I have strong feelings for this "straight girl" i know ...we're somewhat good friends. We try to get togther and hang out once a week, but I see her a few times a week cause she works in a restaurant that the leasing office I work at manages. I'm 21, bi-femme, attractive looking (im pretty boastful :-) ) So anyway...at first when we first met we were cool, but with me; when I like someone im pretty obvious...so she kinda figured I was into girls. She knows now I have a crush on her, and she claims she is secure enough to be cool with it, finds it flattering and likes the attention I give her. I don't know how straight girls are when u find out a girl likes u but, I have a weird feeling she is into me as well. Maybe im overanalying..but she's invited me over to hangout and we ended up talking for hours getting to know eachother(she would ask me questions about being with a girl)...which kind of made me think she was curious at times but she would remind me she's never kissed a girl b4
2007-01-26 16:21:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
which throws me off..i notice though that when she gets drunk she is more openminded but not enough to make out or anything of that matter... but she is very flirty, touchy, and will say things like "u know u love me".."aww I kind of missed u in a weird way, I know u missed me too" You would think that if u were straight, and you knew one of your girlfriends liked u, it would be weird but with me and her its the total opposite. Before I admitted to liking hera month ago, we were drunk one night..she said something that embarrased me and I whispered to her "u know I love u but I don't like u that way"..she got offended and was like "never? not at one point before?"..then she sstarted saying something that true friends dont lie. I dont know she was drunk....and she passed out next to me. :-) I gave her a gnite kiss and told her the nxt day and she said to me I quote "u r so cute" haha so now u can see where my confusion stems from...does this mean im slowly persuaded her interest?
2007-01-26 16:43:21 · update #1
.....I txed her one time "just admit u want me too" and she never replied and from my experience no reply means yes. THe way we interact with eachother u'd think we were dating. I think im like a guy friend to her..i mean i would say something to diss her and she would slap me and say "shut up! "She flaked on me a few times and would be "u'll have fun without me..don't worry i'll make it up to" ....so sometimes I feel she is flirting back because of the influx of txt msgs conversations we have but at times...it might be straight girl enjoying the attention? I mean I call her beautiful all the time, and she asked one time how she looked w/o make up and i said u dont look any different and she goes "aww ur so sweet"
I apologize if i use direct quotes alot but man this chick is driving me crazy....could it be that she has an attraction towards me but because she is in a relationship with a guy she is faithful enough not to act on it even if her relationship isnt 100% there???
2007-01-26 16:56:55 · update #2
she called me and we talked on the phone for a bit yesterday and she asked what I was gonna do 2nite and I said I might hit up a lesbian bar/club and she goes "really that sounds fun" and I mentioned "u should come with me sometime" ...she said maybe she would be up for it.
I don't have too many girlfriends and she is one of few...and the thing is we're kind of two different ppl. I'm shy and not too talkative (especially around her) and she is loud, energetic and fun ...im always wondering why would a girl like her want to hang out with me, dont get me wrong im a fun person in my own ways but one time she asked me this "do I talk too much for u?" ..and I said something stupid like "do I talk too much?" she goes "ur funny"..I think she loves the movie RENT bc of me...I asked her one if she saw it she said no. The nxt day I came over there was a Rent DVD and she told me how she LOVES the movie now has seen it a million times. LOL. Am I doin something wrong?
2007-01-26 17:13:57 · update #3
She may be curious, but afraid to address it. As long as she knows that you may make the first move, she is ok with it. This way she doesn't have to think about how she may or may not feel.
I would suggest that you find time to be alone with her, let her know that you want to kiss her, and that you are going to kiss her. Let her no that if she says no, or pulls away you are going to stop, and the next kiss will have to come from her.
I think you will enjoy the results, remember go slow and soft.
2007-01-26 16:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you guys have sat for hours talking and are getting closer in your friendship I would say this. . . the next time she says she has never kissed a girl ask if you can kiss her. Tell her two things, that it would give you pleasure because you would like to kiss her and it would be an experience for her to do it with someone she can trust.
It sounds to me like she would like to kiss but is afraid to come out and ask. She wants you to take the lead a little on this.
Make that first kiss count and I don't mean maul her. I mean make her want to kiss a second time and then a third. Get me?
2007-01-26 16:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by octopussy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok..... This is not a question this is a dammed Diary!
We dont need that much info to tell you to get her a little drunk then get back to your place and take a hot shower, come out with a white towel wrapped around you. Next have her follow you inti the bed room to see this "mole" on your leg and what does she think of it? She will either eat you or not. enough said?
2007-02-01 07:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by jbhard86 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
(not exactly an answer) well sorry i cant answer this but I'm having a similar problem me and my friend always flirt and shes so cute and wild and she kisses me and the cheek and stuff you know but she is so unpredictable u know i feel like she can be serious about it or can just be one of those girls that like to pretend to be bi to get attention, Well i just wanted to get it out there lol , anyways i may still be confused considering i am only 15 ,......yea but i always think about her you know ....it sucks cuz theres confusion everywhere!
2007-01-26 16:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by elizacandle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
speaking as a straight woman who has had gay friends in the past, she is simply enjoying having you crush on her. it's nothing more than that. If you try to kiss her, or take it any further, she'll never talk to you again. She's basically a **** tease.
2007-02-01 06:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mystress M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has happened to me too a straight girl has flirting with me and we talked and I found out she was straight. It was annoying.
If she hasnt outright told you she's straight then maybe she isnt. You just have to ask her if she has a crush on you! thats the only way to know.
2007-01-26 16:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sammy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been there before too...i know how youre feeling and i know it sucks...but if she doesnt straight up tell you shes straight then maybe shes at least bi-curious...maybe you should do one of my moves and joke around one day and say "when are we gonna make out?" or..somethin like that..i hope it all goes well for you guys
2007-01-27 06:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lacey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think she playin wit u. that happened to me b4 to i was talkin to a str8t(but put gay on her myspace) gurl and i asked her would she like go out wit a gurl she told me no i only talk to gurls b/c i get bored. i was like wtf and i stoped talkin to her cause i not gonna waste ma time on her. but im happy i did move on cause now ive found the gurl of ma night and day dreams lol so yeah i mean just be cool friends wit her but i think she's leadin u on.
2007-01-26 17:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking around to see if she likes girls first? You might want to before you ask her for yourself? Or you could try the "joke around and see what happens" maneuver?
2016-05-24 04:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Grace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing a game with you. Time for her to get her jollies elsewhere while you find a gal that's worth it.
2007-01-26 16:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by castle h 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋