my mom left, how can i get her to come back home? she said that she is never coming back!?

Question

my mom left my dad for my dads best friend phillip, he is a family wrecker! i was sitting on the couch pretending to be asleep so my mom would shut up for telling me to go to bed (i dont sleep in my bed, i sleep on the couch) but anyway, she dont love my dad anymore i guess so she said that she was never coming home to us. my dad keeps saying that she is on drugs but i dont think that she is just for the way she acts. do you think that she still loves me? im only 12 years old, how much more can i take!!!!!!!! i love her but half of the time i dont think that she loves me anymore but thats when she is around phillip or her crack-head friends stacy, jimmy, tracy, or anyone else on drugs. what do you think?

Answer 1

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Stay strong, hon.

Try to use them as a bad example.

Oh, and if that's your real name, take it off your profile.

Answer 2

Your mom is going through changes, she is older now. You might understand this when you get older; however, you are a smart girl. I don't think that she stopped loving your or anything, I just think that she needs some time alone. You will make up your own mind as time goes by. Remember that you are on earth for a reason. I don't know if you believe in God, but I know that he made you for a reason. Think about your future, focus on what you want to do as an adult. Aim at the stars, because you are still young. Learn from this experience. You obviously don't like her friends, then learn from it. Be selective with your friends. You deserve better, and you can make things better if you work hard. Did she said she wasn't coming home to both of you or just your dad? Love doesn't stop like that, especially a mother's love for her child. Give it time, pray. God might not give you an answer right away, but he will show you the way.

Answer 3

Dear, I am so sorry to hear this. As a father of a 13 yo and a 19 yo, let me say that your mom loves you more than anything. If she is on drugs, then the drugs have affected her mind. If not, then she is just being selfish and thinking about the momentary pleasure she is getting from this guy.

Sometimes when we are angry at someone that we have loved in the past, and we feel as though we have been betrayed by them, we say and do things out of character. This is the hurt talking, not your mom. I know that it is hard to do, but there is really nothing that you can do right now. Tensions and tempers are too high. Perhaps in a few days the adults in your life will come to their senses and try to work things out. If not, always remember that your mom and dad love you more than life itself.
There are people who care for you and about you. And remember, you have done nothing wrong that would warrant this behavior.

I don't know if you are religious, but I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 4

Oh my... I feel for you! My Mom and Dad divorced when I was nine. And even now I still live in part of a fantasy world thinking they can get back together. But the truth is that even if Phillip was the problem, your parents marriage was probably not going great and that was just the last straw. My heart really hurts for you. Blessings. And remember that you're just a kid and you're not responsible and please remember that your Mom and Dad love you separately and whatever you do don't get in the middle. I know it's tough. Please remember, you'll get through it. And that it's not your fault. And probably that your parents won't get back together. It doesn't happen, usually. I have to stop living in a fantasy world. So do you, but it's going to take time. I'm still not comfortable with my Mom dating other guys and it's been 4 almost 5 years. So blessings. And I'm not sure what else to say.

Blessings,
Karina

Answer 5

I think that your mother has some issues that she needs to deal with. If she is using drugs, or treating you badly, it is better that she is not in the home. If she is wanting to be around you, you should encourage her to seek councelling.
Her leaving your dad for another man is not your fault. It's hard to understand until you are older, but there is a lot going on in a relationship for your parents that you probably don't know about, and that is something they have to deal with, and should never involve you ~ that's not fair.
Your concern is most likely if she is going to abandon you. I don't think that there is any question that she still loves you. It's next to impossible to not love your child even if you aren't there with them. More often than not, the child feels abandoned because the parent is not physically there anymore. Don't sweat it, you seem like an intelligent person, and just let her show you how much she cares! Drugs do crazy things to people, and I can't tell you if that's what's causing her behavior, but your Dad should not tell you those things. Just stick up for yourself if he ever says bad things about her and let him know that it's still your mom. He needs to understand that even though he is hurting, saying those things will hurt you too.
Good luck, and you might check out some teen forums and talk to other kids that might be going through the same thing!
If not, you might talk to a councellor who can better help you understand what is going on, and recognize the truths about it instead of only hearing one side!
Take care!

Answer 6

I can kind of relate, my dad left when I was 3-months i don't even know what he looks like. Your mom probably does love you but she chooses things over what is important. Just because she loves you does not mean she is good for you. One day you will realize that what she has done is wrong and you don't need her. Don't blame everything on Phillip. He is very wrong for what he did but he didn't force your mother to leave. She made that decision on her own. I don't think your dad lied to you, your mom probably is on drugs and if so you shouldn't be near her for now. No real mom would leave her own child. You are are young and will realize these things in just a few years. And please take your last name name off here, THAT IS EXTREMELY DANGEROUS. I'm 15 and I still stay strong. You can to.

Answer 7

It sounds like your mom has some problems, and she isn't being a parent if she is doing all that stuff. She needs to be taking care of you, and it sounds like she isn't. Maybe your mom just needs a break from everything that is going on in her life. I would talk to your dad about this. Tell him how you feel, I'm sure he will understand, because it sounds like your Dad is doing a good job being a parent and loving you.

If her friends are doing drugs, she is most likely doing drugs too. This sounds awful, but I think it might be a good thing if your mom leaves for a while, because if she is doing drugs and hanging around strange people, it isn't good for you. Your mom needs some help, and maybe your dad can try to get her some help. Talk to him about that. Maybe he has already tried?

You should also talk to a counselor at school, they are really nice and helpful when you are having problems at home. Your mom most likely does love you, but right now she is on drugs and when people are on drugs they are different people than they used to be. Maybe you could say a prayer for your mom.

- I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 8

I am sorry. Look, your mother gave birth to you. There is a deep connection there. Time will tell what will happen. Your mother is troubled and many people seek drugs to ease their troubles. I know this hurts you and I feel for you. Life is strange, but you have to realize that what is going on with your mom right now is that her troubles outweigh yours. Look to your dad. He is the one with the power to make things right. If that proves to be impossible, then realize that your bond with your dad will become very strong because of this. I know it is hard for someone of your age. Just realize that sometimes people's troubles get in the way of a happy family. Your mother loves you. How could she not? Just hang in there. You'll see. Things change, and change can be a good thing. I hope you grow up to be a beautiful person. Drug addictions, as horrible as they are, tend to resolve too. People can stop their addictions or die. Most of the time, people don't die, they overcome their addictions. Once that happens, things will be different. Just realize that it is quite possible your mom will come back to you and your dad, but give it time.

Answer 9

Sorry to hear about this. I'm sure your mom loves you. Only she can decide to come back, so you'll have to respect her decision. You won't be able to talk her into it. Maybe she's on drugs, maybe she's not. She is still your mom, so love her and treat her good. Don't worry about it.......it'll be different at home....but you've got to be strong now because I'm sure you're not the only one that is hurt by this. If you have sisters or brothers, I'm sure they're hurt and so is your dad. So be strong for everyone, stay in school, and be a good example if you have brothers and sisters. Live life one day at a time. I'll all be good in the longrun, I assure you of this. Have a great day.

Answer 10

I agree with your Dad, if she is hanging around crackheads etc, then she is most probably on drugs herself. The only way that she might come back is when she hits bottom. Hopefully for you she will find out that you are more inportant to her than drugs are. Drugs rule people lives, it is sad to see this stuff, but I see it all the time as my husband is a manager at apartments where we live. One of the tenants here stole our car so she could get some drugs for it. We got it back in a couple of days thanks to our research and found it before the police did. We found it parked in a crackhead neighbor hood. Just keep your mom in your prayers and try to help if you can when you do talk to her on the phone etc.

Answer 11

Well, first of all. Do not ever let this matter ruin your life. Seeing how your childhood is little messed up, you should not let the important things slip away such as school. Your goal should be to do good in life and make sure this does happen to you when you grow up. All I can say is that nothing is more important than have a good life, and things like this can ruin it. So dont forget about school because im sure you mom and your still love you very much.