I'm in my 20's but I look young for my age. I guess, I feel that People think I'm so immature by the way I act. I just have alot of enthusiasm and love life, I admit I still need alot of attention, I depend on people's approval to control my self esteem, I'm self-conscious and sensitive.
My question is. How can I keep my personality, which I think is enthusiastic and still be seen as mature instead of immature?
How can I become mature without losing myself? Thanks :)
2007-01-26 15:06:18 · 11 answers · asked by Rachel T. 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Frankly, I wouldn't give a rat's --- about whether people thought I was mature or not. What do you value most? Your enthusiasm & love of life, or how others feel about it? Enjoy! So many people lose the "child" in themselves in order to get approval. Truth be told, there are also many people who love someone like you--whom you describe. They don't even think of it as immature; they think of it as DELIGHTFUL. We could benefit by more of it!
Edit: Good, & simple answers from Roxie & corezink. Please don't let anyone think you have to put on a long face to be taken seriously--that is--as "mature."
2007-01-27 08:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Life is for everyone but some by chance fall victim to the process of experience or lack of experience. Your personality is wonderful as I see it but you must learn the facts of life and in fact you must learn what family and friends are doing when you are not watching. The outsiders in life soon feel emotional pressures cause some mild disorders at about your age or earlier. The best way to see mental disorders is to see a series of varying degrees of depression and stress. Mild stress produces an excellent person for creativity and performance. More depression saps the energy and creativity that these people once had as the leave neurosis and become bipolar. There are three levels used to describe Bipolar. Then the imbalance of chemicals made by your own brain plays havoc with the whole control system. The auto brain or lower brain can aggressively access messages that were kept from it earlier. As the depression continues and more and more logic substitutions are made the mind goes into a full psychosis where ideas are disassociated and language decays. The end result of psychosis from severe depression is schizophrenia which has been described as incurable . There are of course are always a few people who have been able to recover mental stability. The greatest learning step required for all levels of depression recovery is to see that society as two groups . Study what you group are in and stay with your own kind to find peace and happiness.
2007-01-27 01:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
A little enthusiasm can go a long way, by which I mean that it can get annoying really fast.
As you gain maturity you will find a way to be more subtle about things that you feel strongly about.
Regarding self-esteem, it is a difficult task to gain approval from other people, particularly as most people look down on those who try to curry favor.
You could try reading books about gaining self-esteem. When you have more confidence and independence, people will be drawn to you.
2007-01-26 23:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Everyone needs everyone else for self esteem. One of my favorite movie quotes says it all: Tony Montana, Scarface, "You need people like me so you can point your dirty little finger and say 'look, there's the bad guy.'" The point is that Einstein's theory of relativity applies to society and behavior as well as time... With no "true" basis for determining what is right, pretty, good, etc., we inevitably look at one another to determine how to look, act, et al... Maturity is one such characteristic which we define by looking at others.. Don't lose or hate yourself, but never stop trying to be better... It's the process that counts, not the substance (remember, the substance is relative)...
2007-01-26 23:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps control your "ethusiasm" in certain situations or settings? I use to know a girl who was like how you described you self...and she was really great but at times over bearing..she was always peppy and excited and it was just like "give it a rest" its great your like that...but some people become annoyed with it and will say your immature.
2007-01-26 23:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
approve of yourself! dont count on anybody but you! FOR SURE DONT CHANGE FOR ANYBODY"S OPINION OF YOU! I hated matureing because I felt I was losing who I was, bubbly and kind. It happened anyway, I have changed into a boring adult! UGH! I have lost alot of who I used to be and miss it, but oh well. At least some of me is still here lol. Hope I was helpful.
2007-01-26 23:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maturity comes in time, don't force it, relax and enjoy your age what ever it is. Stay TRUE to yourself, do whatever your HEART tells you. Do not listen so much to your head, it'll confuse you. Enjoy , be happy, don't worry.
2007-01-26 23:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Roxie 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Stop trying to be something forced. Be yourself always. That's all you can be is yourself and you should have no reason to try and be anyone or anything else.
2007-01-26 23:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
im 14 and have that same problem. I just try to be cool and collected and act professional when the situation calls for it
2007-01-26 23:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by ADS 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
cast your burdens upon the Lord for he cares for u.
2007-01-26 23:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by dustylee33 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋