I sincerely love my husband, but he doesn't turn me on. I do what I can for him, but I have needs too. He drinks, smokes and they turn me off. He never smokes in the house, and always goes to sleep after a few drinks. I want there to be fun, but most of the time I'm by myself. Again, I do love my husband and want to make it work.
2007-01-26 17:29:54 · 6 answers · asked by snippitt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My mother gave me the best piece of advice and I adhere to it.
Never ever ever deny your husband intimacy! Ever. If you dont want to do it...then do it anyway and you'll enjoy it, or at least some part of it. Denying him makes him feel rejected and lots of men eventually begin seeking elsewhere. Men are different from women, and yes, their egos are fragile. I am not a woman who lets anyone run over me. But life and love involve doing things you dont want to do sometimes...out of love. If he is important to you then get him some breath mints...transfer one from your lips to his.....
I wish you a long and happy marriage. Too many people give up and particularly women are the ones who deny intimacy. Its plain wrong! I'd die if my husband rejected me... yeow!
2007-01-26 18:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by reclusive_n_fine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know as a guy I'm somwhat bothered by this ..we are expected to love our wives no matter how fat they get although society says we oughta shun the thought ...Loving someone means you do what you don't want to nessesarily because you don't want to dump fuel to the fire ...letting issuses not addressed run away from us ...my thought is this .. find some small spot on your husband ..a place you love and enjoy that focus on that...Thats my lil tip bet it works ...and think about how much you love him.....when you conditionalize your love for him by giving him your love or approval by meting out your affections according to ;;;; how you feel emotionally or weather he's been nice or not you marginallize your commitment to your marriage ... women do this alot and don't ever think of what a man is thinking .. believe me it's way differant for a man...if you ask older women tehy'll tell it like it is... they act more like a man...sorry but that's ...LOGICAL...he's drinking to unwind and relax .. get some excersize with him///sex maybe ... don't kill him but put him to sleep and let him unwind with you..he wants you ...ask yourself do you want him...and don't ever say no its a cop out .. do all the work.. you'll find the answers in him...
2007-01-27 01:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is depressed is there more to this reason of why he doesn't turn you on? Does he feel like its a chore? Maybe start doing lil sexy things for him just take little steps.
2007-01-27 01:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and what your needs are. Have communication.
2007-01-27 01:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by Christy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him?
2007-01-27 01:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kia F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an enabler.
Believe me....it will not change..............EVER ! ! !
2007-01-27 01:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by bobkitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋