My Partner was a Prostitute, should i dump her?

Question

Met her, knew what the score was. Signed up for great sex and partys.
She "forgot" to take birth control and now shes pregnant with "my" baby. She gave up hooking, and treats me like her personal servant. Not even sex now.
I dont believe in abortion, so ive taken the responsibility and am trying to make a go of things.
Shes been pregnant 6 times to 6 different men. 1st adoption, 2nd fostered out at 12. 3rd & 4th aborted. 5th living with father.

Can a women like this really care about anyone but herself? What do i do? I fell like she trapped me as a meal ticket (im loaded),

Answer 1

At 10 weeks you can have a DNA test done on the baby and it wont harm it at all. But honestly I think you could just have the baby put in your custody and you wont have to put up with her treating you like crap. I mean dont make her mad now because obviously she doesnt care about the children she has so, jsut wait till the baby is born and then file for full custody..with her past you wont have any problem getting custody. good Luck. I wish you the best!!

Answer 2

I think it really depends on how you both feel. People do change and it could be that she really does like you and you have a future together. I really don't think you will get the answer your looking for on here. It should really be something you both talk about. tell her how you feel and share your concerns. She might be worried that this is how you feel but hasn't said anything to you. At the end of the day either way if the baby is yours its a life that you have some control over so speak to her and take it from there. Don't forget she may have turned over a new leaf. It might just be that before she was too young to look after a child and didn't feel it was the right time. I don't believe in abortion either but unless you know the reasons why she did it no one can judge her.


Hope this helps hun x

Answer 3

humm..well first of all I hope you BOTH have been checked out medically. I know you say she was a prostitute but on the other hand you were a "John" out playing virtually the same game so you really cant think too lowly of her past occupation for what it has been. You dont sound totally innocent yourself. Sorry to hear about the pregnancy..it doesnt sound like a good situation for either of you especially to include the baby which is the main concern in all of this. From the sounds of her past history with kids,either it also will be adopted or you yourself in the end will be left to raise it so I hope you have considered that already. If the 2 of you really arent cut out for each other..kids wont change that. I had 4 children with my ex and no matter how much I wanted to make things work for the kids sake and provide what I thought was a "balanced family" with 2 parents,the house with the white picket fence ect..it failed simply because of my husband and I werent compatible. I dont know your partner so I really cant say if she is honestly ready to settle down and stop the tricks. For a lot of women its the money that keeps them in the job. YOU do need to look out for yourself and have a DNA test done to make sure that she isnt just trying to take you for a ride though. I would think that there might be a pretty good chance that the baby might not be yours. I dont know how long you have been into the sex party scene but it does get risky and eventually it gets old...I know. Good luck with this one.

Answer 4

if you have doubts about your relationship and her honesty then end things with her. You cant have a good worthwhile relationship without trust. However I must admit that you knew the score when you met her and start sleeping with her so the 'blame' falls on your shoulders too. If you unsure that the baby is your child then tell her that you will be willing to pay for a dna test once the baby is born, you can arrange this online with a company if you do a search for paterntiy testing but if you go for this option then I suggest you get a test that is court approved. Dont pay her any money for the child until this test is carried out then once the baby is born and you have the results then you can take it from there. If the baby is yours then you will need to provide for him or her finacially and I would suggest that if your well off that you go to a lawyer and get something drawn up to protect your assets but ensure that you also support your child as its not other tax payers job to do so. Good luck

Answer 5

Her being an ex prostitute should not be a problem... MAybe hard on luck.


Maybe was just being rent a girlfriends for the lonely say like in a parlour etc.


However this other stuff is different... Not sure on that... Looks sus...

Even if the girl had not been a hooker.


Also a professional hooker should not make a mistake in not taking birthcontrol as a hasard of the job.


Like a construction worker not taking his hard hat

Answer 6

Sounds like you got what you signed up for. Next time maybe you should be looking for better qualities in a woman besides "great sex and party's". You are on the hook until you can get a DNA and prove if it is nor not yours. Good for you for taking responsibility. You have done one thing right. The next thing to do is when she has the baby, get the test done. If it is yours, keep it, dump her. If it isn't yours then walk away.

Keep this in mind next time. My mother always told me not to date a man that you don't want to marry..just in case something goes wrong. The same thing goes for women. MEN don't date/play around/ mess with a woman that you don't wanna be STUCK WITH. Things do happen. Or use TOTAL birth control. You supervise next time. Especially since it is your responsibility also.

Answer 7

I don't know you, but can say that if you took responsibility on a baby that is yours, and you know that it's yours. I would say you are a good man. If she made mistakes back then, I know god for gave her. If you feel as if she is trapping you into something you don't want to do, then speak up don't do something you don't want to do. Follow your heart! You only are trapped if you make your self trapped. That's what I friend has always told me. If she has shown you love and care and you trust her, then do what is best for you and your baby. You don't owe anything to her unless you love her. I hope you make the right decision. God bless you good man!

Answer 8

everyone has a past, if you can go beyond what she did for a living good for you,personally i think you should get a paternity test done and if the baby is yours then go for custody until she has got herself straight enough to look after the child. Dont be naive to do the right thing until you are certain,what ever the babys mum is, its still entitled to a good and loving dad./guardian . Be careful,x

Answer 9

you knew the score when you met so why did you bet on the losing team. you should have just stayed for the sex and parties. you dont just forget to take birth control if shes not hooking (yea right!)AND YOUR NOT GETTING ANY SEX it looks like youll be babysitting while shes out not hooking,she does care about you although its only for the money and the babysitting. if i were you i would invite some of her friends over for those wild sex parties that your missing out on and kick the ***** out.

Answer 10

Well first of if she has had 6 diffrent kids then she is deffenitly not ready for a kid!!!!!!! she cannot care about anyone or even herself because she has probably gotten like 100 diffrent STD's because when u r on the pill it doen't protect against STDS. so try to work it out for like a few months and if it doesn't work then take the kid and leave and DON'T LOOK BACK AT HER!!!!!!!!! don't worry the baby wasn't a mistake it was a suprise because you never knew you wanted it til u got it.


hope i helped and good luck!!!!!!!!!