There's this guy at my gym, he's actuaaly a trainer there, and my problem, is the fact that I don't know if he's flirting with me or not.For instance, around christmas, he came up to me and asked me how my holidays and I told him it was okay, then he asked me, who did I spend it with.And then there was another occasion where he came up to me and told me I looked sad, and wanted to see me smile, and as I was leaving asked me when will I be back.I'm thinking , well maybe he's just being friendly, but he's always telling me to text message him for trainer sessions, and i told him several times, I'm a broke college student, and I cannot afford them, but he's still asking me to told me to call him for this free session, so I asked him why was he offering me the free session, and he said because he does it for people he connect with so anyhow, I finally showed up for the damn session but I was late, so he's like when can you come in and I told him next friday and he's like why so
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2007-01-26
16:15:10
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Trish T
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cont) when I showed up for the session, he's pressing me about why can't I do the "Free session" tommorrow..he's like why does it have to be so long, and I 'm thinking damn this is a free session..so why are you pressing me so hard....and he sort of gave me the third degree about being late...he was questioning me about why I was late..and I told him traffic, and he's like okay you get a pass for that one..damn am I tripping or is he...
2007-01-26
16:17:00 ·
update #1
we're actually the same age...but he is on my tough.....he called me earlier today, to make sure I was coming in...and I still go back to it's a free session..so why are you on it so hard
2007-01-26
16:30:37 ·
update #2
Now that I think about it ...there was another occasion where I was working out..and he came up to me ..asked me how I was doing..and I told him..fine but that I was tired and getting ready to go home...but then he was said..how come everytime I see you're going home..am I ruining your gym experiene...now that kinda blew me away
2007-01-26
16:46:31 ·
update #3
girl he is freaking ME out and i dont even know him!!
2007-01-26 16:18:33
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answered by Curly Haired Cutie 2
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Well when first reading this I thought maybe he was just being friendly because some people are flirtatious by nature but then the free session and all makes it sound like he's interested. He says he gives free sessions to people he connects with...that's kind of strange. In other words, he's wanting to give you a free lesson because he's into you. But if it's free and taking up his time, you might want to try to be there when you say you're going to be. Or tell him just to forget about the free session because you're just too busy and aren't ever sure if you can make it. I definitely think he's interested...now the only question is are you...and how creepy is he? Is he going to be all bossy like he sounds.
2007-01-26 16:22:43
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answered by Jade D. 4
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Don't fall for it. I'm sure you're a pretty girl, and that's why he's flirting. But most trainers/gym employees who do that usually aren't interested, but try to be overly friendly (especially with attractive females) to help their business.
There was this one cute trainer at my gym, and he did the same thing to me-- always came up to talk to me, kept pressing for a free trainer session, and after i did that session, kept asking when i would come to the gym to see him again. And he always made sure to say bye to me whenever i left the gym with some statement like "i hope i see you tomorrow" and stuff. Anyways, i thought he was really crushing on me, until i found out (from another employee at the gym) that he was MARRIED!!
So then i realized they're all talk. i've changed gyms since then, and of course, i've already had those "trainers" flirt with me!! same old story!
2007-01-26 16:37:23
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answered by Anonymous
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He is trying to get money from you so you can start paying for session, he is being nice, and he is saying there free at first, once he have you hooked line and sinker, you will be paying up the yang, yang, that is the oldest trick in the book, dont fall for that one. Just go to the gym and tell him you don't need any free sessions and you can work out by yourself. And see how less friendly he will be with you.
2007-01-26 16:22:14
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answered by Brezzy 3
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You need to let him know, you don't owe him an explanation and you need to ask him why he is so pressed about a free session. Be straight up with him and tell him, you are on a budget, so if that free session is to get you in the door to start doing paying sessions, you are not interested. And who you spend your holidays or other quality time with is really none of his business. Ask him, why he feels the need to be in your business like that, draw a line, say hi and bye to him but start putting your headphones on and start working out, act you like you don't have time for him. He sounds weird, I just saw a lifetime movie about a crazy stalker tonight too.
2007-01-26 16:21:23
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answered by Anonymous
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A friend and I used to go to a gym and the male trainers there were always saying stuff to us like that.I was involved with someone,so I ignored it,but my buddy just ate it up[she was single].We had a female trainer .She told us that those guys are bacically told to do that.So I think they're slimballs and will do anything to make a buck.
2007-01-26 17:02:59
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answered by noname 3
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Yes l agree with the others, this guy seems a bit too pushy to me. Perhaps it is there job to be friendly but this guy sounds a little too friendly. Be careful, he could even be married and just looking for a bit on the side. I think l would change gyms and stay away from this guy. Best of luck to you
2007-01-26 16:29:06
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answered by kazzadanni 4
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Trish, you know the answer, why are you asking for advice? You know what his "free session," is about, come on. I don't think he would offer my old wrinkly butt a free session (or at least hope not). How should you feel? It's up to you, you like the attention, you think he's a "sicko", or it doesn't matter, who cares. If you like him, fine, if not, tell him, move on, whatever. Best of luck
2007-01-26 16:24:09
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answered by Clipper 6
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Tell him how you feel and why you are confused about the way he is acting. Do it in a no-pressure kind of way so that he doesn't get defensive. Say something like- Do you kinda get where I'm coming from?- Maybe seeing the way he is acting from your perspective will help him realize how silly he's acting.
2007-01-26 16:23:09
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answered by mandie 4
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for the love of god...he is trying to get you "hooked" on the sessions and training so he can make a buck. If you are eye candy then it is a plus but most men know the golden rule...don't get your honey where you make your money... get over yourself lady. he is probably a fitness fanatic and trying to get you "in shape' for life.
2007-01-26 16:36:41
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answered by Akela 4
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It sounds like he like you, but he is acting really jealous for some odd reason unless he was flipping you some ****. But if he was serious then I would think about changing gyms. He could be one of those weirdos that get attached and start stalking women. Find out and then decide until then steer clear.
2007-01-26 16:20:55
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answered by crestland_chic 2
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