What do you guys think of marriage?
2007-01-26 13:27:43 · 13 answers · asked by spirit2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh Yea and BORING!
2007-01-26 13:48:59 · update #1
This answer will be so far at the back that no one will ever read it. Nevertheless, I am going to try to give you a profound answer. Here it goes...
I am pleased to be able to say something good about marriage. My wife is my best friend in this world. I worship that water she walks on. It is entirely possible that she is the most cherished woman west of the Mississippi. She is everything I ever wanted and one hell of a lot more than I deserve.
I think those people who will tell you that they are anguished, stressed and lonely are frequently (not always but more often than should be the case) self identifying as lazy ba$tards. If they spent as much time listening to their wife as they do complaining about her, their marriage would be a good one. If they could be bothered once or twice a day to express genuine appreciation for their wife, they would find themselves married to a much more motivated partner. If they would tell their wife that they love her and that she's as pretty as the day they met (maybe more so) a few times a day they'd be in a totally different kind of relationship.
My guess is that the people who are telling you how crappy their marriage is are really telling you what a crappy spouse they are. Rather than complaining to you, he or she could be getting off their dead @ss and taking some personal initiative to make things better. At the end of the day, it's easier to be negative.
Now if you'll excuse me, I have to go pay my wife a compliment!
2007-01-26 13:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by Goofy Foot 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think 50% of them end in divorce and 80% of the remaining 50% are miserable nonetheless.
All things considered, the chances of finding the right person after you know what you want and are ready aren't that good. I sometimes wish I knew what I know now much younger so I'd have more time to find the right one. I am not at all confident I will ever marry at this point. It may be my fate to only have more casual committed relationships with people who are not ready now that I am. I don't get sad about that though. Que sara, sara. Better than being divorced or married and miserable.
Regarding Jenny's comment on having classes on relationship skills, etc above, I wholeheartedly agree. Unfortunately, the last time I suggested that here on Yahoo Answers, people blasted me saying that its not the Government's job, blah, blah, and in a country where the divorce rate is above 50%, and most marriages are miserable, it's almost nobody's job apparently, and nobody wants to fix it.
2007-01-26 13:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is what you make it. Many people do not take chosing a mate seriously and make bad choices. Some have no idea what marriage is supposed to be. When you make a committment for a lifetime you had better take some time to make sure of a few things before you say I do. The more time and thought before the less trouble and stress afterward
2007-01-26 13:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Painful-stressful-lonely
2007-01-26 14:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by David 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on how each individual takes it. marriage is not an easy thing. it doesnt matter that the couple is totally in love. it still requires a lot of work. both have to put in efforts to be together and actually enjoy that time with one another. u have to make sacrifices and give your 100%. that is what makes a successful marriage. any relationship requires a lil adjusting, trust, genuine affection for each other and a lot of love. if you have a balance of all this then a marriage can be very fulfilling and you will be actually very happy to go back home to your loved one everyday :).
2007-01-26 13:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by sim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married once and once only (married at age 32.. I'm 47 now) Umm yeah.. I could have skipped it (and will now in fact and have)
I like to think i learn from STUPID mistakes.. and that was the worst mistake i ever made in my life.. and I'm not even prone to mistakes...
Marriage is a joke IMO... I took it seriously.. SHE didnt.. ( i sholdda known and I kindda sorta did it was her 2nd) I have no use for it I learned the lesson (Divorce rate at 52% Oh please argue with me)
There were never any suprises with me.. I'm notorious about being up front to the point of being rude even.. The other? Umm not so much... would i get married again> Oh maybe.. but you better be a rich ***** and have a large trust fund and be willing to sign a major prenup.. otherwise.. NOPE...
2007-01-26 13:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I agree with that description. It doesnt have to be that way but many many times it does end up there. Once you throw in money and obligations and work and kids a marriage becomes much more then a romance and about love it becomes like a job and the two of you are the CEO's and it can cause a lot of conflict and then resentment, hence the loneliness. Its a lot of work. Myself and my husband have good days and bad days, good years and bad years.
They should have classes on how to pick a mate.it definately would have been more useful to me then algebra was...!
2007-01-26 13:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any time you put a man and a woman together things are gonna get ugly... lol! But, there are also very meaningful and beautiful times as well. Marriage, when it is with someone you are highly compatible with and very attracted to, can be wonderful. If you get lazy and don't work at making it a good place to be, it won't be so wonderful anymore. You also have to accept the fact that there will be good times and bad times. When someone inspires you to love so deeply, they can also inspire you to hate so deeply because you become vulnerable to them emotionally. You also have to learn that not all disagreements will be worked out, there are many times you just have to agree to disagree on things. I could go on for a very long time on this topic......
2007-01-26 13:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think the laws ought to be changed to make it very difficult to get married. Marriage takes the commitment of both partners. Then I think the laws ought to make it really easy to dissolve the bonds of matrimony IF after a good period of time and some marriage counselling, the two can't finally agree to each other's ways.
2007-01-26 13:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by MJ D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very much so, anybody who has been 'out there' will agree with Greg. It's like navigating a minefield, and to make it worse, the person you love the most in the world will likely betray you, exploit you for financial gain, and use your children against you to extort money in a divorce settlement. Marriage leaves you to believe that you can't ever completely trust anyone at anytime.
2007-01-26 13:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋