this is driving me crazy... my girlf friend of almost 2 years keeps our relationship a secret from ALL her friends, family and everyone we used to work with. (I used to work for the same comopany... not anymore tho). i have never met any of her friends. I met her mother once.. only becuase she come into work one day... and her father. i'm never included with her plains to do anything. weather its with friends or family. if we are not togheter and i text her, asking what she's upto? i get "none of ur business" or if i ask if she's coming over i get "i dont know will let you know" there is NO communacation what so ever. but i'm more interested to know why its a secret... i tried calling her all week and everytime she answerred the phone, she told me she was busy signing papers for a new car she was buying... then tonight i see her for a hour or so... and she's driving her old car still. hides her phone when she sleeps over! i'm 32 and she's 22 what should i do?
2007-01-26 13:25:30 · 16 answers · asked by morrison5891 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your relationship should be NO secret unless she has something to hide, and even then thats not good. I think you should find someone who wants to show you off to everyone! Proudly!
2007-01-26 13:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is definitely a problem here on her part. A problem that you need to get to the bottom of. The only way you are going to do this is by coming straight out and ask...and dont give in until you get an answer you can live with. Maybe her friends and family are saying negative things about you...she still wants to be with you...so in many ways she is hiding you. If she really loves you...she wouldnt care what others think. This is not something I would let go. Get to the bottom of it. FIND OUT!
2007-01-26 13:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is probably one of the factor in your relationship. I have the same situation before, but mine is the opposite the guy is the one who wants to keep it just between us. I never mind that he was older but for him I was just a baby. In your case she's probably embarrass to let everyone know she has an older boyfriend, or maybe your not the only boyfriend she has.
Whether you keep your relationship going or not it's never going to work. She doesn't seem to care much about you. Would you rather be in a relationship that stresses you out or would you rather be single for a while and wait for someone who will not keep your relationship a secret and care for you much more than your current one is doing?
Well, I wish you good luck in your relationship.....
P.S. Did you ever talk to her about how you feel about this situation?
2007-01-26 14:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by linzee604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, as much as she may mean to you, this relationship isn't worth the mystery that she puts you through. To become close to someone you have to get to know more than just them, you have to get to know the people in their lives. What is up with this "none of your business" crap? Hun, that's where you draw the line. My boyfriend always calls me up just to say "hey babe, I'm thinking of you" and I'll always tell him where I'm at and either talk or tell him I'll call him at a specific time when I'm not busy. And she doesn't make you part of her plans? Doesn't that hurt you? She should WANT you to be part of her life. If I'm just hanging out with my friends or going to a social event, you can bet that my boyfriend will be by my side. Maybe she's worried about your age difference...what people will think, if people will think less of her, it's what you'll have when there is such an age difference. If she loves you, wouldn't she be proud to be with you because you're the man that makes her happy? Consider your happiness, you're not going to want to be with someone that can't make you happy and doesn't involve you in their every day life. If you ask me, it's time to ask her these questions. Things can't get worse can they? These things are bothering you...attempt to fix them or they'll get worse.
2007-01-26 13:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well man all i can say is this she not keeping a secert it seems like she not even dating you she just looking for a friend she is treating you really unfairly i know this might not be what you want to hear but now its time to pull yourself together if she not going by the guidelines like a normal couple should do then you should let that relationship go and i promise its a better girl out there that will say yes see that man thats my bf and she will be very protective of you and get jealouse if a girl says hi to you thats what you want but this girl right her seems like she has no time or patients and i say that if she doesn't have that for you then its time to termanite it sorry but this is the truth man i hope it works out for you and you find a better gf good luck on that
2007-01-26 13:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she keep you a secret then you don't need to be with her she up to some thing. you don't see some one that long and don't meet her family. or some one that not right. and if you stay in this kind of relationship.you are crazy becuase she lieing to you about some thing.she living two lifes. two years gone sorry you need to move on.
2007-01-26 13:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she's just keeping you around for something to do when she's got nothing else to do or no one else to be with. Since she keeps you a secret from everyone and won't share her time with you openly,I'd say get out now before you are feeling more hurt.
Do this for yourself more than out of anger about the situation. It really isn't worth spending your time trying to be with someone who only wants to be around you when it's convenient for them. There are plenty of other women out there who would love to have someone in their life to share the daily things and to meet their friends and family.
Good Luck and Best Wishes!
Spirit
2007-01-26 17:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her!You don't deserve that!If she is hiding you from everyone and denying you any information about her life and hiding her phone,come on she is obviously having a dual relationship and you I am sorry to say are the other guy.Just move on you can do better!
2007-01-26 13:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a jerk for telling her that... and still hanging out with those friends. She deserves someone better that will make her feel good about herself and be proud of her, not someone that makes her feel less than. Just my .02
2016-03-29 04:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it obvious? You need to dump this broad and find a lady who will love you and not be having her cake and eating it too.
2007-01-26 13:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋