How can I stop wishing pain and suffering on my ex and his new woman ? It sure is good I don't live near them!
2007-01-26 13:16:51 · 29 answers · asked by Jay Jay 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So far, I have called the IRS on him (he doesn't pay taxes and is self employed, and called the cable company since he has not paid cable in 2 years and has stolen it). Life's a bit** ain't it??
2007-01-26 13:23:50 · update #1
Let me just add that he was very controlling, an alcoholic, and had someone move in very quickly after I moved out.
2007-01-26 13:25:56 · update #2
If he was so controlling and a alcoholic and you left him, then why are you so angry? If you want to stop feeling the pain your feeling then stop inflicting the pain on someone that was not worth having. Be happy you got out and he is someone elses problem. If I were you I would be happy that he has someone else because if he didn't maybe he would be doing mean and nasty things to you. Move on.
2007-01-26 13:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then if he was all of those bad things, then why do you want him to suffer more than he already is and possibly the new woman too. You got out while you did, she might not be that lucky. Wishing pain on anyone, will only back fire. I bet he's still watching his stolen cable and the IRS probably have not bothered him. Chill out, payback is a mother.
2007-01-26 21:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay i know you are hurt and angry but come on......that vindictive crap always,always comes back on you twice im telling you right now, i know too many stories and it always backfires it might be a day or ten years down the road but when it happens you won't remember. I know it feels good at the time but then what. Your trying to find something else,when is it going to stop! Your just showing him that your a bitter, and he's the one moving on. Get your pride and self respect off the floor and move on forget him he made his choice now it is your turn to make yours. In the long run you will see what i mean ......just try it!
2007-01-26 21:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by sirjames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROFLMAO......I dont know how long ya'll have been separated from each other but I want you to know that wishing pain and suffering is a fairly common occurance. I felt the same way for a while, too. When I realized that my anger kept me chained to the DEAD relationship, I was able to start wishing for them what I wanted for myself.....happiness, peace and a chance to get on with my life. Hang in there.....you will feel better after a while....you might consider keeping a journal, expressing ALL of your feelings, including the sadness over the loss of whatever dreams you may have had...its OK to be mad, its OK to cry, its OK to slam the pillows, get more exercise or whatever you usually do to feel good about who you are. It is NOT OK to physically or emotionally hurt them, as badly as we may want to....remember that "Hurt people hurt people"
Hugs
2007-01-26 21:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl, you need to be celebrating!! Someone else got stuck with this sorry so and so. You should be proud of yourself for leaving a situation like that some girls don't and take the mistreatment. Girl you got OUT!!! STOP focusing on him ( hes not worth the energy) and start focusing on yourself so you can break this cycle of meeting guys like this.
2007-01-27 00:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by spirit2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you wish for that on them? Did he do something wrong to you? If so, quit wishing, because what comes around goes around, and he'll get he's in the end. If not then you have to force yourself to move on and live your life and stop worrying about them.
2007-01-26 21:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by smileygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it wrong, its immature! You didnt view those things as a problem when you were with him so why are they a problem now? You need to spend more time focusing your energy on bettering yourself instead of trying o hurt someone else because the old saying is true: WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND.
2007-01-26 21:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by lashcrystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends why he dumped you. It seems like you are a whining shrew and as such, I can only wish your ex the best of luck with his new companion.
Edits: It's all one sided, huh Julie? You like every other woman on Earth has absolutely no faults. It's always the man's fault isn't it? You are a perfect little angel who never nags, never is controlling or manipulative, right? Two sides to every story sweetie.
2007-01-26 21:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Julie,I know its hard but your going to have to accept it. Truthfully the only way to do it is time and acceptance. remember anger is an emotion to so your going to have to rid yourself of all emotions. GO to the gym and take your anger out in a positive way. meet new people, (doesnt always work but its an idea)
~Matt mayz
2007-01-26 21:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a personal thing. Try to forget about them, it's hard but try to wish them luck, small things like that will bring you up. Send his birthday. Just be nice, yes it's hard but try.
It sure will help.
Good luck!!!
2007-01-26 21:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋