well we have to shower in school.... its required or we cant go back to class... and im sorta nervous on showing my "member". all the guys in my class are real perverts ever since they got bigger "members" . they are naked in the shower and they touch each other there . they asked me to join them but i said i had to go. sometimes i get a lil hard from watching their "members" swing around and from guys touching other guys and watching the other guys smile . does that mean im bi? i like girls... but... and one guy started rubbing another guys balls. i started to get reall hard from watching that but then i turned around and stopped thinking about it. how do i not get hard. and if they do have to touch me how do i not get hard while they do it?
2007-01-26 14:36:22 · 28 answers · asked by Jake f 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
i have to do the same thing too- im 15 and we have to shower after P.E. Just ignore the other guys, dont let them touch you (by the way, if they are rubbing each other they're probably gay). If they do touch you tell your coach or principle. But i have the same problem, sometimes i get a ***** from watching the other guys fool around naked, but its natural. And if it does happen, then show it off. Nothing's better than all the guys knowing you have a huge wang
2007-01-26 14:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
REAL ANSWER HERE:
Unfortunately, there is a real dilemma here.
Your school forces showers on you guys which really isn't fair. I have a few questions for you in order to provide a solid answer and what I think will help other readers/responders:
- How old are you?
Age is important here. If you're between 10 and 14, it could be experimentation. WHICH IS NORMAL. The act of someone ANYONE touching your balls will arouse you regardless if your bi, gay or straight. That's just the way it is. Similar to how when the wind blows and a boy might get hard. You are in a VERY difficult stage in life that will start you down the path of control over your body. I know women who masterbate to other women but are not gay only because the thought that women know what women want. The SAME applies to men regardless of how many of you might deny it. It's ok to deny it because you're not gay. That's not the point. The point is that it's someone who knows EXACTLY where you like to be touched.
- If you feel threatened or feel like they're trying to touch you and they're older/bigger than you, talk to the school nurse or counselor. If they're your age, younger, or smaller, just tell them you're not like "that" and be cool. Unfortunately in the life we're in now, men and woman, boys and girls must be prepared to stave off advances from same sex. And you can show your maturity by simply blowing it off. (unless you feel threatened).
- If they still bother you, go to your parents and get a waiver to not take showers. Be careful not to call out the boys touching each other. (unless they're threatening you). You never know what kind of home life they have. One of the largest suicide groups are those of bi and gay children between the ages of 10 and 16. Be kind to humans, act humanely.
Anyway, I hope to hear back from you on the questions and hope anyone else here will take his comments seriously to heart. I hope someone who's been through this can respond to give him another perspective.
xxoo
M
2007-01-26 14:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by meegan 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, i must agree with you. it is rather never-racking. i have had to go though that. i found thinking of class, homework, a video game etc. (something you like, but not LIKE) if someone touch's you..just say dude don't do that...or something that fits you...i don't know. but the getting "hard" well, bi is a possibility, but who knows. i don't think it is right, i think there should be showers for one person at a time, and a teacher in there to make sure nothing bad happens...
but about the touching, and perverted. there guys, with teens. it is natural. try it once just go in there, relax think about homework, if someone start....well you know. try to finish up fast, and get out, and get dressed to hide. but never suppress it. or it might come out at the wrong time...
( and please dont laugh at this. it is something that should be taken serious)
2007-01-26 17:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by someone silly ^.^ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mind getting all rattled, younger brother. Your reponse to what you're seeing is perfectly normal. It's up to you whether you want to join in or not - and don't let anyone pressure you. All this kind of stuff is just young dudes being young dudes. It really doesn't mean all that much. It doesn't mean you or the others are gay or bi; but it does have a lot to say about being normal. Chill out, dude. Everything's gonna be fine.
2007-01-26 15:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never seen any guy touch another guy's balls, but there are a few guys I know who masturbate while in the shower. Some of this is 'normal', but I personally think it's disgusting. Just get in there, do your business and get out. Stay focused on getting dressed and leave.
2007-01-26 15:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by (R) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, I've been out of high school for over 30 years, but I never saw guys touch each other or rub each other balls while showering after P.E. Have things really changed that much? I think you're full of ****.
2007-01-26 14:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You have to answer that question. I hate to say it, but from what your saying, I would say you could be bi. As for the shower part. Just let them be pervs. There just having fun(being fruity). Take a showe once and seek the best of it. If anything bad happens, try to talk to your counsiler or gym teacher. Hope this helps.
2007-01-26 14:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by GO BENGALS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this dosent mean your gay or bi it sounds like your class mates might be though and hey if you get hard around other guys dont worry about it its normal but if your touched on your member by a class mate or any one that makes you feel uncomfortable tell your teacher .councler .parents you dont have to put up with that
thanks for haveing respect for your self
2007-01-26 15:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether you are straight gay or bi is not the issue
noone should be touching your or anyone elses genitals while at school. It is not proper and if they are trying to pressure you into joining in or touching with out your okay that is sexual harrassment. Tell the coach or someone in authority at school or tell your parents and let them deal with the school.
2007-01-26 14:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
firs toff your not bi. it happens to all males...i dont know why or what it is. its ok though...other than that i cant give much advice. its kinda weird for them to be toucing eachother in the shower though i recomend going to a teacher of some sort or getting an excuse slip. if nothing else sue the school for sexual-sometihngoranother lol
2007-01-26 14:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋