i dont know what can i do....?

Question

i can't explain to u long story. but i just tell u a bit.. my mom don't like my fiancee's parents. and my mom don't want me go his house ever cause my mom think his father is crazy man!... but i wanna kept over his house...and my fiancee want me stand up myself and im 19years old. he in college i working. we trying fix our life and get own place. but it's long story... what can i do? we are almost married... his parents dont like my mom. my mom dont like his parents.they dont get along.... me and my fiancee are stay together forever... my fiancee want me stand up and be tough. i told him i dont wanna be stress....i dont know what can i do....should i do kept over his house or not now?

thanks.....

Answer 1

Hello,
Hey Baby, you are not marrying each others parents, and you both sound like you are strongly in love, so go somewhere else and get yourselves married, your parents will either come to terms with the fact that you are married to the man you are so much in love with, or they won't, but does it matter, you won't love your parents any the less for your actions, neither will his parents....... You could talk to your priest, and see if he could act as a peacemaker on your behalf, some priests are approachable in matters of love, it's just that they ain't no good at it, what they are going to tell you is in the ten commandments about HONOR YOUR FATHER AND YOUR MOTHER, so tell him this is the 21st century, and times and people have changed a lot since the holy commandments were first chiselled out of stone, because they didn't have pens or typewriters or the internet, this is the modern world, I don't know you or your future husband, and here I am giving you advice, for free. Good luck honey, I hope you make it, Bye...... Tony M

Answer 2

In laws can be a great source of support and / or be a huge problem in your relationship. Remember to respect. It is very important. Evan if the in laws dont deserve respect, show respect for them anyway. Then there is loyalty. It is natural for each of you to feel loyalty for his/her family. Which is ok as long as you don't come in second. With the in-laws that come from hell, don't criticize them. Just listen if your spouse is the one critisizing. Making comments creates problems. Take the time to discover both your genetic and cultural roots and share them with your familes. Now this is the most important when having problems, Define and set boundaries with your in-laws. This would be concerning the both of your feelings, thoughts and expectations about vacations, visits,holidays, time spent with grandchildren, financial issues, and privacy. Also have some type of code. Know when you have had enough. With a code, some sign that lets your spouse understand when it is time to end the visit with your in-laws. Dont forget about the old age and care giving. Discuss practical concerns with them such as their health and financial issues.What are their expectations about their care in case they cannot provide for themselves in their later years?Your marige comes first and is most important. How dare people be ignorant to love? This is about you, it's your turn, they have had theres. "You don't just marry one another, you marry another family!" But, the ones that love will be happy! If you two are happy and have a healthy relationship, that is all that should be important to anyone. Good Luck!

Answer 3

it's true that when you marry you marry each other's family as well, sometimes it's best to let your fiancee deal with his parents and you yours. let him know under no circumstances will you tolerate any disrespect to your parents and vice versa. you can't live your life to make your mom happy otherwise you will be miserable. mom needs to get a life and stay out of yours. if you don't speak to your mom about his family she'll have nothing to say for she'll know nothing. if she ask about them say they are find. if you need to complain about them find someone else. only talk to those who support your relationship otherwise your almost marriage will be doomed for failure. no use in starting something your too afraid to control. you decide who to bring in and who to keep out by your words and actions.

Answer 4

Dont let your parents, his or yours run your life, they really never have to see one another after the marriage, think really hard before getting married so young, maby waite a year or two, guys really dont stop growing up tell around 27, and really arnt good marriage matterial until then so good luck.

Answer 5

You are a bit young. Honey believe me when I say: TAKE YOUR TIME AND DON'T RUSH INTO ANYTHING. You deserve to be happy especially if your not living with your mom. But as long as your under your mom "roof" she pretty much is going to stay in your busy. Give it some time to know if your boyfriend is everything you "think" he is.

Answer 6

If you have to ask these kinds of questions you are not quite "grown up" what do you mean "almost married"?Perhaps HE should be working and YOU should be in college...are your parents taking care of you financially?

Answer 7

Technically, after 18, your parrents cant controle your every move. I would tell my mom to bad, suck it up, were staying together, and im staying with him. Whats the worst she can do? kick you out or make you pay rent?

Answer 8

Listen to your parents & if your guy doesnt respect the fact that this stresses you,,then Id re-evaluate this relationship.

Answer 9

well there comes a time when you have to live your lives for yourselves and not worry about everyone getting along. its tough, but your living for you right?

Answer 10

Stress is not good for anyone!
make your own decisions.