Men, if you could explain yourself to us so we could understand you better, what would you say???

Question

men and women are so different. what do you wish we knew/understood?

colleen, i asked men what they wished women understood about them
thank you

Answer 1

First of all, I'd like to comment that those men who require food, sex, etc... the animal basics... and that only....to get through life, are just little immature boys in a man's body. There's more to men than that, I can tell you.

Women of all generations have been pondering this very question you asked, and I'm sure many have reached the point of frustration! On behalf of all mature men, we apologize, ladies.

I'm quite sure I could write a novel sized post on this very issue, but that would take quite awhile, don't you think? So I'll try to hit the high spots, ok?

Men, by nature are protective. Most boys have been taught from an early age to be protective of the ladies. In earlier times, this was considered a very noble thing among ladies, and it was expected of men. Nowadays, this is not so much the case. And the men are neglecting to care for the ladies as they should.

Men are competitive by nature. Whether in sports, business, or just about anything, they like to compete. Sometimes men take that competative nature too far, and if someone exceeds them in anything, they become envious, jealous, and resentful. This should not be so. Some men, who are mature, can control this.

Men do not communicate as well as women do. But they do communicate, just not like women. Women can bring issues up amongst themselves and will discuss them down to the smallest details. Men can say two words to another man and receive two words back, and that speaks volumes to them, but might mean absolutely nothing to a woman who is starving for details!

Men require love, just as women do. Sometimes love expressed is not in terms of writing love notes, flowers, or other sentimental things. Although some men do that. A man might provide the necessities in life for his wife and family, that is his expression of love. Men do not express themselves in words as women do. Some men can, but not all men. You cannot expect them to.

With men, it's not all about sex. Contrary to popular belief. Men desire love and affection just as women do. There ARE men who do think of nothing but sex and have a distorted view on what love really is. They have the notion that love is physical lust being satisfied, and that is not true. There is something deeply wrong with that way of thinking. But I'm sure there are women out there with similar views, for whatever their reasons.

Men love security. They like a stable home and stable family life. They like their circle of friends and their recreation. It gives a sense of comfort to them. Those men who are disorganized and have no stability, those are the ones you need to keep away from.

Men want to be leaders. The "alpha dog" of the pack. The one the rest of the pack looks to for guidance and leadership. That is hard wired into most men. Some men lack leadership qualities and are always indecisive. Then you have men who take the leadership role too much to the extreme, and become tyrants and want to control everyone and everything.

Real, mature men, should be kind and compassionate with those they love, be it their girlfriends, or wives. They should show strength, but also they should consider her feelings also. Decisions can be peacefully made together, respecting each other. Those men who cannot do this are immature, and fall into that catagory of one who wants to control.

Real, mature men should show affection to the girl they love. There is no shame in holding hands or putting your arm around her. There is no shame in showing affection in public. Men should also be a comfort in times of hardship. They should be able to just lay next to the woman they love and hold her when she needs it, rather than expect sex in return. If the man can only show those raw animal instincts, do you really need a man like that?

A real, mature man, does not physically or mentally abuse a woman. No problems are solved through these means, and there is no excuse to lay hands on a lady in anger. To do so is the actions of a coward.

I know nowadays that alot of men are stereotyped as sex mongers and abusers. They are portrayed as controlling, manipulating, football watching, gas passing, womanizers. But that is not the case with ALL men. Yes, there are many who fit into that catagory. But there are also good, honest, caring, Godly men out there who know how to be a good man. And with patience, a lady can find such a man. They're out there.

Best wishes.

Answer 2

We would tell you to stop having double standards. That men get annoyed when woman nag too much. That women need to stop being indecisive and make up their mind as to what it is they want. That you can't always have your cake and eat it too. That you should stop thinking women are smarter than men. That women should not try be the man in the relationship -- this is a BIG turnoff. This happens all too frequently these days ever since women started to act like men with their "I am woman, hear me roar" attitude. I'm not trying to be mean, just giving my honest opinion of what I experience and what I see all around me.

Answer 3

We can't read women's minds.

We find you confusing often: you can say one thin one minute and mean it, and then say the opposite thing 5 minutes later and mean that too. We don't operate on emotions, so it makes no sense to us, but after a lifetime we figure out it's some sort of test driven by some emotional need. We have a lifetime of supressing emotions ingrained into us: we don't operate on them, and it's frowned upon in the workplace, so when we answer questions like "What do you love about me?" with answers like "Lot's of things' , it's because we haven't spent a lot of time thinking about our emotions. Sorry, it's our socialization. You have to work with us.

Answer 4

First thing to know is that both men and women are biologically driven but men more so than women. Our behavior to a great extent is the result of our biological make-up. So what does that mean? Well, the feminist argument that both sexes should be equal is misguided and way off the mark. The more extreme notion is that of "sameness" or in other words equality equals sameness and this ridiculous point of view perpetuated through mainstresm media outlets has caused a lot of grief in terms of male/female relationships because it denies the biological reality
of our differences.
So let me explain: we are completely unequal when it comes to
human reproduction. It takes a one cell contribution from the man
and the woman to reproduce the species and where do these cells come from? Men are in a constant state of sperm production producing millions daily. Women are born with every cell that they are going to contribute in their lifetime approximately say 350-600. Quite an imbalance. Men will give up millions of sperm easily at anytime. Women give up one cell a month until they are gone. Great so what does this explain?
Well it explains why men are always horny or seemingly constantly obsessed with sex. We are biologically pre-disposed.
Look at it this way, if there was a nuclear holocaust that left 100
men and one women the species would die. All this available sperm with only one egg to fertilize every thirty days and once fertilized the women would be "out of commission" for nine months. Conversely, if the ratio were 100, 1000, or 10,000 women to 1 man, that lucky guy could single-handedly and successfully be called upon to completely revive the species im-pregnating groups of women daily."Gather around girls, plenty of sperm for everybody!!!" This explains why when the
ship is sinking there is the call: "Women and children first". Men are cheap and disposable, women are precious and rare in terms of our biological contribution to human reproduction. It also explains why men go to war and are work-driven. The cave man could'nt expect to eat by sending his pregnant wife out to chased down the evening meal.
So the point in terms of our civil interaction with each other:stop blaming your boyfriend or husband for constantly wanting sex it's how we are made but agreeably it is not an excuse for irresponsible or hurtfull behavior. We should all strive
to deal with our biological realities in a more than animal-like manner as sophisticated human beings.
Since it's unreasonable to spend all our time having sex we do other things like work, climb mountains or compete. In addition, our brains are wired to fix things or solve the problem.
Which explains why women complain that men or so inept at understanding them emotionally. We try but women may
simply want to express how they "feel" about something and have their boyfriend or husband simply appreciate what she is feeling. However what the male is programed for is: problem;fix-it, problem;solve-it. That's what we hear and that's what we respond to. If a women is telling her male partner how her day went or that she had a problem with her co-worker, what she is going to get as a response is probably suggestions to "solve the problem" and not what is perceived as a sympathetic ear. Men think that is their role or their value.
So to answer your question lets sum it up: Men are biologically driven to dispense sperm-hence our constant "interest in sex". Men are survivalists-predisposed to "slay the dragon" and why we're competitive in all things, Mentally wired to recognize and "solve the problem"-why we don't seem emotionally in touch or sympathetic. But we do care and we do love because these are human qualities we all share and we do try to be all things that a women wants(we don't want to piss you off because we might blow the sex thing).
Lastly, despite our differences there are incredible similarities to men and women. A uterus and ovaries are nothing more than an inverted penis and testicles, both performing the same function. Nature is a marvelous thing and God gave us women to make life worth living!!

sincerely-R

Answer 5

That's really easy. Just read this book.

The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger

The author compiled this book after talking to thousands of husbands about their marriages. It really tells it like it is. I don't know if you'll like it, but it will answer every question you have.

Please look at it seriously. Most women love to insult it. Yet it's interesting to note that most of them have already lost their husbands.

Answer 6

We absolutely hate it when you talk to a complete stranger (guy) that we completely do not know. We would consider this flirting and would make us mad.

Also if you get into a relationship with us, make time for us because it gets annoying when we call and you are on the other line with a friend and say "hold on" to hang up with them but lasts like 5 minutes to say bye.

It goes on.

Answer 7

men are bears with furniture they are pretty basic animals unlike women not emotionally driven it would be hard for me to piguin hole men in this short space but men are more kinistetic hands on creatures they may have motives that women will never understand but try not focusing on the man but the essence of the man good luck.

Answer 8

Men are simple. Sex, food, beer, football, peace and quiet...just the necessities of life... You are making it too complicated. We are extremely easy to please. We wish you understood our simplistic nature.

Answer 9

Give me the remote.

Answer 10

Where do you get this "WE" stuff I understand men just fine...obviously you don't speak for all women so please just speak for yourself.