I am dateing a black guy and my parents and any other family member is very against it and even some of my friends parents are i have been hurting through this for almost 2 years now....i will never give up on him but why do people have to be like this??
2007-01-26 16:08:08 · 21 answers · asked by trina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are still living under your parent's roof, you are most likely going to deal with this situation until you move out.
If you are out of the house, may be distance yourself a little in order to find that happiness you deserve. Maybe then your family will come around.
As for you friend's parents, they have no right to say anything! You are not their child, so blow it off...nothing you can do there!
Good luck!
2007-01-26 16:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by TheAnswerChicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter. The problem is that even though a lot has changed over the past few years, it is still hard for some people to except different race relationships. And that goes for all people no matter what race they are. If you are old enough to know how you really feel about this guy then you should not worry so much about what others think about it. You can ask yourself these questions, but the answer needs to come from your heart. Is he good to you, this means for example; he don't hit you, belittle you, cheat on you, or treat you like a piece of meat. Are you happy with him? You have been seeing him for almost 2 years and times are already hard in the beginning of the relationship, so are you ready to walk through hell to be with this guy, and is he willing to do the same for you? Is he willing to stick up for your relationship against other blacks as well as whites that disapprove of your relationship.
If you are old enough to be having a life of your own it is truly your choice, but it is never going to be easy. And even if your parents don't like it, don't ever exclude them from your life. Let them know how you feel but don't walk away from them, keep them in your life.
2007-01-27 00:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are sheltered, they haven't been to many places where they would be faced by things that are different. They may be afraid to step into a world that they may not know about. And Im not just talking about race, this could include almost anything. Also, it could be the way they were raised. Racial conflicts in the household, on television, etc.. Times are A LOT different know than they were for your parents. Unfortunately thats just ignorance of those people ( no offense to your parents ). They are judging a book by its cover ( not calling your boyfriend a book ). You ask why does it matter? It doesn't, but it is ashame that people still have these feelings towards others that are not exactly like them.
2007-01-27 00:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by indieassassin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignorance is word that describes this whole situation. You should not worry about your parents of parents' friends. If you care for him and he cares for you it really shouldn't matter what they think. Me being a black male, I see no problem with dating outside my race, but others what to ignorant and find problems because he or she is not like them. People fear what they don't know and your parents most likely(not its true) don't interact well with blacks. But be yourself and love this man as he probably loves you. Skin color doesn't define love. Tell your parent to get use to it and respect that and if they don't then your parents have a long why to go in life and serious need help on this issue that plagues the country. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-27 00:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by telling you that I believe every person on earth is the same race.We all came from Adam and Eve,and EVERY person on earth is Homo Sapien Sapien,the same Genus,species,and sub species.
I would be against my daughter dating a black man because of the cultural differences.less than 20% of black children are born into 2 parent families.It has become acceptable in that culture to just sleep with whoever happens to be handy and make babies at random,then move on to the next person.
This is disgusting behavior to me,and the odds are far against the relationship surviving very long,which will leave still more fatherless children in the world.
2007-01-27 00:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your family and friends parents are stuck in the 60's or further back. People used to be raised to "keep to their own kind". I don't know how old these people are but their parents were most likely raised this way and have passed it down.They have forgotten or never learned that we are all the same no matter the color, religion, etc. If this who you want then your family should just have to accept it. Especially if your over 18 and support yourself.
2007-01-27 00:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethings never change. Some people will never accept people for whom they are and not the color of their skin. If you believe this is a great guy then you need to stick by his side. Let your parents see a different side of him. Your parents really do want to see you happy. They are probably have their own peer pressure from their friends. They may be worried more about what their friends think then their own feelings for you. People are just afraid of change. People can be so ignorant!
2007-01-27 00:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by 2 of a kind 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are afraid of change. Ignore all the racist, jerks on this questionaire and your parents on this one thing. How can they choose who you love? Its your heart after all isnt it? If you let them pick one of the most important things in your life, then they'll do it forever. I'm not saying ignore them or leave them out, I'm only saying follow your heart not the voices that surround you.
My aunt lost the love of her life because her parents dispproved of his religion, she ended up with a man who beat her every chance he got, but it was the guy her parents liked (well at first, after a few black eyes they saw they screwed up)
2007-01-27 15:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will always be prejudice. My daughter loves a black man and I'm proud of the two as a couple. Keep your faith girl and love that man. Fact is, you both prove bigots wrong when you wake up in the morning loving each other. That's more than most people can do.
2007-01-27 01:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Frank R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living in your parents home you should abide by their wishes. When you leave home and support yourself. I mean with a job. You have a perfect right to Fuckkkkk up your life. Don't worry, be happy. If I were your dad I would kick both of you rears up to your shoulders.
Remember this in 5 to 10 years. When you are up to your assss in alligators. Go to the liberals and ask them to take care of you.
2007-01-27 00:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by scallywag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋