Would you feel less of a man if your spouse suggested including sex toys in your love-making to spice it up? and if so, why?
2007-01-26 17:32:26 · 17 answers · asked by Riderya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hell no, they just add to the fun!!!
2007-01-26 17:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure the question is appropriate. A man is a man, with a man's equipment. Each woman is unique. If a woman asks to be satisfied by her man through the use of toys plus his personal attention, all he's doing is helping give her pleasure. As long as she makes sure to show him pleasure in the way he want it. This doesn't go to questions of "manhood" unless the man is basically insecure and needs reassurance.
2007-01-27 01:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Less" of a man? Absolutely not.
There are men in this world that are totally threatened by women's sex toys (vibrators, dildos, etc.), feeling that a woman (their wife, gf) should receive pleasure only from THEM. That is just pathetic. They have some serious self-image/penis issues to deal with.
And, there are also women in this world that are totally threatened by men viewing erotica, believing that their only arousal/satisfaction should come from their vagina/mouth/hand. That is sad, also.
And then, there are many couples such as ourselves that enjoy a mature, fully-developed sex life.
We both masturbated before we met. When we dated and got married, we had sex like rabbits in heat, but we still enjoyed solosex.
Within a year, we discovered the liberation and joy of acknowledging our full needs; that solosex was not "inferior" to PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex or any other kind.
Each kind of sexual arousal and satisfaction is unique and we wanted our full share of each.
There was no denying the fact that we had as rich and satisfying a sex life as ANY of our other friends, single or married.
Now....36 years later, many of those married couples are divorced, and we're still doing it like rabbits; not as many times a week, but still doing it and it's still hot as hell.
2007-01-27 09:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toys are great! I love to use them to induce pleasure. It will really spice things up in a relationship.
2007-01-27 03:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by Bill I 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know i'm not a man, but I just wanted to tell you something.... My husband and I JUST went through this issue, and i was soooo nervous about bringing up the subject of adding sex toys to our lovemaking. Well, when I FINALLY did, MY HUSBAND WAS THRILLED! He said ANYTHING that enhances our lovemaking is FINE with him!! Isn't that GREAT? I was so happy!=)
2007-01-27 01:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no because my wife loves our sex. she is really pleased. she did suggest it to me. it was a little wierd at first because i cant do what the toys do. so i think that it would be cool, just because she would have gotten the full pleasure from it. not just sex.
2007-01-27 02:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by young grown man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. but it would tell me that i need to learn a little bit more techniques. but then again i guess it wouldn't hurt if we add some 'toys'.
depends on the guy actually.
2007-01-27 01:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell NO !! I bought my wife a vibrator. At first she didn't want to use it, but now she loves using it while I watch. That is very exciting for the both of us.
2007-01-27 12:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, its a proven fact that women can get more of a thrill from the toys and our job as men is to please you women.
2007-01-27 17:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by Bruce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,actually I think tey are great.My wife and I started useing them .They put a spark back in our love life.
2007-01-27 14:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I actually bought my 30 year girlfriend her first vibrator.
2007-01-27 02:02:35 · answer #11 · answered by jay_westegg_gatz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋