My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We live together and have a beautiful 6 week old son. We now that we will get married, but it's not set yet. He has been looking at rings for me, but can't really afford to buy one (whole baby needs stuff situation). I was wondering if I could buy him a ring and ask him officially to marry me. Would it injure his pride?
We are adults btw (27 @ 30)
2007-01-26 13:26:59 · 14 answers · asked by whitetigerlover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just want to clarify, he makes enough to take care of us, there just isn't much left over. It's not like he is a non-working shlub that doesn't do anything. He works very hard.
2007-01-26 14:00:04 · update #1
Yeah it would hurt his pride. I would say get married without the rings for now and then get them later. Or wait until he can afford it. But you don't want to make him feel bad that he can't get you something like that.
2007-01-26 13:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well this is really up to you. you could ask him if you wanted, however I personally would not. Ok, so you don't have a lot of money for a ring...here is the deal. the next time marriage comes up and lack of money for a ring, you mention that places like walmart have very cheap rings and that anything is fine because all you want is to be with him, so having a big expensive ring isn't an issue. If he feels bad, let him know you can always upgrade later on when you can afford it. See what he says. Make sure he's not just trying to put off getting married, that's not cool when you have a child together. and when it comes time for the wedding, you can keep that cheap as well. go to city hall or have a small gathering somewhere. good luck!
2007-01-30 19:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to sugar coat your saturation, so please do not get offended what I am about to say. Why would you want to get married to someone that cannot afford to buy you a ring! You have made a mistake already by bringing a child into the world with a father that cannot support the family. My advice to you is to wait a while until both of you can get it financially together; your first priority is the baby not your ring or a wedding.
2007-01-26 21:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybie u could buy a set of wedding rings...set the mood and say "hunnie, our lives are have been blessed with our new son to carry on your name and I hope that you want to make our family as official as I do: ...As you say those words, take both rings out and hand him yours and you hold his then exchange rings. Make sure he knows which one is for you a tag or somthing to identify the rings.... He won't feel left out and his pride is kept in tact......man ha I wish I had done that one ...shoot maybie I wouldn't have waited for 10 years to marry the man I love....oh well it all worked out anywat been married 17 years...Good Luck ans You GO Girl!
2007-01-26 21:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweeheart, that is nice and thoughtful of you, but don't rush the situation. for the simple fact he is looking for the perfect ring and he wants it to be flawless. he has a point about thinking about the baby, you just had him 6 weeks ago and now you want to get married. one thing at a time. let him decide on when he will get the ring and you really don't know whats in his pocket. you have to think like him. when he does find that one perfect ring and he can afford it, trust me you will know it was worth the wait.
2007-01-26 21:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think that it would injure his pride, I mean you guys have a son together. I think that you should ask him just let him know you love him you wanna be with him and you cant picture your life without him then ask him.....The worst thing he can do is say no im not ready...... sweet you should go for it....
2007-01-28 21:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by heather d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be impatient. Just wait for him to ask you.
Just tell in not so many words that u dont want an expensive ring. a simple one will be enough considering the situation. (I am hoping thats what u care for more than an expensive ring)
2007-01-26 21:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to ask him officially. It is implied that he wants to marry you. Just get the ring and get on with the marriage.
2007-01-27 03:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just bring up in conversation that"when we get married I just want a plain gold band" so it makes it easier on him. you can always add a nice anniversery band later. thats what me and my hubby did, because of the whole baby needs stuff situation. good luck
2007-01-26 21:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by pooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would injure his pride. It is very assumptive of a woman to ask a man to marry her. Give him some time and he will ask you.
2007-01-26 21:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋