okay so my best friend is a guy, and im obviously a guy too, and were liek best friends, but sometimes i want more than that..hes really cool and i guess hes good looking too. Sometimes i want to be more than friends, like one time i had a sex dream, but i dont really want to have sex with him at all. I just want to always be his best friend. is this normal??
2007-01-26 15:06:51 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Sometimes, when feelings get too intense, you start to wonder if you could go any further to intensify those feelings you have for the person.
I am not so sure what you meant by wanting to be more than friends, yet not thinking of having a sexual relationship with him (I am not saying I condone that.). Have you thought of the ways that you can have to be "more than friends" with him?
If you ask me, I would feel there must be some boundaries in relationships. These boundaries are apparently different depending on the nature of the relationships, depending on how the two persons view the relationships. After all, while you embrace the relationship with such affection, your best friend may not.
What I sense is that you probably would be risking the loss of a friendship if you go slightly overboard if you are thinking of being "more than friends" as being cuddly and sensual with him. Unless he reciprocates and the feelings are mutual, you probably will have to bid him goodbye eventually.
I will suggest you stick to being a best friend in the most sincere way. Time will be able to prove how sincere you are, and how much you treasure the friendship by being truthful, honest, considerate, and caring. If you truly want to treasure your best friend, the best way would be to watch out for him and show naturally when he needs you, to care and show him that you can be there for him anytime - as a best friend.
Suggest you focus your thoughts and feelings a little and think for him more than for yourself (and not dwelling into your possibly wild dreams of getting physically intimate with him) - that should work best.
Good luck!
2007-01-26 15:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think dreams having sexual dreams necessarily means you want to have sex with him. At least, if you don't feel like you do, than that's a more trustable indicator. Unless he's gay, keep these feelings to yourself either way. Telling your best friend you have the hots for him and knowing that he doesn't feel the same is a good way to ruin a friendship. As for the normal part, I would say it's more common than you think, so don't feel guilty. It's natural to want more than friendship when you have a friend you already love.
2007-01-26 23:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not normal, but it's not abnormal either. You are who you are, so don't start freaking out about your feelings. I WOULD take time to really THINK about how you feel though. It sounds to me like you're confused and possibly facing up to your sexuality.
I have had some very close friends in my life and honestly...I have never felt like I wanted "more" than just the friendship. I have felt like I "loved" some of my friends...but I've never had sex dreams about them.
I would keep this to youself, at least until you figure out exactly what it is you're feeling.
2007-01-26 23:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are clearly not gay from the words you choose, but I believe that it is normal for you to feel this way cuz maybe its an misinterpretation of your thought, You are obviously close to him and maybe you want to be closer and you confuse this with sexual love in a way u get me. They whole sex dream come from u worrying that it may be a sexual thing between y'all.
2007-01-26 23:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by HSM 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dude you want more than just freindship with your BEST friend........you had a sex dream....and you dont really want to have sex with him....but you always want to be his best friend....then tell him that......but not the dream part.....ummm i guess this is kinda normal ......maybe confused feelings???? ummm this is liek the 3rd time ive answered one of your questions .....haha well idk man do u think your gay????? im not being offensive dude but get your thoughts together....chyeah....its kinda funny some of your questions are similar to mine........or at least some questions i've had in my head.....and im not kidding......man this is weird....im not gay btw lmao
2007-01-28 23:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but its obvious that some of the things this friend does and says or how he thinks is what you are looking for in a mate. Girl or boy you need to pinpoint what those things are and start looking for it in another more suitable person.
2007-01-26 23:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by justinstrachan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no and I wouldn't mention the dream just always try to be the best friend you can be and I'm sure you'll stay friends for a long time
2007-01-26 23:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by malone1423 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is normal as people that are very close share a type of intimacy that is not necessarily physical as in sex activity.
2007-01-26 23:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by caz_v8 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK DONT LISTEN TO ALL THE PEOPLE WHO CALL YOU GAY!
first of all you're just confusing you're feelings a little
second you're probably just really glad that he is your friend
third all guys have their gay moments
2007-01-26 23:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal. I only have sex dreams about girls. Don't ever mention it to him.
2007-01-27 00:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋