Why do women when they start dating someone they change who they are for that person. I know a few people and when ever they start dating someone new they acting different & pretend they like something that the person they are with likes. And never before did they give a damn about it. Why do they put on a show to impress someone? Don't you think in the end is the reasons for all the past relationships to fail, is because they couldn't be themselves and pretended to be someone they really weren't?
2007-01-26 13:19:55 · 13 answers · asked by smileygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I love some of the answers. Why can't women just be themselves. But at the same time men do the same. But it just seems that I see more women doing it!! Its probably the reason why so many people now days are divorce. They find the real person later down the road!
2007-01-26 13:36:44 · update #1
By far I am not one to act fake! I enjoy being myself no matter what, and if a man don't like me for me then screw them. I as a women believe to be yourself, I can only remember not being myself was back in high school. But I relized way long ago its best to be yourself, it makes your relationship better with someone because you know they love you for you and not for someone your not. I'm just curious because I see a lot of women and even my own friends doing this and I just don't know what to say to them because I don't want to start a fight.
2007-01-26 13:50:08 · update #2
Yes, because they fear to be themselves. So being the airheaded brainless twits they are, they pretend to be someone else. Eventually they cannot hold it together and the real person comes out. The guy backs off and dumps them, because suddenly he's or she is in relationship with "another person" that he or she didnt' "see" whenthey first met.
2007-01-26 13:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same reason some men act fake to impress a woman: Lack of faith that one's real personality is good enough to seal the deal.
Problem 1: You can't sustain the pretense forever.
Problem 2: What if they're acting fake too? Could be months before your real selves meet?
2007-01-26 13:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those who do this are mainly insecure with themselves. They believe that it's the only way to maintain a guy's interest. It's always better to be upfront from the beginning and not pretend with things that may be important to the guy. If you don't like something, just nicely say so and if you need or want to, give your reason. It's a good way to see what you DO have in common and what you DON'T. Isn't it better to know now than later? Besides, he might respect you more and glad that you have your own mind, opinions and interests.
2007-01-26 13:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are unsure and insecure about who they really are. So, instead, they might conform to something that they think another person thinks they should be. This type of behavior usually indicates immaturity, but it may continue well past an age that is detrimental to the well being and mental health of that person. In short, I guess you could say that some people never "find themselves", thereby ending up wherever the wind happens to blow them. Not healthy at all. If you're speaking of yourself here, don't even consider it. Just be you regardless of the circumstance.
2007-01-26 13:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right, women should not prop their boobs up, they should let em sag. And all that makeup that boosts their self esteem is a no no too. God forbid we should try and improve our appearance with all these 'tricks.' Some women must be pretty good at this deception if they can go from incredibly hot to hippopotamus by just removing some things, wow.
2016-03-16 22:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I really don't know the answer to this question. But I can certainly give you my PERSONAL opinion. I think it's because they are scared that the person will not like them for who they are. They are more concerned about what the other person thinks about then to worry about themselves. They want them to like them - no matter what it takes. They can act the total opposit of what they really are just to impress someone. I've gone through this more than once and I realized that all I have to do is be myself for the person to like me. From my experience, they like you better when you are yourself.
2007-01-26 13:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by Katie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have our insecurities. So pretending we are someone we are not is an attempt at hiding those. But, in the long run they will figure out who we are and if it isn't the person they grew to like/love the relationship could be destined for doom. Great question. I hope some folks out there will take it to heart. Honesty is best from the very start.
2007-01-26 13:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, men can act to impress a women too.
2007-01-26 13:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are insure with who they are and they want this person to like them. That is why they change. They are also afraid of being themselves BC they might not be liked by the guy at least that is what is in there mind. Tell the person they are doing it.
Good luck.
2007-01-26 13:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by tasha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why, but that is the reason a lot of marriages don't work out. The real them comes out after "I Do". It's better to be yourself and if it doesn't work out, atleast there is no commitment made.
2007-01-26 13:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by JACQUELINE T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋