Husband cheated n hes asking for a second chance don't no if i should forgive him 16yrs of married 2 kids?

Answer 1

Was it an affair that lasted or a one night stand? Regardless I am sure you are hurt. Can you forgive him? Or will you throw it in his face for the rest of your married life together? Do you and he want to make your marriage work? Don't stay together for the kids but only if that is what you two both want. You need to make yourselves happy. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well if you can forgive him that would be great for the kids sake. But can you and let it go? 16 years is a long time to make any hasty dicisions. Have you asked him why he cheated. And if you forgive him that there won't be a second time. It is this one chance only?. Sometimes I think that after people are married for so long that things start looking better outside the marriage than they really are and they find that out once they have cheated. In a lot of cases thats all it takes. Then you have those assholes that have cheated the whole time and get caught and then continue. I think your smart to think about it. It is very tramatic to you and your kids to get a divorce.

Answer 3

Because of the history and children I would give him a second chance but only a second chance. u should tell him he has to earn the trust back. If you do decide to take another chance you have to forgive him first if not u will be throwing it in his face when you get into an arguement. Fiirst you really need some time alone away from him so you can really make the right decision.

Answer 4

Only you know how you feel about that. If you think you do, have a good talk to him, to find out why he did that and why does he want a new chance, if you think he is being honest and sincere you could give him a second chance, because every one makes mistakes and love is also forgiveness. I have a friend who cheated on her husband not only once, but three times, her husband found out and was decided to get divorce. She cried and told him she loved him and he forgave her, until this day they are together and are happy.

Answer 5

Look, if you still love your husband even though he has broken the sacred vows of marriage, then stay with him. However, if my husband ever cheated on me, I would pack my bags and take my children with me. " Once a cheater, always a cheater." You do what is best for you. However, if I were you, I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life worrying if my husband has slept with another woman. Also, if you do forgive him, don't let him think all is swell againn. He'll get too cocky, and he'll believe that he can cheat again and again and you'll just take him back! agai.

Answer 6

No. If he cheats once and you take him back, he'll see that as him getting away with it and do it again. Basically he would be because he didn't lose a thing by breaking his vows. I'm sure your kids would rather see you alone with self respect then with him and being cheated on left & right.

I say this for two reasons. I took back a cheating ex and he kept flip flopping. He couldn't get over the fact that his cheating changed our relationship and that I didn't act the same. I didn't because he was a liar and a cheater. He messed up & couldn't deal with it and cheated again and came back begging again. I finally just dropped him. My mom also took my dad back after he cheated on her. 10 years later, he cheated again because he couldn't get over the fact that he messed up the relationship either. Cheaters are selfish by nature. They screw everything up with their own selfish behavior and then expect nothing to change. Then they get mad because nothing is the same and cheat again. It's a stupid cycle. It's better to get out now then go through it again. He will do it again. It's not a question of 'if', it's a question of 'when'. It's time for you to look out for #1 and tell him to go back to his little girlfriend. Good luck!

Answer 7

I'm all about making marriage work, especially when there are children involved. However, when someone has cheated, it's so hard to forget that. If you really, truely feel that he will never go back to his old ways, then grant him forgiveness. I would give him an absolute tongue lashing first and swear that if he ever, EVER did that to you again.... you'll.... I don't know, but it won't be good! But if you love him and he loves you and it feels right, then do it! If you don't love or trust him anymore, then don't!

Answer 8

look any one can give you a device a bout this but it be up you . but i say no be cause he just do it a gain . if he cared a bout you and his kids he never had cheated on you in the first place.buy the way he will tell you any thing you want to hear just so you don,t kick him out . why would you want him back any way .ask your self this can you for give him and really ever trust him a gain. you will all ways wonder what his doing when you are not with him.is this what you want ? no matter what happens you will haveyour kids and to me thats what more importent.any way good luck

Answer 9

Nobody here knows you (most likley),your marriage,your husband,kids.Anything so it isn't a good idea to make such a big life decision off answers you get on yahoo!answers don't even take sugestions.Just go somewhere you can think and go over the situation in your head think about if you think he would do this again,if he has been a good father to your children and make a decision.

Answer 10

Well I guess that all depends on how well you can get over the affair. Most men and women can't get over an affair and just end up not ever trusting their spouse and always fighting over the affair. Ask your self seriously can you completely forgive and forget and trust him again. If you can't I wouldn't take him back. If you can then by all means give it another shot and cross your fingers he doesn't do it again.