K- girls are always talking about how badly they want a really great guy, yes? They also always say that really great guys are rare (I'll agree with this). If we assume these two things to be true, then there is a 'shortage' of guys. Girls I know always talk about how badly they want that special guy, and how much they deserve it. This will sound callous, but I find it a legitimate point- do they deserve good men? There are some women I know who wanted to date me for years, and I always turned them down because they did nothing to command my respect. I am friend with many girls- they all talk about wanting great men, but as I see it, they seem to want it on a silver platter, like they DESERVE it simply by being them. If great guys are a rarity, strive to be a rarity in yourself- this is what I believe. Do you agree? I'm asking this because I have to vent my frustration in a non harmful manner and to see what other people have to say.
2007-01-26 16:36:09 · 22 answers · asked by fslcaptain737 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
In a sense, I am also saying that I don't believe most women deserve good men. I mean, yes, everyone deserves to be treated well and should be, and all that great stuff- I agree. But political correctness and idealism aside, do they? I know some women who go on and on about how much they'd care and love and how loyal they'd be, but they sleep with three different guys a week. Does this woman deserve it? I don't think so. I know this is an extremity, but I think it still applies to the majority of women. Throughout my life I've met REAL men less times than I can count with my hands. Men that women would really want. Shouldn't those men be entitled to really great women too? It seems like women are always angry with 'what they get' but it usually seems to me to be about what they're worth. Give me all the thumb downs you like, just I ask you respond intelligently and with class. Thanks.
2007-01-26 16:40:04 · update #1
I totally agree. Most women seem to think of themselves as a gift to men, as if the men should be happy just to be in their presence and be allowed to do things for them. The mere fact that they deem to pay a guy any attention at all is supposed to be some great sacrifice on their part, and men are supposed to be so grateful that they do. Relationships involve two people, but too often the women seems to think it's all about her and what the guy can do for her. Anniversaries and holidays come around, and the women thinks those are all about her as well. The man has feelings, wants and needs that should be addressed as much as her own. I don't mind treating a woman I care about like a princess, but she should treat me like a prince in turn, and not like I'm her servant or a peasant.
2007-01-26 16:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I agree that you have the right to a decent good woman, which is faithfull and wont mess up your life. But do you even know what you want in a woman ? You must know what you want to know what to look for and if you found that special somone tell her about your expectations.
However you can take your time good men with MONEY will always have women at the ready because like you said, there is a shortage of good men. There is no need to deprive yourself of women though have one, next week maybe another, thats how I live my life it is not lonely and miserabel (maybe it was back in the day when everyone was dedicated to its family), but really really great and results in an extensive full social life. But pssstt dont tell the feminists that I told you that o.O.
2007-01-27 00:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Long question there, I think I get what your on about. You're going on about a rairity in good men, but surely it is the same for good women too? They're not all perfect you know and finding and good and decent one isn't the easiest thing in thr world, specially when you find the nice ones have @ss h0l3s as bfs. so they kind of bring it on themselves to that point. i don't believe anyone deserves to be treated badly unless they do it to someone else (Call it Karma if you want)
I believe this should be how things SHOULD work
Nice girl gets a nice guy
Nasty girl gets a nasty guy and so on, but life isn't that nice/fair/choose your own word here
Umm It's late and i want some sleep so there's my view, there you go.
2007-01-26 16:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha, I like it.
You mean, they're expecting men to do all the work. Legit.
But I've always felt that most PEOPLE are this way, not just straight women. I don't know too much about men...haha I can't complain because I'm a pretty much a lesbian.
But yes, it's kind of frustrating watching someone complain about how they can never find a good or decent partner, and they're doing absolutely nothing to be decent themselves. I have to laugh sometimes.
2007-01-26 17:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with you. There are a lot of girls with a real "Princess complex" - they have a strong sense of entitlement and believe they deserve the best without doing a hand's turn for it. And that includes getting the "best" man, without doing anything to earn it. A man becomes just another Prada handbag or trip to Europe they didn't pay for.
Luckily I think (I hope!!) most women wise up eventually.
2007-01-27 19:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if a woman wants a good man then they need to be equal and treat the man with respect also. they cant just disrespect the guy and expect the guy to treat them like queens. so i agree with you in a way i guess because some women are hateful and evil and b/c of that its not that they dont deserve good men its just they dont deserve to the treated with as much respect. but it seems the meanest women get the best men.
2007-01-26 16:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by lovely 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you good men dont go to women b/c they think they deserve it. And women should not act phoney either if they cant be thereselves and be true to themselves than they wont attract good men. After a while people become transparent and a smart good man knows how to read between the lines. After all there are more women on earth than there are men and that means ladies are pickings are slim.So be true to your self. Good Luck
2007-01-30 08:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely agree with you but I'll say this, I NEVER complained about trying to find a good man. To me, that's a waste of energy and time when I could be doing something else. Funny thing is, when I wasn't looking for a good man and i was comfortable with being by myself, he found ME. We're married...happily married now and there's nothing I'd wanna do to change that but I definitely agree with you. Actually, it's sort of 50/50 because I've heard a few men complain about not finding a good woman..we're out there!!! Sometimes, you just need to stop looking and let him or her find you.
2007-01-26 18:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, most women who sit around complaining about wanting to find a good man, are the same types of women who have double standards, and do not think that they have to put forth any sort of effort in a relationship. Thats why those women are used and then dumped, because nobody is gonna tolerate their crap long term.
2007-01-27 07:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hah you make me laugh buddy.
i guess i do agree with you. "bad" women will get "bad" men, vice versa. everyone should treat everyone equally.
i guess what women mean when they say that there is a shortage of nice guys, is that, there is not the right sort of guys around for them? maybe they arent being specific.
Well coming from a girl, i have a lovely boyfriend, but prior to him i never found a shortage.. its the way you approach the situation really!
2007-01-26 17:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by dazedandconfused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋