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Ok i'm trying to help my friend j.d because he is going to a depressing stage because his 2 best friends died in a car crash and i said i believed in god and then i said do you believe in god and this is what he said and this is what i replied as- J.d-yes i do,but were was a god when my two best friends i ever had slowly died waiting for ambulance?were was god then/
me-oops sorry i 4got to reply this one:/ well j.d you might of wished god was there trying to keep them alive but god can't do everything you wish for i mean i hate that i'm bringing this up but when i was 4 my grandpa died and now i look at pictures because i don't even remember him because i was so little and sometimes i pray and ask god why my grandpa had to die when i was so little but those things happen j.d and you think you did something wrong but you didn't, you think you could've helped them but really how would u have helped them? and i 2 think where was god when my grandpa died??? Well j.d i hoped this helped but prob. it didn't.

Answer 1

i think........ YES

Answer 2

It is hard to know exactly what to say to a friend who is hurting so badly from a loss such as that. The important thing is that you be there for your friend, as he will no doubt go through a roller coaster of emotions.

Just keep the best of intents in what ever you say, be as comforting as possible, and sometimes the best help is to just listen and not say a thing.

If he seems unusually depressed, or if what he says starts to sound scary - like he might do something to himself in his grief - let his parents know or a trusted adult. If he's hiding his emotions from the people that can help him through this hard time - he's not getting the support he needs.

Don't be afraid to ask for help in learning how to help your friend. No one is an expert in dealing with losses, but there are people who can help.