I've been friends with this woman for a long time.. since we were in grade school in fact. However, we are at very different points in our life right now. I'm married, considering having children, buying houses, that sort of thing... She's 25 and thinking about having sex for the first time with her boyfriend. She seems completely uninterested in my life, but expects me to be there for her. She was annoyed by my wedding (she had finals and was busy at the time), didn't say one nice thing about the house we bought, and is otherwise uninterested in my life. I'm tired of her. Should I try to stick it out, or is there a point when a friendship isn't worth it anymore?
2007-01-26 17:57:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You both have changed. Move on to other friends. That doesn't mean you have to be unkind to her: Just expand your group of friends who are more like you now and have more time for doing things with them, not her.
And by the way, anyone who tells you outright that she is upset because your wedding interfered with her finals is not much of a friend.
2007-01-26 19:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm always for fighting to keep a friendship.
But from what you're saying, you're relationship is totally imbalanced. You're doing all the "friend-ing" while she's doing all the griping. No matter if you're at different stages in your life, being friends means at least making an effort to try and understand what it's like for the other person.
She obviously isn't.
You should try talking to her first though. And if she scoffs at that, then I'd advise you to pull the plug.
I hope you wouldn't have to though. Ending a friendship is never a nice feeling.
The best of luck to you!
2007-01-27 03:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by bookworm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in the situation you described, you have already been dumped by this friend.
Friends come into your life, sometimes for a season or a reason....seasons change!
So do people.
I would not 'dump' her in one quick move
just gradually wein (sp) yourself from her.
If you dont have one already, get a caller id.
If she calls you thru the week dont answer her calls then call her back on Saturdays...devote an hour then get off the phone.
Maybe she will appreciate you more if she hears from you less, maybe not
either way it is less of a drain on your life.
She does not sound like a great friend anyway so it does not seem like you have lost very much!
p.s. I bet your husband is sick of hearing you complain about what a self absorbed bytch she is!
CUT HER LOOSE, but do it slowly (so she thinks it was her idea) Since she is so into herself anyway, she might not even notice
2007-01-27 01:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me your friend is very Jealous of you and you fortunate lifestyle ect so envious of you she is spitting nails over it thats probably why she hasnt said any compliments to you on your house wedding plans and dreams you have ect Evidently Time made you guys Fall Apart she is not worth keeping as a High Risk Asset in your life... she may cause trouble for you down the road I would cut the umbilical cord once and for all, and if you cant do that just yet keep things just short and sweet and cordial .
2007-01-27 02:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a hilarious Seinfeld episode. In that episode he felt so bad trying to dump his friend that he took it back and didn't dump him. Ha. But, yeah, you could do it gradually by just not taking the time for her (cut short phone conversations, and don't waste youre time seeing her if you need the time with your family) and eventually you will probably drift apart.
2007-01-27 02:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems you have drifted apart and it is for the better. Do not dump her or anything of the sort, but don't try so hard to keep your freindship. Do the best you can. She is still your friend and might come in handy at some point.
2007-01-27 02:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should read "How Full is Your Bucket". This is a great book that talks about the influence both positive and negative relationships have on you. And then you can make a decision. I love this book. It is easy to read and helpful.
2007-01-27 02:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by kindness 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is definitely a TIME for so-called "friends"!
She's overdue for dumping in the loser category!
I've had good friends that I've had to drop!
2007-01-27 02:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her EXACTLY how you feel...i think shes jealous of you life but none the less tell her and if she really cares for you she will change the way shes acting towards you if not..shes not worth you time
2007-01-27 02:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Alisonnnnn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats definetly not a friend!!
im sur every body can do better than that!!
2007-01-27 02:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋