Well, I am a bisexual 14 year old and have a crush on a 16 year old boy named "John." My friend recently told me that he "came out" to his best friend on the kick line team and she told everyone on the team and that's how my friend found out and told me. (Yeah I know that is totally wrong). Anyway, John is amazing hot and seems like a nice person.
I want to meet him and talk to him and maybe go out but I don't want to approach him and ask him out because he will wonder how I know he is gay. I am sort of in the closet too so there is no way for us to get together.
DETAILS:
-I am best friends with one of his best friends. (Mary)
-I know where he works. (Library)
Any ideas on how to find out if he is interested?
2007-01-26 17:30:48 · 9 answers · asked by ... 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have gone to the library before and tried to talk to him but it didn't work.
2007-01-26 17:38:43 · update #1
Mary has asked him if he is gay and he "denies it" but he has gay hand movements (I know you cant always tell if a guy is gay that way but its all i got).
2007-01-26 17:51:18 · update #2
First find out what his other interests are besides working at the library - it could be that you two share some common interests. Then approach him with some timely and intriguing questions about those interests. Then ask him how he became so knowledgeable about your shared interests - say at a local pizza place first. Then ask him over to your place so you can talk to him one-on-one. You'll be surprised how easy it will be to get to know him.
2007-01-26 19:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by dmspartan2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, first of all, more power to your friend for standing up for what he wants and dressing how he chooses. Also, there is no reason why they should prevent him, especially since VA Tech has nothing to do with that. A dress is not the same thing as a swastika... it is ok to be transgendered. It is not ok to be hateful. Also, why won't his mom talk to him? Just because he is transgendered? That really sucks... I highly recommend that your friend talks to the school counselor on this matter, and maybe his mom can come too. It might be that it's a shock, not that she's actually mad, but she doesn't know how to express it. Other than wearing a dress anyway, though, I don't know what you all could do... you can't really make the school accept him, or make his mom accept him. But I am so glad that you are being a good friend and he should definitely wear a dress... if that is how he wants to dress, there is no reason why he shouldn't do that. A petition sounds like a good idea, especially if you could get your school's GSA behind it. Maybe you could have a trans-awareness day, or get more students behind allowing him to wear a dress. Whatever you do, know that you all have support, even if it doesn't seem like it.
2016-05-24 04:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about walking up and talking to him. You are 14, there is no need to rush things. Coming from an old fart, I guess you probably will think I have no idea where you are coming from, but I was young and gay once too. And when I was your age, there was a lot less tolerance. Seeing as how you know his best friend, see if you two have anything in common to start with. While looks are great, they are not enough to base a relationship on. After all, looks change with age and no one (except Cher maybe) escapes that.
2007-01-26 17:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by mresl2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm my friend Zach also has that problem, he likes this kid but doesn't know how to approach him...
well the only thing i could tell you is to become just friends with him and when you get closer he might come out and say that he is gay and then you can tell him that you are too. it might make him like you more!!!
I hope you have good luck with John!!
and i acuttually love gay guys (or bisexual) they are nicer then other boys!!!
2007-01-27 05:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by FairyPrincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get you get his best friend to find out for you? Or maybe it's time to rent a book (make sure you go when he's working) don't be put off if he can't talk at work though his boss might be strict
2007-01-26 17:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
could you go through his line at the library and rent a gay book. that would be an unaggressive way to come out to him. then just be friendly and talk to him. if he is really friendly to you then he probably likes you. then just ask him if he wants to go do some thing.
2007-01-27 02:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by joe s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the library and ask him out sometime. Get up the nerve, I know you can do it! :=)
2007-01-26 17:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jay S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a young bisexual myself i think that you first ask him out as a friend and slowly make your move if he's ok with it then your ok
2007-01-26 17:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by baseballfan0808 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't you and Mary get together with him
2007-01-26 17:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋