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I've been married to a Nigerian man for almost 3 years now and I don't think it's ever gonna get better. We have 2 beautiful daughters now and the thing is that he doesn't even live with us right now. He moved 3 hrs away to try and make a better life for us but it's almost been a year since he moved and nothing is better exept for the fact that he's never home. He has his own apartment and it's really nicely decorated. He gets angry at me when I ask him to come home. When I ask him when we will be living together, he can't give me an answer. I think that he cheats on me because some nights he doesn't go home. It's a really complicated situation and if it wasn't for the girls we probably wouldn't be together because I can't live the way we have been. Please help. Are all Nigerian men the same?? Did he just marry for his citizenship?? I'm Canadian so I'm starting to wonder??

2007-01-26 14:34:36 · 9 answers · asked by Aimee B 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

9 answers

It doesn't sound like much of a marriage to me. You don't say if he supports your and your children. I don't think you should try to generalise about the nature of Nigerian or men from anywhere else. In all countries there are good men and excuse the term Bast***s - It sounds like he has his citizenship and is having a wonderful time. You need to take some action and tell him he either gets himself home or you want to finish it. Gosh you're running 2 households this can't be getting you a better life.

2007-01-26 14:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0 0

Never put a label on any group of people because that makes you narrow-minded....and besides what difference will it make what Nigerian men do. You're married to one Nigerian man.

I would suggest you start divorce proceedings and file for child support.

This is not a marriage....and you and your daughters deserve better.

2007-01-26 22:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1 0

I do not think this has anything to do with being Nigerian. I think it has everything to do with being foolish, which can show up in any race at any time. I would suggest that you find a woman to talk to in a church near you. Contact the minister of a church and tell him you want to talk to a woman for some counsel about a troublesome marriage. Most will gladly help you.

2007-01-26 22:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

That's like asking if all white men are the same, or all Hispanic men or Asian men. No man is the same, with perhaps this exception: one cheater is like any other cheater; one abuser or controller is like another. THESE type of men (and women, for that matter) are the same. Nobody can be classified really by their nationality or race - it's their character that classifies them, and it sounds like your husband is in the wrong class. You deserve better than that - so do your kids. I wish you the best.

2007-01-26 22:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0 0

Racial views shud be avoided. The very idea of the couple deciding to separate for better tomorrow leads to these problems particularly when the man/woman is sexually very active.

2007-01-26 22:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

What's done is done. He has decided he doesn't want to be with you. Divorce this no good cheater and build a life for you and your daughters. One day you will find a man who will treat you with respect.

2007-01-26 23:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0 0

aren't ALL men the same? doesn't sound too good. I would give him one last chance and then end it. while kids are a huge reason to try to work it out, its not healthy for anyone if you aren't really happy. good luck.

2007-01-26 22:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 0 0

Divorce him.

2007-01-26 22:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0 0

??? ~_~ YOU WASTE MY TIME!!!

2007-01-26 22:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by littlemissflamer 3 · 0 1

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