why does it seem i choose the wrong people to be friends with.
1)i've known this kid for 4 years, and the other day he stole my credit card and emptied my account, 4 years down the drain....
2)another friend just doesnt want to hang out with me anymore. he use to sleep over my house about thrice a week. now he has better things to do. i've tried talking to him...
3)my best friend from elementary school stopped hanging out with me when we went to different middle schools...
4)and my all-time best friend from childhood moved when i was about 9 years old...
All these people called me their best friend...
am i doomed to remain bestfriendless for the rest of my life?
2007-01-26 14:08:04 · 3 answers · asked by J J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No human is doomed to be bestfriendless for the rest of their life. This includes you.
The path each of us takes is based upon choices. We all make both good and bad ones. Perhaps these should be called "helpful choices" and "not so helpful". To understand the difference, we might need to review our past. This is why humans have memories of the past. To help us make better choices.
You also need to be reminded that sometimes things happen that are beyond our control. We find ourselves in situations that we did not create and do not like. This is life, but it is not always our fault. When this happens we need to remember not to take things so personally.
I am a hermit by nature and often go for weeks or even months between visiting or being visited by a good friend. Some people are very social and need to friends much more often, even every day. I never feel lonely, even when alone. If you feel different, then that is an indication that you need to do something about this.
Before running out to make friends with someone else, first get to know yourself and who you really are and what you really want. You must learn to like yourself before anyone can like you. If you find yourself alone, first deal with yourself. Get help if you think that you need help. You might find that writing a journal is a good place to start.
2007-01-27 19:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 7 · 16⤊ 1⤋
Dear J.J.
Nothing is permanent, Change is the Law of life.
But there is one thing that can remain permanent, i.e. friendship.
It is very good that atleast 4 people in ur life described u as a best friend.
The question is, how can u choose a person, with whom u can have permanent friendship.??
friendship is just a relation wherin people share a mutual trust.
If that trust is broken then even the long lasting friendships break.
the equation of trust changes according to various situations of life.
If u understand ur friends situation and can make him/her understand that u'll be there for him even such situations, he'll never break friendship with u.
My idea is to change ur self according to ur friends situation and he'll do the same for u and he will never mention of leaving u.
2007-01-28 04:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by Michael 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. You will learn from your mistakes. Good luck.
2007-01-26 22:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋