I'm not talking about his looks. Let's assume that you like the way he looks. I'm talking about what he says and does, or what he doesn't say or do. What kind of behavior is a turn on?
2007-01-26 16:49:48 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1) Most important -- does not condescend or assume that just because I'm a woman he is smarter than me.
2) Talks about important subjects and doesn't just natter on all day about a whole bunch of nothing.
3) Thoughtful (not so much in terms of, "oh, here, let me get that door for you" thoughtful...more as in philosophically thoughtful).
4) Is not afraid of an intelligent woman who likes to speak her mind.
5) Does not expect deference.
6) Has an amazing smile and loves to laugh.
7) Must love Dr. Who and be the sort who if confronted with an actual Dr. with an actual tardis, would go without a second thought.
8) I'd love a singer, but right now I'm with a guy who is nearly tone deaf. *s* God does have a sense of humor.
2007-01-26 16:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
--Evaluating how he treats me/talks to me, and observing how he treats others. He certainly can't be nice to me, but be a prick with the waiter, the newspaper boy,....It's only a matter of time before he treats me the same way and expects me to take it. It also tells me that he's not just two-faced, but is fundamentally dishonest and lacks integrity.
--Being kind, helpful, and/or considerate when he doesn't have to be, when the another person doesn't deserve such good treatment..
--Good critical listening and critical thinking skills.
--Knows the difference between wit and humor and is capable of at least either, if not both.
--Treating me as his equal, mentally, emotionally while recognizing that there are, indeed, differences betw. the sexes and that that doesn't necessarily mean that one is better than or has more rights and privileges than the other; that a woman is supposed to be subservient to a man. He wants to cook a beautiful meal for me, as much as I want to do it for him.
--In a brief phrase, he is, overall, "housebroken".
--Roots for, and helps, the "underdog".
--He is capable of, and is not afraid of, mental and emotional intimacy with me (and not just sexual intimacy).
--He is not afraid to let me see him cry, to offer him comfort, to give him, and accept, my support. Has no "issues" with my going to bat for him, defending him to others who have treated him badly or unfairly.
--He is not afraid of, intimidated around, or put off by a smart and strong woman.
--He's not afraid to admit that he's wrong.
--He is ready and willing to put the wrong, any wrong that he can, right--as right as is possible. It doesn't matter, whether it is his wrongdoing or whether he sees someone else mistreating others.
These are all not just turn ons, but let me know that he is a MAN, a REAL man, and the best kind in the world ti have.
P.S.--B Friskey--does your guy have an available brother?
2007-01-26 17:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to that depends on the woman. If you were to ask a bunch of guys what turns them on (besides looks) you'd get as many different answers as the number of men you asked.
My personal turn ons are when a man is kind or considerate, especially toward children or animals. When he shows how much he really cares.
2007-01-26 17:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by Samantha C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all is having table manners, he knows to put the napkin on his lap, knows to eat and not open his mouth. He also needs to know how to dress for the occasion and how to treat his girl right--do not put her down at all-- in front of friends or relatives--make sure she alway thinks she is the woman of your dreams. In private you can bring up issues you have with her.
A total turn on is telling your Mom and friends how great she is in front of her--and constantly hold her hand and hug her-give short kisses on her neck.
2007-01-26 17:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok...this is really my area!!! a sense of humor is a big big plus! being a true gentleman is the biggest turn on. no burping and other manly sounds...open the doors for her, put her dinner order in for her...ask what she wants then YOU order it for her... always offer to cut her meat.if its a steak dinner or other tough meat... dont be afraid to hold her hand...dont look at the other women...make her feel she is the only one there. ask how she is doing throughout the evening...she may be bored... show up with
2007-01-26 17:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man that is funny, but has a sexy voice during the moments when you are busy. A man that can look into my soul with his eyes. That we can read without saying a word.
2007-01-26 17:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by snippitt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you a little story about what got me in bed with my boyfriend the first time (we've been married now for 18 years). We had been dating for about a month and he was over at my apartment to cook dinner with me. A tiny kitchen, lots of prep work for this dinner. Anyway, with all the preparations, I kept bumping into him. I kept apologizing. He asked me why I kept saying "sorry", and I told him it was because I kept getting in his way. He grabbed me, held my face in his hands and said, "You could only be too far away from me or too long away from me, but never IN my way". ***sigh*** I've loved him ever since. Women like to know they are appreciated and valued.
2007-01-26 16:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Goal oriented, business-man in the office, roughneck, thug in the bedroom and a sweethearted, romantic at the dinner table!
2007-01-26 16:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan's Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO PICK UP LINES. sly smart, kinda funny but not over the top. I, unlike other people, some times like imatureaty, mainly cuz im not that mature myself. i like to joke around to a point. but the only thing that i hate is cockyness. if your the least bit cocky towards me....DIE DIE DIE. but if they are maturer than i am then the only thing that i would like about them is if they were a little bit shy.
2007-01-26 16:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by alien 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is sensetive and doesn't try to hard to make u laugh is laid back and comfortable can talk about norma everyday stuff who approaches u right away and doesn't just stare a us because that gets us confused and who lets us kow you're intrested right away
2007-01-26 16:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋