i'm a 34 year old women who has been with a younger guy who is 24 and he does the world for me and my kids, he recently proposed after 5years of being together our relationship is great. our only problem is, he is very flirtatious! we can be in the car and he will break his neck to stare at a female even if he's aware that he's been caught....it makes me feel so insecure, what should i say or do, should marriage be an option? he is the perfect man with that one flaw....
2007-01-26 18:52:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Do you expect to find the perfect man without ANY flaw?
As long as he looks but doesnt touch then what's the problem? If you feel insecure go to the gym or buy him a nice pair of sunglasses so you won't know what he's looking at.
2007-01-26 19:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem isn't his age he loves you and you have been together five years which is long enough to know him. What you can do is play the same game back, like make nice comments and look at all young attractive men who pass by, he will then feel insecure and will realize what he has done to you, and will most probably stop doing it. I think he is teasing you because he knows that it makes you insecure, but going by everything else you have said, I think you should get married, but sort that issue out first.
2007-01-26 19:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by mellouckili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm 34 and 24 realy not much of a difference if you ask me. And the thing about feeling insecure well , the only thing I can tell you is that we are all human and looking is not a crime , I have been married for 3 years now and I still show the love my wife deserves. But I am a man and we have eyes as wel as women do . Just talk to him about it and refine the relationship. But don't tell him he can look . because like anyone else if you tell them to not do something they are going to do it anyway lol.
2007-01-26 19:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by sdwdrgnmstr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a wrong decision for another time, a man should be trustful to guarantee ur life, and ur age is very important, don't see now, u should see 10 years later that u will be 45 and he will be 35, then u should trust ur husband that in that situation if he would leave u and go with another woman or not? when he can not stop gazing at women ,now, 10 years later what will he do????
2007-01-26 19:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by coral1350 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being only 24 years old has a lot to do with that man looking at other women. If he is not making passes at them and only looking, quit worrying about it. You will need to get over your own insecurities. There is no such thing as a perfect match. If all he is doing is looking, just be glad he is not touching too.
2007-01-26 19:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started dating him when he was 19? Ok, so you were his first and he's stuck on you. So sure he claims he loves you, and he was still young so sure he would be able to play with your kids, but has "he" ever been the first to bring up that he wanted to marry you? or is it that "you" just think about marriage. I would say get over your insecurities, but it seems that he's not ready to settle down if he's flirting with others. But on the other hand, he's doing this in front of you and that means (to me at least) that he isn't in tune with your feelings (to me that's kind of disrespect), and that maybe he doesn't want what you do. Sounds like you got yourself a boy toy (and maybe even a babysitter and live in). Has he gotten his college in while he babysat?
2007-01-26 19:01:55 · answer #6 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does it occur to you that he may be looking for reassurance with his "flirtatious looks"? Perhaps your unwillingness to commit to a relationship with him after 10 years has left him feeling insecure.
For all that...NO you should NOT marry anyone who "claims" to love you. If you don't believe in his feelings cut him loose and move on.
2007-01-26 19:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by Neeta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's 24 and you've been with him for 5 years. that would have made him only 18 when you started seeing him. i seriously doubt an 18 year old guy is ready to settle down with a woman with 2 kids...he's a kid himself still even at 24...get rid of him now for your own good. save yourself and your kids some grief.
2007-01-26 19:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for 20 years, have every intention of being married to the my wife till I die, but I am still going to LOOK at pretty women. Death or blindness is all that will stop that. It is okay to look at the menu, your trouble is only if he orders.
2007-01-26 19:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by mark g 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a younger male, and I advise against that. I think it's just the temporary (but exciting) flare of passion. If he pictures himself with you and your kids 10 years from now, it's gonna strike him as a heavy commitment. Go for "older and wiser" if possible.
2007-01-26 19:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by Psychotic Clown 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋