I set my friend up with someone my husband works with. She didn't want to meet this guy alone, so she begged me to go with her. My husband happened to be out of town that night, so it would just be the three of us. I called my husband and told him we were going out with his co-worker when my friend was there. She shouted into the phone, "we're going to have a threesome." My husband got a tid irritated by this. As we drove to the bar, she told me it was weird for my husband to get mad because he should trust me. He does trust, he just thought she was rude. I do, too. I was trying to do her a favor, after all.
2007-01-26 17:33:39 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think the thing that bothered me most was how she kept insinuating my husband was jealous and didn't trust me. That isn't true, and it was rude of her to say it (I think).
2007-01-27 02:33:27 · update #1
Sounds like she was nervious and not much of a friend I may say if she is looking for weekness in your realationship.Push her far away.And if she cant find her own man by herself you can now see why. Good luck
2007-01-26 17:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by bluemoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was extremely rude and STUPID! love her (dearly not queerly) and cut her a break.
She is single for a reason (and maybe this is a part of the reason why) however, she was probably quite nervous thinking that this date would not work out either so she thought that if she showed off alittle it would make her look a bit better to your husband's coworker. I dont blame your husband for being irritated (if this date works out or not, he has to WORK with this person and who knows what the coworker took from this stupid statement).
If your friend had any common sense, she would have known that there is not too much of a pleasant response that a husband could give to his wife after hearing her 'friend' say something that stupid.
Marriage is hard enough when on person is away...those stupid comments dont make things any easier for him (who is probably missing you like crazy).
Again forgive her for this. Since she is NOT in a relationship she might have forgotten some key elements to a good one....
Anyway you were a GREAT friend but do your husband a favor and dont hook up any more of his coworkers with your friends. If it does not work out, it is going to make a miserable experience for the both of you (especially YOU).
2007-01-26 17:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe she could have been rude, that is unless she still acts like a teenager. I mean, that's something that teenagers do say when they're joking. But for her to say it to your husband is rather rude, because it could put his trust in you in jeopardy.
In other words, yes and no, your friends was/was not being rude. She was probably just trying to relieve some pressure with a poor attempt at some humor.
2007-01-26 17:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by blackshirtsredtears 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is nothing wrong in the saying that we r gonna have a threesome!Maybe ur friend is really informal. But if ur husband is sensitive and didn't like what she said, then it is not his fault at all! It's in his nature! And ur friend had no right to say about the trust ur husband has in u! How dare she? I mean u know that ur husband trusts u then who is she to butt in. Never let ur frie nds get so informal that they start saying personal offensive stuff. You should have told her politely that u didn't like wat she said. Then u surely musta understood and if she felt guilty then she woulda apologised for sure!
2007-01-26 18:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by glossy div@ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was rude. There are some instances that when a friend says that it is not rude...but only certain kinds of friends can get away with saying something like that. Like if she had said it when you were with your husband...and your friend...instead of your husband being away...it may have seemed more funny. But it was rude. And you should tell her that you don't like her to talk like that!
2007-01-26 17:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wasn't thinking. She was trying to be funny. That's all. Unfortunately your husband would not find that funny and may worry.
She should have thought of that before she yelled that out.
I imagine she does that often. Say things before she thinks it through. Take heart in knowing she just doesn't know what's funny and what isn't.
She meant no harm. It was more thoughtless than rude.
2007-01-26 17:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little rude. She seems a little insensitive to how things like that can escalate and trigger stuff. However, it's also a good thing to learn to let go. We all say something stupid or out of place sometimes and if you overlook that kind of stuff easily you also attract indulgence from others.
2007-01-26 17:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend simply made a bad joke. Let her know that neither you nor your husband find that particular humor very funny and leave it at that. It is your responsibility to set boundaries with people. Don't obsess over something so small though, everyone is allowed to make mistakes.
2007-01-26 17:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by Rollo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend's a little brass, and if she didn't know you any better than to know you'd find that rude, she's probably a little insensitive too. On the other hand, maybe you should lighten up a little if her comment was all in fun.
2007-01-26 17:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was just joking around. I think your husband was being a little over sensitive, but if both of you were offended then you should let her know that you think she was out of line.
2007-01-26 17:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋