My 10 year old daughter favorite colors are red and black. As her father, am I doomed?

Answer 1

You are not doomed as long as you show interest in what she likes so learn everything you can about the colors red and black and show her you care about what she likes.

For her next birthday, you should buy her a roulette wheel or you could make her watch the 1954 Claude Autant-Lara French movie "Le Rouge et le Noir" (the Black and the Red based on a novel by Stendhal) with the so cute (dashing as Julian, looking especially fine in thigh-high leather boots that he struts around in...his poster is in my bathroom...) even if the American version has been truncated (the missing 25 minutes gives the story some weird jumps).

I just discovered there is a 1997 version available on Amazon…not with Gérard Philipe so…(he died in 1959).

In that novel/movie, the colors red and black symbolize two sets of different things:
In the first set, red is like the blood of the crime and the passion of the heart against black representing mourning and death.
In the second set, red represent the color of the uniforms in the Army (in France circa 1827-30, they were pretty red) against black for the color of what the priests wore in the Church.
Love and Death…War and God…

Brace yourself because if you're think you're doomed with a 10 year old daughter, wait till she gets in the teens years...

Answer 2

No, you're not doomed. Although red and black are typically associated with "gothic" tendencies, it could be that she just likes those colors. I happen to love red & black, but I'm no where near gothic (I'm more southern-country-girl type). Honestly, you can't judge what your daughter will be like by her favorite colors. You have to take the picture as a whole, and even then, it's important to just love her & encourage her to be herself, whether that means she's a pink-loving girly-girl or a blue-loving tomboy (or, like most girls, somewhere in-between). Don't take her choices now as "dooming" anything. She's 10, and she's got a lot of time to change her mind. When I was ten, I think I changed my mind at least every other week. :-P Don't stress it unless her behavior becomes out-of-control or undesirable and it's evident that it's not "just a stage." For now, relax. She's got a lot of time to grow up, and she's got to discover her own likes, and that usually happens through experimentation. Just raise her the way you see fit, and she'll turn out just fine.

Answer 3

I think this comes form the misconception that liking red and black will lead to liking...well...black ideas...and so on. All in all, goth/emo.

I'm 14. My favorite colors are black and white. I'm FINE. I get straight A's...my life is perfectly normal.

They're just colors for Pete's sake. Don't take it so seriously. You're not doomed. If you think you're doomed now, just wait until she starts bringing home guys. THEN I'll agree that you just may be doomed. [I know my parents think so...] Haha.

Answer 4

Your doom I should hope does not hinge on your daughter's preference for colors. However, I have found the Lusher color test to be amazingly accurate, and I can tell you that red and black are not very good color preferences, psychologically speaking. Especially black. I won't go into the details, but suffice it to say that black is not a very healthy color preference. Coupled with red, according to psychologist Lusher, it is tantamount to passion and death. I would simply chalk it up to the times we live in and the influence of what is happening in the world today. Perhaps if the world situation improves, so will your daughter's preference of favorite colors. Don't blame your daughter, blame the current state of the world. In this regard, she is perceptive. Not a bad quality.

Answer 5

You're not doomed. At the age of ten, children start to become more independent and unique. Other 10 year old girls like the colors pink and purple and blue or green. Your daughter is just trying to stand out. You're aren't doomed you just have a daughter who wants to be herself not a 10 yearold look-a-like.

Answer 6

A lot of parents are faced with similar questions all the time.

My son is into goth/metal, will he shoot someone? My daughter likes Power Rangers more than Barbies, is she going to like other girls?

No sir, you are not doomed. In the mainstream, parents have these sorts of questions because their child just isn't following the flow of what would be considered "normal" in their eyes.

I bet that if she was to your expectations, her colors would be more along the lines of purples and pinks. Which is fine, but it isn't where we are going as a society.

It's been happening more and more for many years now where people tend to stray away from what everyone else is doing, a.k.a. Conformity and starting to embrace individuality. Years ago, if you were into things that were different from everyone else, you would be considered an outsider. But nowadays, it's a more common theme to see than not.

People like to stand out in a crowd, they like to be recognized as a singular person, not just part of a larger group.

If I were you, I would be happier with this. It is showing you that she has a mind of her own. Think of it this way...

Someone who expresses individuality is far less susceptible to the peer pressures of adolescent life. You want her to be more in the "norm" of everyone else? No sir. Because that very same "norm" is what she would pe pressured into to have sex at a younger age as well as try all the colorful narcotics of the world.

So my advice to you is to do what she is doing, embrace the idea that she is an individual, don't crowd her in with the way other people are. Be happy that you have a free thinker.

Peace

Answer 7

How would you be doomed? You do realize that people's favorite colors change a billion times as they grow up, right? Get her some pretty red and black heart pillows for her room.

Answer 8

No! Why are you doom! Actually that would be an advantage for you. Let's think of it this way! Instead of making you a pink or purple tie for you on Father's Day, she would be making you a tie that is Black and/or red... at least when you wear that tie in the public no one would laugh at you.. hehe

Answer 9

WHY WOULD YOU BE! Those colors are beautiful love them too, they are sooo beautiful together. i painted my guitar red and had my family write on it with black markers. my brother wrote, 'destroy the machine', would you happen to know what that means...haha well i guess that's yet another question i have to ask.
an way, don't worry about stuff like that focus on your baby girl, kiss and hug on her now, while she doesn't push you away ha ha. I'd know alot about that ask my dad.....no your not doomed, as of now, but when it comes to the teens i can't say the same..

Answer 10

Red and Black are the only colors.