~What do i do with him!~?

Question

ok to start this off me and my boyfriend have been doeing some bad things nothing like sex or enything but other thing and i am like 14-15 plz dont tell me i am to young i now i am plz give me and answer see well ever seense i stared doing stuff with him and gave in he starts not been romantic as much as he usaly is and now my grandma witch i live with askeds me if i have done enything with him and i say no and see he just to be rell romtic and stuff but i can stop doing that stuff with him we both love it to much! ya i know gross but what ever how do i get him back to the same with out stoping what i am doneing!!!!

Answer 1

Ok.. i understand you and what you are trying to say. But you got to undersatnd that some guys lose respect for girls when they start doing things, the girls is no longer considered hard to get. The guy may even think that he has you wrapped around his finger. Try surprising him, do you guys do stuff everytime you are together? if so, don't one day, make an excuse. This will stop him dead in his tracks. Don't pursue it. Use the girl power hun! All else fails talk to him about it!

Answer 2

very good question ashley.
You are a healthy young woman. Maybe well developed for your age. You know better. But your feelings are so strong here. No one can tell you to just run away in this situation because thats not the answer you want. But since you are looking for a realistic alternative. I suggest you go to planned parenthood and talk to them. You are vastly aware already obviously what you face in the near future that there is no way in hell you are even close to being ready for. Tell your boyfriend to take you to planned parenthood. Or ride the bus there together. Go talk to the clinicians about your options with him present. This is serious business so you might as well take the first step.
You tell him If hes man enough to want to take you around the bases then he is also man enough to not hesitate to go to the clinic with you to explore some options.
Maybe that will straighten his spine a little bit. you need to hit a real intimacy with this guy. Dont ever let the romance outpace the true intimacy. This guy just wants to get in your pants. You know that. You better be able to discuss anything you and contemplate every physical sexual action before it progresses to something that is even more severe that you arent sure you want.

Answer 3

Sorry to say ,but as I dont have a sis I`ll consider u as my Little sis and give u a piece of advice. You are really young and the boy is really young aswell at this age neither u nor he knows what u`re doing so leave these things beside,study hard and go to a high school and every thing will be fine then ..If the boy really likes u he`ll get u in high skool or may be college but for now leave Everything!!!
P.S. And please stop doing those stuffs with him(you know u`re not so cheap)

Answer 4

its called lust. He was probably being romantic so you would give in later...thats how guys a lot of guys trick girls. Yes doing things is fun but if he isn't going to be romantic the other times then why are you with him? Try not doing things with him for a week or tell him you are scared its getting too sexual and you should calm it down a little, if he gets mad or backs off some then its obvious thats all he wants you for...just be careful its easy to get hurt at that age

Answer 5

Wow!! I hope what I say actually sinks into your brain! Yes, you are way to young to be engaging in any sexual activities period. Do you actually know WHY people tell you that you are to young? Because boys between the ages of 14-21 or so don't give a flying rats azz about you or any-other girl except for one reason only!! Can you guess it?? To get into your pants or for you to get into theirs, period. They will be all romantic and tell you what you want or need to hear up until the point they get what they really want from you and then they will walk away leaving you or any other girl in tears! I guarantee your "boy" will walk away from you soon enough and he will find another sucker girl to engage in sexual acts with. If you are smart in ANY way you will stop this behavior and forget about boys for now. Study your butt off and please educate yourself. Once you have a great carrier of your own, then men will fall at your feet everyday!!

Answer 6

First of all, the "stuff" that you are doing is sex. It may not be penetration but it's still sex. Second, your boyfriend is manipulating you to do what he wants, without consideration for what you want. Your boyfriend, who claims to love you, withholds affection from you if you don't comply with his demands. He is trying to control you. I'm sorry to tell you that this is leading down a slippery slope to the point where he will finally get you to have intercourse with him--because it's what he wants. If you don't give him what he wants, he'll just dump you for someone who will and then he'll destroy your reputation at school by blabbing to anyone who will listen about how he's a hot stud and you're easy for the taking. Good luck because you're going to need it.

Answer 7

First off. Stay in school..Use birth controll AND condoms no matter what he says. sperm swims and can get in even if he dosent. Boys use girls its just the way things are. Teen pregnancy is an epidemic it north america these days, as well as single teen mothers. Dont worry about him worry about your self. If he loves you hell understand and not want to risk it. Its hard enough to deal with boys let alone if you have a little one to care for./......my son was conceved on birth controll and using condoms so dont belive him if he says it will be OK. And if he gets mad at you for saying no or being concerned. Dump him he only cares about himself, And definitly not you.

Answer 8

I am intrigued by your question. I have a hundred answers for you that you wouldn't want to hear and would blow off. Something in me is telling me to be responsible and give you adult like advice. But something tells me that you'll only listen to the truth. The best way to get a guy to do something you want him to do is ask. This works in any situation. You want something specific for your birthday, ask. You want him to be more romantic, ask. You want him to respect you, ask. You get the picture. If he doesn't want to do what you ask (within reason) then he's not worth it, and you can be single, or you can find someone else. That's up to you.

Answer 9

Listen lose your man and go back to school and learn grammar and spelling. They are required classes for 1st graders, when did you drop out. And also at 14-15 you aren't even old enough to drive, what do you do ride your bike to his house to do these BAD things. Get over it.

Answer 10

If you are taking it this far, you won't go in reverse - only forward - which will lead to the act of sex itself. I think you already know that. If he is changing around you as a result of what you are doing, then I think you need to ask yourself if this is really the direction you want to take in this relationship.