems. Basically Im the ***** and she's the saint. How can I get revenge on them. She told him she's still in love with him and he doesn't see it for what it really is. She wants what we had...or what she
2007-01-26 19:38:53 · 18 answers · asked by Starla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thought we had. I dont think he was completely truthful and might have made her think he's better. It would be kinda shitty if he changed for her..after I've been the one dealing with this ****. i just want to get back at the both of them. She knew what she was doing. I've talked to her and dont want to hate her. I do want to do smething to hurt both of them though....what should I do?
2007-01-26 19:40:09 · update #1
i do talk to his ex wife...and we listen to each other. However...we cant trust each other..I dont know if she'll tell him something..and also..i think she'll do whatever she has to do..to get him..but i do talk to her..friendly...i dont want to feel hate..but i do feel like they are both in the wrong. I'm the one who's hung in there..she bailed after 6 months of marriage....and now that her relationships not going to well..who does she ocme running to? but..he's too stupid to see it..and she's too stupid to think he's changed....
2007-01-26 19:51:40 · update #2
beleive me when i say revenge will get you nowhere(maybe jail).you will get revenge in the long run hun.you just show those 2 ungrateful assholes who the better person is.you WILL meet some one who is right for you and you will know when you do..leave them to their misery because if she left him once cause she was unhappy---guess what shes sure to do again...specially if he has a serious pill problem..just do not be a shoulder to cry on if it happens...life is way o short to be unhappy...get out there and get on with your life and meet new ppl..
2007-01-26 19:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by frozen_fish_on_a_skateboard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 15:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rise above it. I know you're hurt, but hurting them isn't going to make you hurt any less, and will only serve to bring them closer together as they try to fend you off. Show some class, even if you don't feel it right now. The best revenge is living well. And even though you're in pain right now, the humiliation you would feel if your attempt at revenge should fail would be even worse.
You say he had a bed pill addiction? And he never paid attention to you? And he CHEATED on you and LIED to you? Honey, sounds to me like you dodged a bullet with this loser. THANK GOD you're not married and responsible for half of his debts, too. He may have had some charming qualities, but he had a lot of crappy ones too. Just focus on those for a while and go out and spend some time with friends and family. That punk isn't worth your effort. Besides, Karma will take care of them. What goes around comes around.
2007-01-26 19:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world be with someone that has a pill addition. Be glad his gone and move on, don't let him ever come back either. He'll just leave again. Your revenge is him getting back with his ex-wife. Do you really think they'll stay together, not likely to happen, then he'll loose her all over again and he won't have you either. Poor thing. His what people cal Pu--Y whooped. So ask yourself, do you really want a Pu--y whooped guy or do you want a real man?
2007-01-26 19:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any idea what you have done. Just admit it, you were selfish and only cared about your needs. What about the wife and kids, did you ever factor that into you decision. I hope that this does not happen to you if you ever get married. What is this was your husband and he did that to you and your kids. You seem young and naive but please put yourself in the wives and kids shoes. It would be devastating for them. Where did you think you affair was going to lead to, surely not a happy ending. If I were him I would not have even dumped you over text, I would have cut you without a word. YOU HAVE NO RIGHTS as a Mistress...maybe you should look up a definition of a mistress!
2016-05-24 04:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you think that revenge will make you feel better, and although it might feel good while you are doing it... it will not take away your pain. I don' think that hurting someone that you have loved for four years, even if he has caused you pain, will feel very good to you.
It will only make your situation worse...
The best revenge is to move on with your life. Move in with your family until you get back on your feet... better your life, enjoy yourself and be happy and eventually, find someone else, that does not have a drug problem and have a beautiful life together.
You will be happy and they will me the same miserable people that they have always been.
2007-01-26 19:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you're angry. You've got every right to be! For your own mental health though, let it go. Yep, he's an ***, he's a supreme jerk-wad for doing the things he's done. Hands down, he's a prickola. And damned HER for being the one he still has a hankering for, that heathen. I can feel where you're coming from. And I still say, let it go.
Consider yourself danged lucky that he left you before you married him, what a mess if he'd waited until after the wedding to decide he was going to bail out on you.
Hate him if it makes you feel better, curse her name if it makes your heart hurt less. But skip the revenge, it isn't yours to exact. What comes around goes around. Brace yourself for the heartache that in time will pass, you know darn well that time will heal you.
I wish you the best of luck, take care of yourself. =)
darchangel_3---lmAo
2007-01-26 19:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by Renny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is to let that train wreck happen, and not be there to pick up the pieces. Give him a choice her or you, and then make him live by it. If he choose her, don't take him back if it don't work out. If he choose you, tell him break off contact with his Ex-wife or you will leave him.
2007-01-26 20:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do for yourself would be to move on and forget about him. Dont waste your time being angry and bitter over someone who didnt treat you right. Your better than that, be strong, and learn from this that no one will ever treat you that way ever again. And the best way to get revenge, would to not let him back into your life when he comes crawling back to you.
2007-01-26 19:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by Silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. Revenge can be so cruel sometimes. Either forgive him, her, and yourself and move on. Or not be over him and hunt him and her to the grave. Although I am pretty sure the grave one sounds pretty good huh? There are lotsa evil deeds out there or can be done. Just know you will get burn in the end. Sad, but true.
Aside that it all depends on what you want.
2007-01-26 19:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋