After a year, and a half
2007-01-26 14:57:41 · 13 answers · asked by Square Root 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After a year, and a half(a short time), what is it Im feeling,I just feel down, and depressed, I cant stop thinking about her.But I left her,I left an unhealthy situation.She's getting in my head.one minute she wants me back, the next minute she wants another man.What can I do to not answer her E.mails, or phone calls.I do love her very much, but I've been in love before, and I dont think she loves.Can someone tell me why I'm emotionally attached to her, why I have a lump of coal in my stomache, should I cheat, should I go back to her.No one in my circle approves of her, and my mom says shes 5150, am I also? Tell me how to get over it!!!
2007-01-26 15:10:52 · update #1
Nope you left her for a reason. She has not changed. By the way, what is a 5150 ?
2007-01-26 15:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced for some time..about 2 years. It takes time to get over those things. They are deeply emotional. Getting over it, isn't going to happen if you still have so much contact with this person.
First things first remember that you left because it was unhealthy. Anything unhealthy probably hasn't changed.
If your really in doubt about how to get over it, try to join a support group. It sounds crazy, but, it really helps to talk to people who have gone through the same thing.
If you are really in a tough spot, and can not make a decision, really think about what going back could mean for you. Sit down and think about the person she is, and was. Is she the same, has she changed at all. If she has changed, and you feel its really worth a shot. Tell her you are going to take it VERY slow and attend couples counseling. Go from there.
If you want decide that you never want to go back, end all contact. End of discussion. Unless you have children together theres no reason to stay in contact. The less you have contact with her the easier it will be to start getting over it.
2007-01-26 23:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time to heal is first. Know that something happen beyond your control but u had no fault in it. Then get a makeover I'm not trying to be superficial but you need a breath of fresh air. So start with yourself change your hair the color the cut. Then wear something you thought you would never wear even if you wear it at home in your bedroom. Become who you want to be not what is around you.Be the person who is inside of you that you are comfortable with.It doesn't matter your age just know who you want to be. Just remember to respect yourself. And if you really want to cut loose buy some new C.ds and dance in your room by yourself while you fix all organize all your new stuff.
2007-01-26 23:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there-done that. In fact, just getting over a break up w. boyfriend of a few years. I agree with jesus lives answer, plus, along with that, sometimes when I want to call the guy, I just tell myself no. I think about him, some, then I tell myself no. I have to get over the guy, one day at a time. No phone calls. You can do this. Divorce also hurts like the dickens! But over time, it does get better. Trust me on this. It's true. Take care.
2007-01-26 23:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you should do is think, if she wants another man at any time then she aint the person for you, because that will always be a bad situation over and over again, and you should not put yourself in that situation because it's not healthy for you. The best thing you could do is hang out with your freinds and go out and have fun with them and try to meet someone who is a better person for you, one that is faithful and truthful to you. Its never to late to find that special person. She isn't good for you if she wants another man at any time.
2007-01-26 23:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by minnesotabluerags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 5150? So is she? Huh? I think you need to grow up, act like a man, and make your own decisions that will affect the rest of your life, not run here to us on Yahoo and to your mother. Sheesh!
2007-01-26 23:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their seems to be a person that you are overlooking,if she were feeling the same things and doing the same things that you are doing I think you would be happy.Do the things that make you happy and content.Do not overlook your needs for someone who doesnt seem to care,you seem to be a loving and thoughtful person that has went that extra mile and if she cannot go a block and a half its her loss so cheer up and hold your head up high
2007-01-26 23:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by poet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a new routine. You're life was so wrapped up in her, that you didn't have one of your own. Now you have empty time on your hands. Get a hobby, go back to college and take some fun courses, join a gym...whatever...I'm serious.
2007-01-26 23:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your spouse, its obviously over. Move on. Find someone new, join a gym, get a hobby etc....life is too short to dwell on the past.
2007-01-26 23:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Build a relationship with god,get to know who he is personally and let him restore your life.He loves you and wants nothing but the best for you,once you surrender to him he will give you the best. God is a jealous god and wants NO man/woman before him. he takes all your burdens and loves you like no one can ever love you.
2007-01-26 23:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by mommylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋