i don't. i don't think highly of myself actually
2007-01-26 14:39:17 · 18 answers · asked by ipodlady231 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Maybe that's why you don't believe it--because of your image of yourself. That's sort of sad. & maybe--just maybe--it would help if you started believing! For ever so long, I was simply unable to "graciously" accept a positive comment about myself. I've now accepted that there's a lot of insight we can get from the "objective" views of others. Almost like--hey! I must be nicer than I thought I was! That's not to say that SOMETIMES people don't say something nice because they want something from you. I'm not being cynical; it's true. But if you learn to be selective, you know the person is sincere & credible (your best friends are the greatest source of truth), I hope you'll learn to believe in what they say. It really feels good--& who doesn't want to feel good??
Edit: David Trust--(!) Sometimes our friends know us better than we know ourselves. Just last night, well actually, we talked on the phone until after 3a this morning, an old friend said he saw me as a person who always felt my glass was half FULL. It "stunned" me for a moment until I realized that most of my friends think I'm always upbeat, I make them laugh, I find comedy in the worst possible situations. But I'd never taken it seriously before. & he was RIGHT. Listen. Internalize. Let it bounce back & it's amazing what you'll "realize" about yourself. Good stuff!
2007-01-26 14:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
When people spontaneously burst out with some comment "You are SO smart!" or something, in reaction to something I've said or done, or back in the day when I once in a while looked good, then I have tended to believe they were actually impressed.
When people go through a "I know I should give positive feedback in this context" thought process (or some guy wants to get laid), I tend to think they are just "trying to be nice", and don't.
Maybe when people spontaneously burst out about you, you SHOULD believe them.
Look around. Everyone has stuff that could be better.
And you COULD be worse than you are. Are you really a horrible, heartless, brainless person?
Maybe you have redeeming characteristics after all!
2007-01-26 15:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends if they have a hidden agenda. They may want to butter you up for their own purpose. Or they really do mean it and you should listen cause it may do you good. Now how do you know the difference? You really dont. I say do what you want to do and believe what you want to believe. Just because someone says "wow u been working out cause you look buff" doesn't mean you're a stud, but there is probably some hint of truth to it, and the logical thing to do is to work out if being buff makes you feel good.
2007-01-26 14:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny you would ask. I just received an email from a pen pale of mine I have been in contact with for the past few years. She basically did a run down of all this positive stuff about me. I felt like I was reading about somebody else. Now I have not a clue on how to respond. I mean, it is humbling and all. But that is not me. The person she writes of.
2007-01-26 14:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by Noodles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My prior just wont let me believe in people just when u think they are cool they do a 360 turn around just a monster on u. And if u don't think highly of yourself no one else will,I'm sure u have so much in heart and so much to give.
2007-01-26 14:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by keepitreal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I beleive it for a short time, Then I doubt it or feel like I need more compliments to make myself feel that it is true.I think one must feel ok with themselfs in order to actually believe it and take it seriously for along time. Alot of women like myself all experience insecurity. And I think it takes along time for a woman to feel completely secure with themselfs. Thats why alot of older women are. Yet some women at a younger age just have that.
2007-01-26 14:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Susy_Q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a woman says something nice to me I figure she's just after my body.
2007-01-26 14:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who it's coming from. I don't trust any ol' body. You should think highly of yourself. If you don't who will?
2007-01-26 14:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No but I think it's nice when they do that.
They are being friendly and that's what really counts because in a way, they are saying that they like you.
2007-01-26 14:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, Not many people want to be nice . They usually want you to tell them how nice they look.
2007-01-26 14:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋