Why do women feel they HAVE to have someone?

Question

I always felt pressure in this society and from my parents that I should get married and have children and that was the norm. I married the wrong man the 1st time and it was a disaster. The second time around I was a single mom with a beautiful little girl and a wonderful, professional job and I was very, very happy being "alone". And then I met and married the man of my dreams three years later. Do you feel that society is changing so that by the time my 6 yr old daughter is an adult, she will not feel that she has to get married and have children to lead a fulfilling life? I think if every woman thought that way, and made it a point to stay independent, they would never settle for a jerk.

I think it will change. I just don't know what all the men out there who have absolutley nothing positive to offer will do.

Answer 1

I am sorry that your first marriage was a mistake, and I congratulate you on your happy, successful marriage later. No, I do not feel that society will change by the time your daughter is an adult because the desire for a loving, intimate, enduring partnership with a man, and the desire to nurture children, are both biologically hard-wired in women. That's a marvelous thing---without it there would be no new generations! That doesn't mean that a woman has to settle for a jerk. It does mean that a woman needs to be selective about whom she picks to become involved with and to father her children.

Answer 2

Not ALL women feel they HAVE to have someone. If YOU always felt pressure then that is YOUR problem not that of the rest of woman kind. I never felt pressure really other than fincancial. My mom would have loved it if right after I turned 18 I got married...but that didn't happen I didn't get married until I was 27 and I had been out on my own since i was 17. My ex and I got married mostly for financial reasons, insurance purposes and naturally the marriage didn't last. We both recognize that neither one of us were cut out for marriage and although he does have a live in relationship he works out of town and is only home on weekends so they're not together during the week as she works in the town they live in. He has a sperate apartment near his work. Me, I have a "significant other" but will not live with him and won't get married. I prefer living my life on my own terms and I'm going to keep it this way.

Answer 3

WELL ALOT OF WOMEN DO FEEL THEY NEED SOMEONE I DONT KNOW WHY. IF THEY WILL JUST WAIT FOR THE RIGHT ONE TO COME THEY WILL BE BETTER OFF. WOMEN SHOULD BE MORE INDEPENDENT I AM AND IT FEELS GREAT IM SURE WHEN I MEET THE RIGHT ONE I WILL GET MARRIED I GOT MARRIED SO YOUNG AND IT DID NOT WORK OUT. BUT THE ONLY THING I GOT OUT OF IT WAS MY CHILD AND THAT IS A BLESSING I HAD TO GROW UP FAST BUT IT WAS ALL WORTH IT FOR HER.

Answer 4

I think thats just your parents. Mine encouragd me that marriage was not a 'goal' in life, and never really focussed on it. They made me foucs on having fun, getting financially stable... And my relationship just happened, which turned into a marriage. Also I never had hopes of a big 'Muriel' wedding, so we didnt waste a fortune on a big day, but had a lovely one.
Your daughter will be just fine. Its the way YOU teach her.. if you spend you life foucsing on men, and asking her about men... thats what she will do.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Its all up to you.
Your the parent .... and you raise this child as you feel fit.

Answer 6

women need men for completion, psychological completion

Answer 7

sorry it wont change for your daughter, maybe for your great great great great great.... well you know.