I have been seperated for 3 years now ...We moved 3 years ago and my husband was not put on the lease because it's income based..we had our share of problems then b/c we were both young...he told me he was going to stay with friends for 2 weeks because anyone not on the lease can't live with you. Well 2 weeks gradually turned into 3 years..I know it's crazy...well now I'm to the point where I'm so lonely..we still have a relationship but we don't live together...he never comes to see me nor invites me over much he says it's because his job takes so much out of him which he does work ALOT...it's still no excuse I need more...I am not sure how to move on..because he calls daily still has married convos about bills and things..and well we are still sexually active which draws me closer and closer to him..what do you think the chances are of him coming home after all this time...things are genuinly better then before help?
2007-01-26 15:28:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I forgot to mention the fact that I have retrieved the papers before and filled them out...tried taking them to file but could not bring myself to do it...
2007-01-26 15:40:27 · update #1
I think you have a great chance of getting him to come home after all of this.... Do it soon though as you really have been seperated for a long time....He is your husband and you need to be dwelling with him as such. JMHO.
2007-01-26 15:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of it it seems like he is happy with the way the situation is, he is happy to have his cake and eat it too. He is living as a single man, and comes by from time to time for sex. Either put your foot down and say either we are going to live like a married couple or not, be prepared if it is the latter then at that point you need to file for divorce. Stop giving him sex, you are enabling his behavior. You want a full time husband then he needs to act like it. I never put my husband on my lease and he still lived with me (I never wanted him on there because we always had problems and I was waiting to see if they would get better, but they didn't), so that's not an excuse.
2007-01-26 23:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have not filled out the papers, theres a reason for that. according to what you said, it seems to me like you guys have communication problems BIG time. counselling is what you need right about now and dont delay. its sometime easy to understand the concerns of your partner and not have to imagine them. if you dont think he's good for you, tell him that its over and move on, the more you wait, the less chance of finding the one who will make you happy the way you deserve.
2007-01-26 23:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by monreve_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question you need to ask your self is why have you put up
with this nonsense for 3 years. if this is a marriage then both
of you need to get your act together other wise time to move on
he has his cake and his pie as well. he come to you when he
need comfort of a wife, but sill maintain his home as a single
man. time to put up or shut up.
2007-01-26 23:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husbands that don't stay with you are not worth having. More then likely they have other things going on.You are coming in last on the list.
2007-01-26 23:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋