This questions only for folks who have been married 10+ years?

Question

What do your and your spouse do that keeps the "fire burnin"? Let's face it, after being married for ten or more years, working at making marriage fun can be a little challenging- I am not unhappy myself- I just want new ideas that will make the next 14 years as good- if not BETTER than the last 14 years.

Answer 1

Novelty, doesn't last very long, as you well know by now. SO what does last in a marraige?? Love....of course!! My Wife and I have been married for 33 years and I can't tell you how much I love her. I think it has to do with "The Depth of your Love". When a guy finally gets past the makeup, the curves, the outfits, the verbage, when all else is laid waste, there's an unfathomable need of the Heart or Spirit, that leads the way. I Look at my Wife and can't beleive we have done so much together, been to so many places together, laughed and cried together, but always together. This huge tapestry unfolds and you can see everything, one thread at a time, carefully threaded by both of you. A delicate, daily task, of carrying the load together, one precious thread after the other and then you see how huge and massive it has become. It's truly an accomplishment!! "Burning Coals" spread evenly, stoked a little at a time, special foder on the fire, never hurried, always shared with just her. As the flames grow, so does the Family and one day you notice your grandparents, but you keep tending that fire.
And when you look at her, she still looks like the young gal you married so long ago, the same smile, the same bright eyes, the same warm hands. She wraps your arms around her and you grow a little more, just a little taller and you fan that fire all over again.

Answer 2

There are three legs to the stool of marriage. One is the emotional leg. The one that you still love the person - appreciating what they do, say "thank you" and treat each other with respect, kindness and humor. The second is the intellectual leg. Each has to continue to bring new things to the marriage by continuing to grow intellectually. Reading, taking classes, doing volunteer work, etc.. The third is the physical. A little more difficult - after you have made love for 14 or more years you can only do so many things "different" to keep the fires burning. If you do some of the other things and bring a surprise once in a while to the bedroom, you will be OK.

Answer 3

going on 21yrs. of marriage, and we're even more closer & in love as ever before. The sexual is always there, but it's the up's & downs that life brings that draws one closer & intimate. Don't base your marriage all on sex, be patient with your wife, and talk with her. Too many couples end their marriage because "they're not in love" with each other. Hey people, the "in love" feeling lasts for a while. Love is when the couple is there for sickness & health, for richer for poorer...because it happens. I almost died 3 yrs ago. My husband was by my side...it was a tuff recovery. Because, when you're in the hospital, and the doctors can't do nothing, but wait...believe me, the material things is the last thing you care about. It's about your love ones, your health...the things that money can't buy.
Take her out...like a date..dinner/breakfast. Something simple...you don't need to spend alot of $$.
Best wishes.

Answer 4

Everything pretty much.... TRY movies(porn), Serve some wine to relax her.... Sit on the couch, All the lights out, Then after you know your both relaxed. Ask her to tell her to tell you her kinkiest want.... Or go to an adult book store and both of you buy a toy to use.... there are 10000000000000 books out there that could help you too... Talking is the most important thing......... So just ask, you might be surprised... She might have a few ideas already.......

Answer 5

Do things together as much as possible.