2007-01-26 17:01:11 · 17 answers · asked by joi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't forget someone who you gave vows to...you can however, learn from this experience. You can move on and take the experiences you had to create a better life. What did you like about this person?Find that in another. What did you hate about this person? Stay away from people with this quality. You will find that if you use this as an experience to grow, that remembering all the positives and negatives about this man will allow you to find a better life and become a better person. Do not beat yourself up for not succeeding, but build yourself up and use this experience. Reflect, evaluate and rebuild.
2007-01-26 17:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by LotsaSoccer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You start by staying busy, and go out with your girlfriends more. The less time you have on your hands the less time you have to dwell on the pain. Each day the pain will become easier to deal with. You also need to set a time limit on how long you will grieve over your marriage and then start dating again. Dating someone who is new and is interested in you is the balm that takes the sting out of rejection. Dont just keep dating the same one, go out and make a lot of new people. Take advice from one that has been down that road and know that just because he isnt the one for you, doesnt mean that you wont find that special someone who IS the right one.
2007-01-26 17:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kim T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.You are not alone.I'm pretty much going thu the same thing.I won't lie,it doesn't get easier.So here's my plan.I'm going back to school,changing my hair,doing new things,trying to start all over again.I've already been thu about 4 months of hell and have now figured it's time to start fighting back.Sometimes the pain is still too raw.I just roll with it.I have my ups and downs.Be strong.Don't let him wreck you.You'll be in my prayers.
2007-01-26 17:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by noname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't forget. EVER.
Get counseling. Start hanging around with some girlfriends and doing stuff with friends. Find things that you used to like to do, maybe sports, or knitting, reading, writing--you know what you used to like to do.
Forget about getting another guy for the time being.
Get over him, get yourself strong and THEN start looking for a boyfriend.
2007-01-26 17:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by autimom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgetting the bum is going to be a long process. You have to be strong and concentrated on what you want for you. This is now your time to be into yourself, your career, children and life in general. Life is to short to be spent recalling what is over and done with. Before you know it you will have a new life, with new friends and it will just keep getting better.
2007-01-26 17:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by MIchelle V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't forget ....theres no easy way unless you kill yourself ..just get busy doing the things you've put off doing for a long time ...forget about weather you wanted to do them with him or not just get busy making a better you ...is it tough yeah duh sure you know it but whats gonna happen if you sit around and get good and damn depressed...read your bible don't assign blame or guilt to you or anyone else ..just do your business and whatever happens in the future you'll be better for it ...make your self be happy stop kids on the street and screw with them..make em smile ...you have but one today ...It might be your last (ok.. forget the kill yourself thought)....make today a better day than yesterday ..If he's really ,really really gone ...some day maybe he'll see you very happy and way on with your life ....and he has to deal with his .....find some peace and joy ...
2007-01-26 17:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't and I won't forget him and the things he does to cause me pain, but I will definitely dump him for good as God is my witness.
2007-01-26 18:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess what you can't. It takes years for the pain to get better. It will never go away, it just will dull. Forgiving will be hard, but for your sake try, because all it's doing is hurting you. He doesn't care, or wouldn't have left. Good Luck, and do something special for yourself. You are your own best friend.
2007-01-26 18:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by snippitt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont get over that, but you can see a light at the end of the
tunnel, it just take time, he was someone that you loved and so
there a part of you that will feel as you do. but it will get better
and as time goes on the pain that you feel will ease, but just
take this time to find youself, there is a brighter day coming
good luck to you.
2007-01-26 17:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he dumped you, it's his lost, you need to take care of yourself, this is what I did, my wife left me for another man, I was crushed, Jesus hates a broken heart and helped me heal, He can do the same for you, He loves you and wants to help you, all you have to do is ask Him to come into your heart....God bless ya
2007-01-26 17:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋