I havent heard from one of my friends in almost a year because she has been living in a different state and we lost contact. well i found her on myspace and we got to talking again and i found out she is pregnant. he family kicked her out. the babies father doesnt care, she lost her job. she had to sell her car to have money to eat and she is staying at a shelter full of old nasty dirty men. i also found out that she is about 8-10 hours away from me. i want to go get her so i know shes safe, but im staying at my husbands familys home and they dont really have the room for her. i need to know if there is a place she can go around the waterville/ skowhegan area of maine if i were to go get her. im trying to get an apartment fast so she can stay with me. please help me figure out what to do to help my friend. this is really hurting me. i want to cry!
2007-01-26 14:54:07 · 7 answers · asked by ashybrat20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
im looking for crisis centers and shelters for women
2007-01-26 15:00:11 · update #1
Go to the welfare department to see if they could temporarily put her up in a hotel. If they can't, maybe you can until you can find another place for her. Look in the newspaper for people who are renting out rooms in their homes, that could be a start. Good luck.
2007-01-26 15:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by Weasel Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately ur friend made her bed. I'm sure there r many women's shelters in Maine that can help her. First of all support her bu telling her to go to the nearest Dept. of Social Services for help to move to ur area or to get her set up with an emergency apt and have her apply to Sec. 8 housing and any low income housing projects. PLS, PLS, don't bring her home with u. U will be making the mistake of ur life. Ur husband maybe the best husband in the world but from the looks of things u and him r living with ur in-laws for a reason not mentioned and the only thing u might do is start a fire u can't control. Help her long distance for ur marriage's sake. Support her spiritually rather than physically u'll lose in the end. Take it from experience.
2007-01-26 15:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a red cross or salvation army you can take her there they will give her food and clothes and possibly find out where she can go for shelter they can even pay to put her in a room until she gets on her feet, once she gets in ther she can go to the unemployment office and they can help her more there as far as a job and some income do some research in your area look in the phone book and all that ask people that you know. GOOD LUCK and may GOD be with you both thru this he will see you thru.
2007-01-26 15:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the national domestic violence hot line. I know she is not a victim of domestic violence, but she is female and pregnant. They can help to point you in the right direction for helping to get her in a safer, and saner enviorment.
I know you just want to wrap yourself around her and help her, but sometimes it isn't that easy. Right now she is very needy, and though you want to think the best of her, there are 2 sides to every story. How long have you known this girl for? Why did her family turn her out onto the street? She may be a fine person, but get as many facts as you can before extending yourself, and moving her and her future child into your home. It is difficult for pregnant women to find jobs, due to liability issues, are you willing to support her financially throughout her pregnancy? What about her recovery time after the baby arrives? Are you willing to support the child as well?
I know your heart is in the right place, but these are very real issues that you need to consider.
Call the national DV hotline, pass the information you obtain on to her. Support her by being her friend, but be wise while you are doing so....
Good Luck and God Bless you both.
2007-01-26 15:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by mlw6366 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.. .you are a good friend, but you need to be careful about taking on more than you can handle...otherwise all of you will be out on the street. 8 to 10 hrs away, what state is she in? if you really do hope to bring her to maine to be with you, here is a link that I found that can help http://www.maine.gov/education/homeless_ed/stateresources.htm
it lists a bunch of resources she can use to get herself on her feet in maine.. the problem is that she will have to do alot of it herself.. not you doing it for her.. i think that is how the system works,.. this seems to be another good link on the same website
http://www.maine.gov/portal/family/index.html . Good luck with your search, I wish I were in a position to help you and your friend... Good things happen for good people... keep your spirits high and god speed...
2007-01-26 15:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by leeloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish there was something I could do but I'm no where near there. I hope that it all works out for her. You're a really good friend.
2007-01-26 15:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Suya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could help but i cant i m all the way in Toronto but good luck it really shows me ur a good person all the best.
2007-01-26 14:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋