What is the best premarital advice you could give? I'm getting married soon.?

Question

I've heard all of the normal advice, but what is something that really has helped your relationship? Thanks everyone!

Answer 1

Pick your battles. Don't pick on every little thing...let the little stuff go. Focus on the postives and notice what's great about your spouse and tell them daily. Be honest, but not harsh. Do silly things together, like tickle each other until you want to puke, or go to sleep with your feet at the head of the bed. Make small decisions together by compromising, then the big decisions, like buying a house, will be easier. Send emails or call your spouse,just to say I love you on regular basis. And most of all, let yourself go sexually with your spouse, especailly when you've had a bad day at work...it's the best sex ever!

Answer 2

1. Make sure everyday you say I love you. No matter what has happened that day..fights, bad moods etc. Saying I love you isn't something to set aside. Life is not garanteed.
2. Annoying habits now..annoying habits forever. Don't sweat the small stuff. Those are going to be the things you miss most someday.
3. Don't marry to try to change someone. Remember you fell in love with them because of who they are. They will be that person for the rest of your lives.
4. COMMINICATE. Do not ever get so busy that you can't take 5 minutes to ask how your spouses day went, and reconnect after a long day. Little converstaions often get lost, when they do..the bigger ones are sure to follow.
5. Remember to ALWAYS have seperate lives along with your lives together. Seperate interests to persue, along with ones you persue together will make a stronger marriage.
6. Marriage is a 2 way street. Don't keep driving past each other. Stop. Look. Listen. Even when you don't want to.
7. Do your best to keep the romance. Its never going to be the same as when you are first married. But, don't fall into a rut either. Romance takes work. But, like most things hard work pays off.
8. Never belittle your partner. EVER. For any reason. As a joke or not.
9. When it comes to any major decision always talk it over with your partner. Let them know you think of them..especially if its anything that will affect them.
10. The most important thing of all.......Remember you married for better or worse. The road you will travel together will have bumps, ruts, detours, hills, and mountains. Always remember you have someone to travel with, you don't have to take anything on alone. shoulder the burden of it all together..two people are stronger than one person when it comes to moving mountains.

Answer 3

I'm sure this is the same old advice you've been getting but it's worked for us. We have "little" ground rules that we follow, we talk, not scream and holler we discuss everything that concerns or can concern our family and after 18 years together (and blending & raising 4 children) believe it or not we have never had an argument. There's nothing to argue about if you've already talked about it. We also agreed to never go to bed mad, but have never had to use that rule since we don't argue. When one of us leaves the house we never let it happen that we don't kiss each other goodbye, ya never know when it will be your last. We put us and our relationship first now that the kids are grown. We always treat each other with respect. And we make sure that the other knows how much they are loved.

Answer 4

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests, which all people will have.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of forgiveness, for, as I said, you're both going to screw up on occasion.

Answer 5

"If husbands or wives have not yet been fully emancipated from their parents, it is not best to live near them. Autonomy is difficult for some mothers(and fathers) to grant, and close proximity is built for trouble." Love For A Lifetime:Building A Marriage That Will Go The Distance; Dr. James Dobson I went to my bookshelf and searched for this book then read through it and found this item in the list of "Marriage Killers" because this is what ruined my marriage...my mother in-law wouldnt stay out of our business and caused my exwife much grief and i didnt realize how much damage was being done until it was too late....we were in out early 20's when we got married. If you are older this might not be such a big issue. DONT LET YOUR PARENTS CONTROL YOU WITH GUILT. I get sick when i think about it...i miss my ex.

Answer 6

Make sure you really know your guy. Have talks that you both take notes on and sign in agreement. The two biggest issues are sex and money. Talk deeply about whatif's. What do you do if??????????

Read this book together...ARE YOU THE ONE FOR ME?

Do the questions together. Make sure that you are a match.

My best advice would be......Never stop seducing each other.

Answer 7

for a long married, their a few things, first rember, married is a 50/50 deal,an it take you both to make it work,sec if an when you an you new hubbie get married yall will fight,do let sleep fall on you both,till you an him settled it,for talking it out ,is the best thing, most married ,do try to work thing out, are wait to long to talk,for the longer you waited,the harder it is to learn where you both wint wrong, good luck an hope you both a long happy married

Answer 8

The ability to laugh together about every stupid little problem that comes along in life..... and there will be plenty. If you can step back & look at a problem & find humor in it, you 2 have it made.
Trust me on this one!!!!!! Been there! My husband can find humor in things that I think are so dramatic but when I see things in his eyes it makes LIFE all the more fun.

Answer 9

Read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. It will save you a whole lot of trouble down the road.

Answer 10

COMMUNICATE Don't just talk, listen to what each other is saying. Don't interrupt each other and don't bring up the past. Be open and honest with each other even if it means that the other may not want to hear what you have to say. Talk through any problems you have. It will make you stronger