She holds my hand after hand shake, won't let it go easily, kissed my on cheek, hugs me really hard, puts her hand on my thigh, accidently brushes her breasts against me. Difficult to say no. But I am an immigrant no divorce in our culture,. I know right thing to do but it is very hard, I am sure it must have happened to other guys or gals. Any support suggestions, etc. Thanks.
2007-01-26 13:41:54 · 22 answers · asked by rifle1111 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hold true to your convictions and resist.
2007-01-26 14:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Marsha B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is that you are married. It's really not ok to want to give in to what's going on. In most cultures, divorces are frowned upon, and its really breaking that commitment to someone. Just think of how much you'll hurt your wife! Do you really hate her that much?
Let this person know that you are married, and not interested in cheating. If she isn't taking hints, tell her point blank. If your marriage is not going so great to the point you are thinking about cheating, maybe it's time for you to get some councelling with your wife so that instead of creating more issues, you can resolve some and have a happy life together with her.
Good luck
2007-01-26 13:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by kswildangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never said that you love your wife, only no divorce
in our culture, well in the marriage the culture is no divor-
ce if at all possible, so be a man and it's very easy to put
these women in their place as a gentleman, I have done
it a few times as all I say is I am married, I love my wife
and I don't need anyone else thank you . There see how
easy that was.
2007-01-26 20:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, dont put yourself in that situation where she can touch your thigh, or kiss your check..etc.
Dont do it...You could lose your wife forever and that is not worth a few moments with this other woman.
And...if this woman is doing this, and she knows you are married, she doesnt really like you, she has no respect for you. Would you want to end up being with her, if your marriage broke up over her..She would do the same thing to you someday...You could never trust a woman like this...
Dont do it, tell her your happy, Go home and rekindle the spark with your wife.
2007-01-26 13:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by ~Annette~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to try an avoid her, because what if she does that while your wife is around, then you have to explain to her about why this woman is coming on to you like that. if you are married and don't believe in divorce then i suggest you let this woman know that you feel uncomfortable with her doing all those things and that you are married and would appreciate it if she would stop. now as far as you liking her back, you might need a reality check, because what would happen if you cheated on your wife knowing you are from a different culture?
2007-01-26 13:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. Don't cheat. This female is just way out of line. This is called sexual harrasment. There is a law against being sexually harrased in the work place. And she has taken it far beyond that. You need to go to your boss and tell him of the problem. Just remember that you are a good man because you are not going to fall for her games. If I were you go get it documented. Women like this when rejected may turn and say that you have been coming on to her. And if you do not have it on record with your boss then its her word against yours.
2007-01-26 14:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time she gets near you, turn around and walk away with
no response. If it continues, tell her you were thinking of charging
her with sexual harrassment (especially if it's in the work place)
and if all this doesn't work, immediately start telling her what a
wonderful connection you and your wife have in bed, where you
met, how you fell in love, what she cooked you for dinner last
night, what you gave her on her birthday and at the end, cross
yourself in front of her, look up to God and thank him for putting
your wife on this earth. That ought to put her tail between her
legs while she whimpers off.
2007-01-26 14:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no. She may be the first, but she wont be the last. Respect your marriage. The results of giving in just once will last 15 mintues with her and a lifetime with your wife. Learn to bounce your eyes. Dont look at her, touch her, or be around her by yourself.
2007-01-26 13:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysloved4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably not the only one she does that to.Check around,ask some of the other guys if she has done this to them.If she has, that will tell you what kind of person she is.If not,you need to stop shaking her hand,no hugs,don't let her get close to you.Gently push her away,and tell her this has to stop.Yes it is hard,but you do have a choice.
2007-01-26 13:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no and that you are not interested in her and doing anything with her.... Tell her that you really love your wife and you would never do this to her or to your marriage for that matter. Run dont walk away from this woman who is trying to ruin you and your marriage. Do you really love your wife and if you do then why would you even think or be tempted to do this?
2007-01-26 13:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with this dilemma is to never put yourself into a situation where you are alone with this woman. If that doesn't work tell her that you are married and you do not appreciate her advances. If you work with this lady and all these measures fell then talk to your boss about it.
2007-01-26 13:46:42 · answer #11 · answered by goodkittyasb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋